General Chat

Just a quick visit to say Hi to everyone. Glad the result of the blood test was good Caz, good to see you on here.
Also good to see David, your brother blaming you is all probably part of his depression, it helps if he doesn't have to blame himself.
Ben, glad you ahve got that sorted in your mind.
Gail if you go on an exercise bike daily you probably get more exercise than I do and I have no excuse.
Nobody should give up medication given by the doctor without the doctors advice.

Exercise,something else I have to bloody well organize.

Just a thought for Benjamin.You would evidently be obsessing over something.What a blessing that you have genealogy to focus on.I would imagine it leaves you to get on with other things unobsessively (if that is a word).

I am going to enjoy one of these beautiful big English Coxes I bought in Lidl today now.Yum yum.

Just a brief note to say hello,
I finally renewed because I was missing the message boards.
Also, to be fair, I couldn't view trees shared with me.
Special thanks to those who said nice things on the board or by PM. I appreciated them.

Previous delete was me. I wanted to change my board name.
David, in my experience anger (irritation) at others is a symptom of a depressed mood. I think your brother needs all the care you can give, even though he seems to be pushing you away.
Ben, I barely comprehend OCD, but I have had some weird thoughts when deeply depressed. Not for many years, thank God and antidepressants.
Patrick raised an interesting topic about Prozac being no better than placebo but has one who worked in the pharma industry for decades I suggest that the real truth is that it works wonderfully for some types of mood disorder and not at all for others.
Also hello to the amazing maximary, purple, sparkling, claddagh, gran of oz and anyone I have forgotten.
Happy face :-)) (with double chin).

Oh Sydneyfellow, it's too late at night/early in the morning, who the devil are you, not in Tasmania eh? I think I might know, you may be the person I was in email contact with, but whoever, welcome back, stick around and keep us in order. I am getting snowed under with communications and not coping well at the mo, lots going on at home and I am not feeling well, everytime I go out I feel sort of lightheaded when I am walking round so am going to the doc to get checked out in case it is to do with my fall.

love to all,

Lizxxx

Its our Colin come back to us. :))

Is muttering to yourself and appearing to be listening to the other end of the conversation a symptom of depression ?

David I think it is called a release of tension. I tend to mutter to myself, or talk to the cats, dog, chickens when something is bothering me.

You have a lot on your plate just now with your brother. If you are worried though, go have a chat with your doctor.

Gail

Hello Sydney fellow are we allowed to use your real name? So pleased that you have returned, you have been missed.

Ann
Glos

While I was in the shower, my dog was barking something terrible, he has been doing this the last few nights and usually after the cats have been fed. I ended up out of the shower (with towel) and turned the spotlight on outside and there was a ferret at my back door. Absolutely the prettiest golden colour I have ever seen. So poor thing is lost but getting well fed.

Gail

Hello everyone. I hope you are all as well as you can be.

Firstly, an apology for my absence... I will hand in a note from my mummy later.
wouldn't that be nice, to speak to my mummy? She has been gone a long time. Bless her.

Eileen. The pictures I was talking of were of you and your family. You looking over a balcony at a beautiful land scape... and one of you and two of your girls in the back of a boat... is was that a balcony too? Some lovely photos of some lovely people looking so happy.

I have not been coming on here much as I am not exactly *tip top * at the minute.
I cannot say that I am depressed, but I have a constant feeling of... foreboding I think!
I am quite a 'laughy' type of person, and still am, but I have this feeling that perhaps I am going to 'pay for my laughter'!
I know that is stupid, but when it comes over me, I can't do anything to help myself.
I used to be that way one time, but the problems and worries WERE THERE to worry about. Now They are not.
I have the normal life everyone has.... a little worry, a little pain.... and a lot of happiness.
I am on tablets anyway. SO.... What is wrong with me?

I don't always feel like coming on here, and I joined a writers group on the site, but just do not have the interest or energy to write anything.

