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Hi MUMMO

You are not weak and glad you came on here.
Sounds as you are having a bad time of it, And yes i think you are depressed.

Maybe go and talk to your doctor he can help you.

I got dressed for the first time today this week.I had to go out otherwise i would still be laying in bed on here.

So please put how your feeling down,in a way it does help.

They be others that will reply to you.

I have found it a great help since coming on here.

Sending you a very bug {{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}

Take care

Hazelx

Thank you Liz

Hope you get out in the end and get what you need.

It took me all morning to make myself get dressed and go out .with not feeling to good as well dont help does it?

Take Care everyone

Hazelx

Hi Mummo,
of course you are not weak, but you do sound as if you need to see your doctor, you do sound depressed. Wasn't it your husband who recently had a heart attack? No wonder you feel down, you have probably been very worried for him and forgot to take care of yourself. Please see your doctor and I do hope you feel better soon.
Liz, sorry that you are down too, I felt really sad on Monday when OH was out all day playing golf and I was here on my own, I think it was because we had been to see daughter at the weekend and had all gone out for a meal with the three grandsons for eldest's 21st and it was brought home to me that they are all growing up and away from us. I am OK now realising that we can't unfortunately go back, but we have wonderful memories of them when young and they are fine young men now.
tomorrow we go to see our son and family so that will be nice, youngest grandchild will be 7 on 20th.

Ann
Glos

Hi everyone, hope you are okay today.
I am feeling a little low again, but I know what is wrong today...
remember the song;
do you know what hell is?
Hell is in hello...
heaven is goodbye forever its time for me to go.....
Well I just noticed today how quickly I can disintegrate if someone puts me down... even in a joke.
MUST WATCH OUT FOR THAT IN FUTURE.
nothing to worry about, just a sudden observation.

Pat, a special hug for you love. You were far too young to lose your mummy, but we are here... so when you need a mum..... pick one, we are all ready and willing to help.
((((((((((((((((((((((hugs for Pat)))))))))))))))))

Mummo, if you feel bad, you feel bad, and you need help.
Take whatever is offered, even if it is just a friendly chat.
Welcome to the thread, I have found it a great place to come to when I feel low.
Sometimes I come on and there is no one here, but they come back, so we are never alone... and we all seem to be able to actually 'open up'... I find that strange, as I am quite a private person.
is it that no one knows us, or is it that we just feel safe because we ARE?
Chin up love.x

Carole, the nurses told me about the depression, doctors did not.
It would be helpful if they spoke to the family about it too, don't you think?
I feel sometimes as if I am fighting a battle all alone... and with myself.

Mary, give me recovery time and I will be there to sort out your cupboards.... one at a time, and over a very long period!!
I used to be so fast at everything and now the only speed I know is in my mind! Still... I can do things given the wee bit of energy and the desire.
I find though that the best time to do anything is if I can find time to be alone!
Have any of you noticed how quickly people can make you understand that..... you just can't do it.... TODAY!
You did mention a manager.... now that I could do... I am quite good at organising, and am very bossy!!!
Mini Mary sounds a bit like me as a child. A bit of encouragement and she could be a great dressmaker.
I used to make all my children's clothes and many of mine.
Of course I did all their knitting, but today children would be so humiliated to be wearing home made clothes, no matter how beautifully made.
The world is going backwards isn't it?
Or am I wrong.... AGAIN?
Anyway... I think she is a wee genius, bless her.

Liz, please cheer up.
You can't go getting down after cheering me up all last week.
I may need you again when my boy and his girl go off to Egypt again at the end of the month.
Hope your boy has a lovely birthday, what did you get him?
It is Karen's birthday on the 15th, but we will give her a bit of money for her holiday.... don't get excited, it will not be a huge amount.

ANN.....THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MY CARD. X
It was beautiful and such a lovely surprise.
It is always nice to think that someone cares so much about you, isn't it? Thank you. xxx

Hazel, I did not understand, and I am sorry.
We all talk to each other about our depressions, but we don't see each other so we don't get the full picture do we?
I did not realise that you had been too depressed to get dressed.
You are not ODD Hazel, I have been there and I am sure that most of us have been there at some time.
I remember once sitting in my dressing gown, and picking at the material until it was all frayed down the front!
Only after I was well again, did I understand the depth of my depression, but as I said before.... we do let the world drag us down don't we?

