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I agree with Gail - I too have a habit of pulling away from people when depressed, at times it's been to the point of saying nothing, just staying in my shell, becoming more & more quiet.Seems too much effort even to talk. The worst episode apparently I was non-verbal for 10 days. Then suddenly woke up, feeling better.
I think I'd be inclined to continue contact with your brother, even if you just sit with him and say nothing. Perhaps for shorter visits, but I wouldn't cut him off completely. It's difficult for both of you.
A gorgeous day here, except when I look at the clover field which is now my back garden.
Anyone good at plastering who'd like to visit? Colleen's washing machine upstairs leaked, and because the floor slopes backward a bit, we didn't notice the leak, it all went to the back and into the wall, which has now all soaked into the ceiling of my store cupboard on the ground floor, and down came the ceiling. Nice mess, I heard a thump in the night and examined the damage, turned off the light and went back to bed LOL.
We've been out to buy a new washer this afternoon, a necessity, big enough to wash several sheets at once.
My miniMary cut her own hair last evening which then led to floods of tears as her mother was not impressed with zig-zag hairdo. I cannot imagine what possessed her to do it, I'd not be surprised at 3 years old, but at 12 y/o !!!
have to make supper quickly, the therapist is coming in an hour.
Have a good evening.
hugs
Mary

Hello.

Not about for long.Hope you are all well and feeling as bright as possible.

Me,I'm going stir bloody crazy! Not used to being home like this and because I have too much time I don't do things because I have put them off for too long.

One hand and wheels is still coming on in leaps and bounds.We now have a system where I give him £20 a week pocket money and he does some of his own shopping when he goes out on the bus with his wonderful mate.He chooses what meat he wants for his tea and they cook it,he buys bacon for the sandwich they have for lunch and he is running his own toiletries now.

The local farm shop had a glut of mangoes so we will make some mango chutney and he can be pestle and mortar driver whether he wants to or not.I'm looking forward to watching him grind up the eight cloves of garlic,tee-hee! This is before he has to go out and buy the vegetables.

Have a good night everybody.

Just dropping in to say hello.
Still reading but not posting much at the moment, havnt seen Eileen or Lily around for a while, hoping that you are both ok and of course everyone else who posts on here.
I am feeling utterly exhausted, aching all over from having to lift little boy,a disasterious visit to the doctor earlier on in the week meant I had to lift him in and out of car again the same at pharmacy and when we got home all whilst he was kicking pulling my hair and screaming, same again this evening going up to bed and then about 20 visits to his bedrroom to put matress and bedding back on the bed which he seems to have got into an obsession about taking them off.Feeling utterly despondant about the future at the moment and wondering how long it will be before I injure myself trying to lift him, he is such a tall well built lad for his age. So thats me feeling rubbish but hey ho Wimbledon is on next week, now tht should cheer me up.
Sorry for the moan off to bed now hopefully for some sleep, hubby back tom after his week away with work, yey.
Claire xxx

OMG Clairjo you just be so exhahsted. I really feel for you.

I am feeling so low worrying about my g.son and have been sitting crying and feeling so down all night. I have had my sleeping tab & morphine based tabs, and can't sleep.
I don't know how much more I can cope with to be honest, between this and other family probs.
Wish I could just get lost for a day or two, but then I would just wanna come back from where I had gone, so can't win!!

Wishing you all a good nite and a lovely weekend.

xx

Evening all - Claire I can just imagine your struggle with the little man. We've had a couple of meltdowns from Gareth today. But that's not today's issue.
Colleen's washing machine has been leaking, it sits on the floor above my storage cupboard. The ceiling began to fall down in the cupboard, moved the machines outside, and discovered mold in the walls around the machines. Today we, ripped open the wall and found black mold inside the wall, and, upon emptying the cupboard, found one wall of the cupboard with mold visible,top to bottom. tried to get someone in to help but nobody available, which is prob OK as they charge double time on the w/e. We've cleaned up as much as we can, but I suspect a couple more walls need stripped down. A simple leak has turned into a major project. So everyone has to sleep down here tonight, so we can air out the upstairs flat. Everything is topsy turvy, which makes me agitated. All things considered I am fairly calm, but will try and get to sleep early if Sarah cooperates, as she'll be my bed-mate tonight. I doubt we can get help till Monday now.
One good thing is that the cupboard is empty, so everything must be organised before going back in the space..
Wish me luck - and patience.
Not sure what to do about all the mold, especially if it's spread further than the eye can see.
mercifully I am off work for few days.
Sending Vods special hugs, and to Claire; also to those who are under the weather.
Night all
Mary

Carole I know you are busy, and I hope it all goes well.... and QUICKLY... the worst job in the home isn't it?
How is Coco today?

Hazel gladf that you are doing well and Aaron too.

OH yes, and HAPPY FATHERS DAY to all the dads.