Getting up in the morning is fine.....UNLESS, I have to go somewhere, or do something which involves the outside world.
I have suffered with Agoraphobia very badly, but I did fight back and do very well. Now, it seems to be attacking me again.
Having said that, we (Allan, Tony and I) went out yesterday and had a Haggis dinner with the money Allen's sister sent us for Christmas.
It was lovely, but there was a group of very loud men at the bar. The did not bother us at all, but as the became more and more drunk.... I became more and more tense.

O.M.G.... I'm babbling now.

On a lighter note, I had a phone call on Tuesday night from America. I was so shocked and pleased. It was from a friend I made on GR, who helped me with a search in America. Perhaps some of you may remember her?
Ann Merredith. She is an English woman who married an American and lived over there and was sadly widowed. She woke up on her husbands 50th birthday, turned to hug him and say happy birthday.... and he was gone, died in his sleep.
Her computer broke and she has been trying to save for a new one, but they seem to be so much more expensive over there, and of course she is retired so money will automatically be scarce.

So there you are... in amongst the worry for no good reason, a lovely thing happened to me.
Perhaps I am just a miserable old woman.

Well folks, I think I have eased myself a bit by moaning to you all... lets hope the feeling lasts all day.

To anyone feeling as I am just now, or anyone with troubles, pains, worries.... All my love and I hope all gets better for you.
SEE... I am a miserable old biddy.

Lots of love,
Deanna XXXX

Hi

Yes that latest weird obsession was illogical and implausible. George and George Musgrave were cousins, full stop. End of. OCD get that into your thick head.

Ben

Evening all,

It is still very mild, though due to change in the weekend, snow & sleet is expected, whoopeeee.Back to square one then.

Deanna, those pics were taken in Italy in 2008, one on lake Como and the other on the balcony of the appartment.LONG time ago thus.Funny you should remember them!

So, Sydney Fellow is either David or Colin...which of you have a "happy face with double chin"? Both sound nice.

Liz, there is no ice or snow at the mo, but is due at the weekend.Great, hé?

This afternoon, my grey wheelie bin was actually emptied. Put it out two weeks ago (green and grey are emptied on alternative weeks), it was left with the lid opne, so knew something was wrong...it was still half full.Blast. I normally ask my s.i.l to jump in it so more can be added, but, last time, I had been so stupid as to empty a lot of stuff in without the benefit of a rubbish bag.This had compacted by jumping in on it, and froze solid, thus sticking to the bin... great fun. Yesterday, it was so mild here, alomst spring-like, so I tipped the bin on it's side and dug the muck out with a spade, and shoved it in bags...SUCH a lovely task...hmmm, made me feel hungry-NOT....Will never, ever try to 'save' money this way again.

My eldest daughter 's( eldest child , third youngest, is getting married 3 april...all very nice and well, but the sheer logistics of getting there is proving a headache.My ex. suggested we travel by train together....yeah, as if, that is VERY expensive and time-consuming, a daugher said we should travel together by car and make a two-week holiday of it....another said I should go by plane, first from Eindhoven to Stanstead, then on to Luton, then on to Brest....yippeeee, only a hop and a skip, as my family used to say.There is no direct way to get there by plane from here...now another daughter is looking up car hire prices...my old banger is too unreliable, their two old cars are too, and none of them are big enough...

Great larks Pip....will wait another couple of days to see what's going to happen.

Wish all my kids, g.kids and g.g kids lived nearer....

Off to clean up.

Eileen x

I have changed my name again, "Fellow" sounds just a bit ... you know.
No, I am not David. And I don't quite have a double chin, but getting there. Liz, I am the one you have been talking to about hedgehogs. There is an Australian native animal that in some places is called a hedhehog, despite the fact that it is totally unrelated. We call it the echidna or spiny ant eater. It is a bit bigger than a rugby football, eats ants, rolls itself up into a ball and digs itself a hole in the ground- very fast- to escape danger. It also lays eggs.

