General Chat

So my friends and ciber family, either you are all on top of the world, or deep under it with depression. Either way it is just far tooooo quite on this thread lately.

I miss reading about everyone's day.

OH is back at work after holidays, I get the remote control back of a night, yeah. We are now just waiting for the carpet to be laid next week then we will have a bedroom again. So sick of the fold out. Hopefully it will last another 12 years before it need re doing. Still need to find a nice bedspread, will just look around when we get away. Wish I could still sew, easier to find material and make it, those days are no longer. Still need to sand back the timber sides of the bed, and re varnish it. My very old cat did the damage, trying to get on the bed, when she was not able, now she has chosen the bathroom mats to sleep on. Though, if I have clothes on the floor sorting to wash, she will decide to sleep on anything that I have worn. When a cat gets to 20 years old, you do not make a fuss, if she is comfortable, who am I to argue. She is a black Manx. Beautiful cat.

Love and hugs

Gail

Hi Gale, it has been very quiet on here hasn't it. All getting over Xmas!

Hello everyone
Have been meaning to add on here but keep forgetting.
How is Lily? I have'nt seen you for ages love, you ok?
Nice to see you Eileen, hope you are well?
Liz, how's things?, thank you for takingf the time to let us all know how Mary is.
Mary hope you are resting (well as much as this is possible with your lively brood.
Ann, hope you are ok, any holidays planned?
Gail, glad to see you have been treating yourself, I got my legs waxed once, nearly walked out of the place with one smooth leg and the other very hairy it was sooo painful. Maybe make it a regular treat for yourself if it makes you feel good.
Hi Deanna, are you all recovered now from your chaotic time with getting the new kitchen?
Hazel, how are you?
Carole you ok? xx
~~~ to Dutch, give me a ring sometime if you can and let me know your plans x
Love to everyone who I have'nt mentioned personally xx
It has been mad here, we did'nt have a great deal of snow but the roads were so very dangerous, not even sure if the main roads had been gritted, so P's school was closed last wed and no transport because of the contidion of the roads thurs and fri. Monday he has a massive meltdown on the bus and they had to take him off and I had to collect, he was then banned from the bus until a risk assessment could be carried out. He is a lttle monkey!!
So I have been taking him to and collecting from school this week, one hour each way in rush hour !! We hage had the risk assessment now and he has a new harness for the bus and when his wheelchair straps are fixed he will go in on his chair.. Please P behave today, I will be waiting with baited breath at 3pm to hear that he has gone on the bus ok, if not then we are stuffed because they will ban him again.
So there is my rant, not much else been going on, I have not been great but managing, just.
Love and hugs to you all
Claire xxx

Love to you all, not supposed to be on here at present, but have to send you all a hug. usual circus here, gareth has settled down at home but apparently school is another issue!!
Find it VERY hard to behave.
group hug,
Mary

Hello everyone,

Feeling aggravated at the moment, took my car to the garage this morning because it was knocking a bit. Just heard that it is some bit of the suspension and it will cost about £200, I am sure it is all the potholes we have got in the roads around here. I haven't had it from new but it has not done much mileage and is only 8 years old.

Gail, nearly there then, what colour bedspread are you looking for? I am almost as excited as you over your new bedroom Lol!!!
Clairejo, I hope P behaves on the bus today, do you know what 'spooked' him before? Something must have upset him.

Hi Carole, you'd think with all the enforced staying indoors we'd have more time on here wouldn't you. Or are we all like me finding jobs to doa round the house? I have an empty kitchen drawer and all household filing has been done, Unfortunately that gave me loads of shredding and other rubbish and a full bin which was not collected!!!!

Ooh nearly missed you Mary, ((((((hugs)))))) for you too, naughty person, not supposed to be on here. Hope your wrists are easing a bit. Take care and do not overdo it.

Clairjo,

I think of you often and admire your strength. Hope P doesn't get banned again. Hope you feel better soon and love to V.

LW

Clairejo Hope P was well behaved on the bus today!

Ann our roads are full of pot holes, the cold has played havoc with them.

Gail good to talk to you this morning. x

Hazel how are you ? x

Liz you are very quiet! Hope you are ok x

Mary hope G has calmed down now! Is the work done with the insulation?
x

Went to vistit Aunt in hospital this afternoon, I could not find a parking space and went round the car park about four times. Then my aunt and uncle appeared from the hospital exit. I called them over and they told me Lou was sat all packed and ready to be taken to the Care Home. So I didn't go in, but took aunt and uncle home. So Auntie Louie is all set up in her new home tonight. I hope with the warmth, good food, care and company she will settle in and make friends in there. Uncle and aunt went after tea tonight, and said she seemed ok with the move. I'll go with Steve tomorrow, and take her some bits to set her up in the little kitchen area of her room. Fingers crossed she will be happy there.