Oh well I suppose I should make a move, although I can't think of anything I SHOULD be doing!

See you all later I hope.
Love to all,
Deanna XXXX

Thanks all.

Hi

Everyon here is a {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}]

I havent been able to get the get up and go last few days. and with having these dizzy spells not helping.

I think i know why i am down this time, but other times i dont.

Hazelx

Have a good rest everyone.... and we will be well again tomorrow.
Good night all
Deanna XXXX

Goodnite hope you have a good nite.

Hazelx

Thanks again you lovely people, I hope you have better times soon.
I often have days where I don't feel like getting dressed and if I lived alone I don't suppose I would bother much but have to make a bit of an effort here as he would moan and groan otherwise.
I know if I do push myself and get out, I feel better afterwards, it's just the making the effort that is hard.
It was tiring driving today as there had been an accident so I had to do a detour through lots of traffic but I got my errands done, most of them, and can do the rest today before I go to see my lad. I got him a big casserole dish that you can cook a chicken in as he borrowed mine once and said how useful it was, also some wire baskets that fit under shelves as he needs to be tidier and I thought they would help, he needs lots of things for his flat. I also got him a new pizza cutter as his broke, and some cologne, and chocolate and will give him some money towards his visit to the Reading Festival. I think someone asked about Glastonbury the other day and I forgot to reply, but he didn't go there, it's Reading at the end of August for him.
His microwave broke the other day, it was an old one I had got him from one of the student houses when I managed them, so has done well but he might want to use the money o.h. gave him towards a new one.
He won't get much else unless his grandmother sends him some money, sometimes they remember to send a card, other times nothing, same with his relatives in Essex from his Dad's side, doubt his Dad will bother and so only my other brother perhaps and possible a friend of mine from Miami who used to send him a card and that's about it!
I expect he will get some from his mates - he has to pick up a load of doughnuts to take into work and I will get him a cake for Satuday.
Not the same as when you could arrange a party with jelly and cake etc with his little friends lol
Happy days

Lizxx

I think it was me Liz who asked about Glastonbury. I was confused! Well hope G enjoys Reading!!

There's not much you can do for lads as they get older is there. Mine doesn't want anything, no presents and doesn't want to go out with us! He is very quiet and so will not socialise. So when it's his birthday not many cards! I have two for him here, one from us, and one from an auntie. No wonder no one bothers with him though, he stays in his bedroom if we have visitors. I'll go buy a cake for him.

Mummo sent a pm and thanks for reply.

Treehunter at least you know why you feel down. It's a good start. xx Try to set yourself a target to get you moving, you can't just lie in bed. The more you do the stronger you will get and better feelings about yourself. That coffee morning, volounteer one morning a week! xx

Caz any news about your old home and the tree's? x

Deanna how's your son you haven't said recently ? xx

Mary you are quiet again xx

Hi All, Mummo, lovely to see you on here, we are a cyber family who help each other, if you read back a little way you will see. I agree with the others that you need to see a doctor, you are depressed but you also have a lot going on around you. I haven't pm'd you because I thought you needed time out to think things over. When you are ready maybe it will help to write some more down, it does help to get it off your chest, and no-one judges on here, just helps.
We are always here for you either on thread or by pm. I'm a fine one to talk as well as Liz, when I am in my black hole I can't talk to anyone, I can't find the words, so hide away. I wish I was more like Deanna who can always write something, by the way Deanna I've realised I still owe you an e-mail, I'm not ignoring you but was busy yesterday.

Hazel I didn't realise you were so depressed, sending you a big (((((((hug))))))).

My warden has just popped in so better go
Love and hugs to all.

Caz xx

Hi Everyone,

Went out again today done a letter to lady i am hoping is related to my great uncle. Never know what to put in letters at first.

I also popped into a coffee morning and got talkig to a lady who is doing her tree been doing since she was at school in the 50s.She said she goes in the coffee morning most days so hope to see her again there.

I am also meeting a old manager of mine who also was a good friend.Havent seen her for 7yrs. Found out she is living not far from me.