Nice to see Deanna, Claddagh, David, Ben and Grannny Gail hanging in there. I think we all get down at times and this really is a good support group.
Like Ben, I had a minor problem with cousins born the same year, but it was after civil registration and they were indexed as George N and George M respectively. Fortunately they were not born or baptised on the same day. I was able to look at the entries in the church records, which gave their full names as well as their birth and baptismal dates.
Going fairly well at the moment. Uncertainty over my job late last year might have caused a slide towards depression, so went back on the doxepin (an older style a-d).
It has more side-effects than Prozac and other newer ones, but they don't worry me.
I am trying to avoid the heat as I don't cope real well with it so will retreat to the bedroom, which is cooler.
On this thread Colin is OK, but I am trying to avoid using my real name on some others.
xx C

Sydneybloke is much better Colin, although Sydneyfellow was not as hows your father but a little bit ostentatious for an Ozzie. Glad you are back among us.

My problem consisted with my great grandmother being a bigamist. Kept thinking I had the wrong marriage, no dead husband to make her a widow (on the marriage cert) her father being a witness, and it went on and on. Yes she married my great grandfather and no divorce, also in the same small town as the first marriage and only 5 years later. What I found difficult to come to terms with then was they were all very pious Catholics. Just goes to show not to believe everything you see and hear.

I have had some health issues in the last couple of weeks and hopefully next week will get to see the doctor, apart from that or because of it I keep breaking down in tears. Because of the health issues I do not think my pills are staying in my system.

Deanna! Who's Deanna?? Sorry had to have a dig. Another one that hides away when things are not so good, at least I do not feel so alone. Looks like a few of us do it. On a brighter note at least you have now posted and I for one am happy you have.

Elillen, thanks for the laugh, great reading your post about the garbage. sounds like you had fun!

Love and hugs

Gail

Deanna, no need to apologise for absence although we do get concerned if we don't see people for a while, just call in when you feel you can, sorry you are feeling down, I am sure this grotty weather has a lot to do with it, we have another grey day here and it doesn't do much to lift the spirits.

Eileen, ugh! what a nasty job you had with your bin, bag it in future then. I always bag ours because otherwise the wheelie bin gets so smelly, Good to see you on here anyway.

Sydneybloke, yes that sounds more like it Colin. Glad you have felt able to return anyway.

Gail, sorry you too are having health problems and I hope the doctor can sort them for you. Ooh naughty Gt Grandmother, what happened to her first husband? Did you trace him? Not had any real surprises in my family, other than a Great Grandfather who appears to have been 'running' with two sisters in the same house at the same time. Hence children from both, one lot having the sister's maiden name as a surname. Then when my Gt Grandmother died, he married the sister (even though it was not legal to do so at that time!)

Anyway, best get on and get dressed, nearly 9AM and in my nightie.

Sorry haven't been on here much I have been so consumed with taking care of my auntie. I have been worn out and get home from work and fall asleep for a couple of hours. But then I can't sleep when I go to bed. Also having trouble again with chest. I went to the Drs and have to go get a chest x ray at the hospital. Went yesterday but the car park was chock-a- block so I left. I don't know if I have astma or allergy to something. But using two inhalers one with steroids two shots twice a day and the other up to eight shots a day when needed. I am wheezing and bubbling so loud I can't sleep.

Hey Colin!!! How lovely to have you back. So pleased you missed the boards so much and decided to rejoin. Joyce sent me a photo of you and D, you look just how I imagined. I thought I had your email address but don't.

David I think your brother is pushing you away to test your offers of help. He could be trying to see how much you want to be incontact with him. You said you didn't keep in contact much before didn't you? I don't see my sister much and at one time I really did want her to show she cared about me. So when she finally did find time to see me I played casual. Does that make sense? We were very close as kids and until she met her husband and got pregnant at 16. Then we drifted as she never had time to see me. I was angry as I had not many friends as I spent most of my time with her, as I had been made to do (look after your little sister)

Eileen sounds like you are worried about making the trip. How much do you want to be there? Don't make yourself do it if you aren't up to it. x

Deanna didn't know you hadn't been on here as not been on much myself. x

Wonder how our Mary is doing. If you are reading Mary I am thinking of you x

Ben you are doing great. Geneology is good for you. It gives you a focus. x

Sharron how are you?x

Ann what have you been up to?