Hi how are you all?

I have had to beat off yet another OCD doubt trying to get in the way of my family tree but I am now beating it with a hammer and it is losing.

I am so pleased Aunty Louie is now being looked after.One less for me to worry about! It's just your dad now Carole,while mine moulders away downstairs from neglect.

It seems Mary's body is telling her to slow down a bit too,so there is another I don't have to worry about as much.

Now,the rest of you,just behave yourselves!

Been to visit Aunt Lou in her new room. She seemed ok with it. Now I've seen her I'm happier. I know what she needs taking in, so will get her those things tomorrow when we go shopping. She said she would like to go home to pick some things to have with her. She would like a wedding photo of her and her husband ( he died a few years ago). We are going to try to delay taking her home for a while to give her more time to settle in the hope she won't want to stay home when she gets there!
It's a small care home 23 residents. Two floors, Lou only has to go a short distance to a lift to get down stairs. I put her on the phone to my mum (her sister) so mum will feel happier having talked to her. There is a day centre there, so I'd like to get mum and dad to go there so they can all see each other soon. Maybe enjoy a game of bingo or just chat. Even Dad 'spoke to her on the phone'. He always moaned about her as we all have! She is so tight she would skin a f***!! Even this afternoon she was saying do you know what it costs to stay here? Yes £400 a week. We told her not to worry just let us and the home take care of her.


Ben pleased to see you are winning the OCD again x

Carole, pleased Louie has a safe place to stay now, also great it is a smaller place as the care hopefully will be better. It would be a relief for all the family.

Ben great you are fighting your OCD, do not let others influence your research with negatives either. You know when you are right.

Sharron, yeah right :), too busy doing the washing I say.

Had a couple of breakthroughs with my tree, one great granny was a bigamist, my dad would have loved that. My dad loved to know these things, like one great granny did not marry until they had 5 children, and yes the dads name is on all the certificates.

Back to cleaning

Love and hugs

Gail

Afternnoon everyone,

Had a message almost ready to post, but was distracted and deleted it by accident.Don't you just love it when this happens?

Deanna, yes, I know only too well how it feels when you think something is going to go wrong....horrible and scary.

Ann, everybody's family history is interesting.It is a great feeling when you find out where you come from, what your rellies did etc.I just wish my Scottish lot were more forthcoming.

Claire and Carole, I am o.k, thanks for asking.

Carole, I am glad it is not only me that has done any research the last couple of years.....trying to get motivated is difficult.

Have edited one post where I ask about Betty, because I wa asked to by another member? Am glad that she still posts here. She's a very nice lady!

Is has been grey & miserable here the last few days, but anything is better than that snow & ice.Am delighted it has vanished for everyone's sake.
Seems odd to think it is already a year ago that my g.son was in hospital having his appendix out, when the roads were nigh on impassable due to thick, freezing snow everywhere.It is his 19th birthday on the 24th, seems only yesterday that I watched him being born....

Have to go.

Keep well and safe.

Eileen x

Hi everyone just poppe in was going to LMA today but heard trains were not running very well so will try get there next week.

Carol glad your auntie Lou is happy in her new room.

I am worried about my son at mo, he had to have 4 injections in his eye the othe week, there didnt work so got to start having them put in the black bit of his eye from the 4th Feb. He is almost blind in one eye already.

He may have to have a tran plant in the end.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}for everyone who needs them.


Hazelx

Hi

My 2xgreat grandfather had a namesake cousin born about the same time as each other. My latest OCD worry was that they were secretly twins, one registered and the other kept secret and given away to his brother. Highly, highly impossible and very far fetched. They were baptised on the same day at the same church as cousins so that is proof.

It is just OCD trying to dampen my success story as I did find out there were two George Musgraves born at the same time to two brothers Robert and Thomas. Thomas being my 3xgreat grandfather, father of George. Roberts one was registered 2 days after birth and it appears that Thomas's one wasn't. That is not unusual though as this was in 1856 and registration wasn't enforced until 1875. And it was the registrar who walked around making notes of new births so no wonder why some were missed even for two cousins born in the same village.