So doing somethings for me.
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS }}}}}}}}}}}}}]to all of you

Hazelx

Good for you Hazel, glad you are meeting up with people etc

Must dash = got to be at my son's at 5pm and lots to do first.
Lizxxxxx

Carole, Tony is doing SO WELL, thanks for asking.
He still has problems, but the improvement in him is amazing.
He goes to the gym, and is getting better and better, although, every few days he needs a rest. We are so happy about it. He will eventually get to a stage where he will not need the rests.
Took a long time, but he is a strong man and determined too.x

Caz, I am gifted with.... THE GAB..... I will always find something to say. ha h aha
Even depressed, I can talk.
Don't you worry about owing me an e-mail, I think you have bigger worries darling.
When you can, you can. I can wait. x

You feeling a little happier Hazel, you sound it.
Keep up the good work girl.
I started taking my tablets again today. I had to stop when I was in hospital, and when I came out, but my kidneys are well again now, so I will try to take them.
Hopefully they will help me.

Liz... your boy sounds a bit like my Tony, he loves cooking too.

I am trying to do a bit to my tree, but the site will not let me go to my tree!
Why is it that that happens regularly, and not just to me but to many others.

Look after yourselves... EVERYONE.. I will see you all later.
Deanna XXX

Afternoon all, feeling better today, had a shower got dressed and even went food shopping, My brother phoned today to say they might let my mum out of hospital tomorrow, hope they do then me and oh can go up there on Sunday and spend the day with her.( sorry if you donot know my mum has just been told she has bowel cancer but they cannot operate or give her chemo as she is to weak) Can't believe its 4 weeks today since my oh 's heart attack, he really is doing well (touch wood) those that have been saying prayers and sending healing thoughts , thankyou.
Well l hope you all have a good weekend and lets hope we can have a few smiles, take care all, x

Just had some bad news my uncle died Monday morning.

He was my dads brother. My dad died 20 yrs ago this month.

Got this just after was told i am a great auntie again today.

They say you lose someone and then another is born.

Hazelx

Dear Hazel, sad news about your uncle, I share your sorrow, remembering with love my nine aunts and uncles, all gone now.
sending (((((((HUGS)))))))))
and a cuppa.
Congratulations on the newest addition, joy and sorrow mixed, thinking of you.
Love
Mary

Thanks maximary

Its a wried feeling. to get both bits of news on the same day.

I am very sad about my uncle he was the last of my aunt and uncles on dads side. But also found out he had 2 children that no one knew about.we hard stories that he may have had some. but now found out he has, but didnt want to know him when he was alive, but have come looking now he has gone.just want to know if he has lefted them anything.

How sad is that.

He is having the old horses and cart.,

Hazelx

Hi Everyone i have renewed.
I hope that everyone is well. Y/Caz i hope that things are getting better for you and that the pains are easing.
Dutch i hope that you find Rachel well when you get to Liverpool, safe journey.
Liz, the down feeling is terrible, but i hope that you and G. had a nice day for his birthday also Carole and her son, my children never want a party for their birthdays either.
Claire thank you for your p.m. will answer soon as i had some family here all day yesterday.
Got a shock the other day o.h. came home with a beautiful bunch of flowers to thank me ? but when i went to put them into a flower vase discovered that both of them had disappeared so with his premission gave them to my sister to put on parents grave in my tome town, my mothers birthday was on 4th of this month.MUST GO NOW AS PAGE KEEPS JUMPING AND SCROLLING ON ME CANNOT SEE WHAT I HAVE WRITTEN.
Talk soon. love to everyone.LILY




























Must go now as page is scrolling and i cannot see what i have written.

Sorry I have not been on this thread much,having been sticking to the kinda non-commital topics in quick little bursts.

I do get a bit involved in everybody elses problems if I am not careful and I have so much to organize with the old man's ever burgeoning social life that I always seem to miss something.

For example.One lot of his numerous pills used to run out before the others which meant they were always a bit out of sync. so I asked the surgery if they could double up the prescription so I didn't run out so often.They doubled up the prescription but didn't implement them all immediately so now I run out of at least three pills at different times.Bloody surgery!