Liz I think you need to see your Dr let us know what he says. x

Clairejo how are you and the kids? x

Y Caz thinking of you as always x

Gail hope you too get to see your Dr soon. Don't leave it. xx

I went out last night with Hayley, we met Julie and her daughter Claire (who does my hair) Julies auntie Rita and her daughter Suzanne. and two others. Had a good chat with a meal. Sort of thing I would have said no to doing a while ago. Oh yes and I finally got a letter offering me a regular weekly appiontment for dynamic phycotherapy. But its on a Monday at 12:30 I work Mondays they are our biggest shops and so hardest to have off. So I called this morning to tell them I can't do Mondays. I told the person who I had the original two meetings with last year I couldn't do Mondays!!

Ann in Glos, he died in goal 5 years after great granny second marriage. She had 2 children to husband 1, she then had a further 11 children to husband ?? 2. 4 of the children were born before husband 1 died. My grandmother was child 3 to husband ?? 2, my grandfather.

I look at it all now and it fits so well, it did take a long time for it to all sink in. I now need/want to get the rest of the childrens/aunts and uncles births certificates. Fun hobby.

Gail

Good morning everyone,

Just to make you all feel jealous, it is another spring-like day so far.Yesterday it was grey & miserable, not cold though.

Gail, yes, it was great fun digging all that green, furry muck out of the bin...I can recommend this to anyone who wants some good laughs-NOT, lol
My sister lives in a very rural area in Wales, she can burn most of her rubbish, something that is against the law here.A couple of years back, she phoned to say she'd had a big scare, but didn't want her sons to know, as they would have been angry.Whilst burning stuff, there was an explosion, she only singed her eyebrows..I suspected she had inadvertantently left batteries in amongst the rubbish.I know it is bad of me, but I laughed like a drain when she said this...

C (S.B), yes, we all have days/weeks when everything seems to be too much to bear, so we need out chemical 'crutches'....

Ann, I have always bagged all rubbish before dropping it in the bin, just this one time....trust me to do it when it was freezing....am feeling very smug now it is empty.

Carole, I am not worried about the trip so much, just how to get there.Before they moved to Brittany, they lived in Burgandy, which was very easy to get to, just wide main roads all the way there.The 800-odd klm. could be covered in about 8 and a half hours.This is roughly 1,100 kms.but takes about 12 hours at least, due to the small roads...hmmm.Have ruled out going with my ex. by train(s), it is not only expensive but means changing over a lot.Another daughter wants to drive all the way there alone if necessary, but would rather I went with her.
Of course I want to be there when g.daughter marries, seeing everyone again will be great.Has anyone got a private plane to take us there?Lol.

Well folks, I will have to love you and leave you.

Have a good day, take care.

Eileen x

Hi Carole, you MUST keep your appointments at the hospital.
I know how difficult it can be finding a parking place.... but you must stay.

Tony took me to the hospital last year for a checkup after I had the stroke.
We were 50 minutes finding a parking place...
Tony took me to places in the hospital grounds I never even knew were there.... nightmare.
But phone up and tell them what happened or they will send you back to your GP to start all over again!
So... listen to 'mummy' and phone up now and tell them what happened. XX

I have come on to do something for Tony.... you would swear that he had no computer of his own. It's a confidence thing with him.

Anyway everyone, have a great day and I will be back.
Love and HUGS to all,
Deanna XXXX

Just like to say welcome back Colin, knew you would miss us as much as we miss you.

Hi to everyone else.

Love and hugs
Caz xx