Many siblings had children the same time and if same sex given the same name but that doesn't mean they were secretly twins separated at birth.

But I am beating OCD as it has just come up with yet another illogical and implausible worry about two namesake cousins being secret twins. Not a hope in hell.

I've suffered off & on for years. I've never taken medication. Side effects etc. For example hasn't there been clinical evidence that Prozac is no better than a placebo. My saviour...vigourous exercise. Gym/bike etc.
Get your body to release it's own medication. They're called Endorphins!

Hi Patrick, a few on here can not exercise due to very painful illness. But I would agree with you that exercise will lift the mind from it's depression, but you do need motivation which isn't there when in a bad state of depression is it? Company and something to look forward to are a great help.

Another thing with depression is the type you have, you can become depressed due to illness, circumstances and such but also depression can come from your genes and that type is harder to deal with. I was told this by a psychiatric nurse many years ago and have been told it again since by other mental health workers since then, like the psychotherapist I worked with when doing workshops with people with ocd.

As Carole says, some people can't exercise for physical health reasons, some people can't afford gyms, or feel safe enough to go out running or walking if they have no one to accompany them, so while exercise can help, it's not always practical. I am glad it works for you Patrick. I too try not to take medication from the doctor as there are so many side effects but do take 5htp when I can afford it, as it's natural and homeopathic. I think it helps me stay a bit stronger, shall we say, I am not so weepy when I can take it.

Carole, glad your Aunt seems happy in her new home and it's a good idea to keep her from going back to her house for a bit while she settles. Is it her own home so you don't have to give it up just yet or are you having to pay rent on it? It will be nice for your Mum and Dad to be able to visit her there in comfort and warmth and enjoy the activities too.

Ben, well done at recognising the ocd and pushing it behind you.

Eileen, lol, you did it again Glad you aren't surrounded by ice and snow now and hope it stays away, however the forecasts sound as tho somewhere we will be getting more of the white stuff soon. I hate it but haven't been out much since it went as o.h. is using the car every day for work. I am a bit concerned as he isn't eating or medicating correctly and I am worried he will feel lightheaded when driving, he has had a couple of times at home where he hasn't felt well. You can't tell him tho, typical man!

Must get on with some things in the lounge before he gets home from work so love to everyone especially those I haven't mentioned, doesn't mean I don't care about you

Lizxx

Owing to the recent very bad weather I didnt visit my brother who has been ill, and apparently nor did I phone him.

When I visited him the other day he was both depressed and annoyed. He actually said I don't communicate etc.

Apart from his next door neighbour I dont know who communicates more (except of course his doctor)

Before he became ill we didnt communicate much anyway.He had his own circle of friends ect

I don't know if he's needing my company more or putting up barriers, if that makes sense.

Don't know which way to jump sometimes and we're not getting any younger.

In answer to Patrick, I also agree exercise is great, but I am extremely limited in what I can do and that is frustration. I am disabled on my right side, I gave up walking on my own due to constant falling, if I land on my back I cannot get up, trying is also exercise. Not much fun when you are on your own and no people around. I do have an electric exercise bike which I am on daily.

We often get people telling us different things to help and we are greatfull for that. Telling or suggesting that we also not take our pills can be very very dangerous. Do not forget that our doctors have prescribed the medication, also the doctor keeps an eye on how we are going. My little pills keep me from walking in front of a bus.

Ben it is difficult at times with our trees, I spent a good 18 months trying for find out about one great granny. Problem was, I had it correct when I first looked, so much time wasted when my first instincts were correct.

Great to see David. I feel that your brother is putting up barriers. It is something I do when really in pain, I tend to lock myself away, push those closest to me away.

Hi my Purple friend.

Gentle hugs to our Y/caz.

Major love and hugs to everyone.

Gail

Hi Gail and everyone

Two cousins born to sibling fathers of the same sex were often named the same first name. It was very common and there must have been many times when only one cousin was registered if it was before 1875 when registration rules were tightened. Glad I found the truth about my George and George Musgrave.

Ben