Liz, I can wait... i will play with you all another time. X

David, how sad for your brother. It is awful when our loved one suffer and there is nothing we can do except be there.
He has had a bad bad time hasn't he?
Still, he will recover I'm sure.
I do know where you are right now. We nearly lost Tony, as you probably know, and all we could do was sit and hold his hands.... a nightmare time.
God bless your brother and hope all goes well for him now.
I agree with the others (Mary & Gai), sometimes people do draw away when they are ill.
Allan does not exactly draw away, but he is a bit like a sick dog... he needs to... in his own words..... turn his head to the wall!
ME?
I'm there feeling awful and I need someone with me.
Me with a bad dose of anything debilitating am a 'whinging darabe' an Irish term..... "Allan, when are you coming to bed???"... pathetic or what??

Your brother David is just coping the best he can under the circumstances.

Off to sit and watch TV now... nice and restful sometimes isn't it?

Good night all
Deanna XXX

Love to all and hugs too.

He's half way through his chemo.
I have cyber candles and prayer circles working for him, plus whatever help I am to him.

Claire you have your hands full. Bless you. Little P is getting so strong isn't he.xx

Mary I think most of us have shaved or cut some hair we shouldn't have. I shaved my eye brows, looked daft for a while xx

Hazel pleased you are getting sorted. Let yourself grieve now it will do you no harm xx

David thinking of you and your brother x

Colin hope you are okay xx

Liz how are you?
xx

Deanna hope you are a little better. Coco is fine now, was horrible to see him poorly. Just have the floor to find a new covering for now. It's looking lovely. Smell of paint a bit much !! I'm back at work tomorrow the week just flew past.xx

Sharron lovely to see you back. Keeping up the hard work of getting the one handed one on wheels to do for himself. xx

Dutch hope you are looking after yourself. You can't do anything for your family and friends if you are not well. xx

Thinking of Eileen, Y Caz, Kathy, Lily, Ben, Alison

Hello everyone, we have a few people having a really bad time just now don't we?
Makes my problems feel a little less to worry about.
But we all have to deal with our own troubles don't we, so NEVER feel that your problems are too trivial to speak to us about....

David I believe in 'mass prayer'. Even if you are not religious, there is some energy out there which helps. I have seen it happen many times... not to myself but to others.
So keep up the prayers David and all your friends..... AND, you are a HUGE help to him David believe that. How is your brother today?

Carole don't forget to send me the AFTER pictures... and don't worry about the smell of the new paint, I can't smell a thing. ;-0)
Where does Coco sleep normally because the smell will get to him while he is ill wont it?

And Sharron, I am not sure what you mean. And I seem to have missed who you are worried about, but I do see that you are having problems. They will get better I'm sure...

I did not know that You are not well Joyce, but I'm not at all surprised.
We all do it...... but it has to stop sometimes.... we do no good worrying.
There is NOTHING you can do... just look after JOYCE!

However folks, I am off again. I will be back but I can't seem to get my head together these days.
We all get this way when we are ill, so why am I surprised?
I'll get better. All I need is time. Sleeping better though, these tablets (third day) are not doing very much, but they are getting me through the night better.
I really need to get well, Lisa and Jon are getting married in August and I want to be able to stay a while at the reception.

you will not believe me but.... my husband is asleep in his garden chair.... IN THE FRONT GARDEN!!
I'm so embarrassed........... ha ha ha bless him.
Love to all, and be good to yourselves.
Deanna XXXX

Hello to all, yes, I am fine- just a little bit tired. Back working nights. The job that was almost finished 5 weeks ago keeps rolling on, so it's my turn again on the night roster. Still, it keeps my employer going and helps pay my salary.
Had a laugh this morning at self. I got home about 7.30 am and just crashed into bed. No shower. Got up a while ago, no water. As announced by a letter box drop a week ago, the water supply in my area has been cut off for maintenance for a few hours. I have drinking water but am hanging out for 3 pm when we get the water back on.
Deanna, I enjoy reading a good rave and yours are fun. Don't stop! Treehunter, you sound better already after your move. I guess your mum died a while ago, but I think we are still allowed to grieve. Mary, I wonder how you cope with the problems. A friend has epilepsy and associated problems, and is unwell in other ways but I have never had to deal with autism type problems so cannot pretend to understand.
David, my sister's husband is coping well with bowel cancer but an elderly friend is not coping well with a hip replacement. She had to have it redone after she fell and broke her leg while recovering from the first. It is making her very self centred and rather demanding. Not like her at all.
PS I thought "Dutch" was Joyce. Are there two Joyces, or maybe two Dutches? I know there are two Caroles.

Also, greetings to Gran of Oz, Purple, Claddagh, Carole Tink, YCaz, Ben, Alison and Mrs Blue Eyes if you're still around and others that I have met on this board.
My computer seems to get very slow on long messages. I type a sentence and it comes up letter ... by ... letter ... by etc etc. Also, the cursed cursor seems to jump up the page into the first part of the message. Very annoying.
Colinxx
PS maybe the water will be back on now.

Just a quick visit,he out amollocking (Cold Comfort Farm quote there) so I can have a bath.

Deanna,stir crazy happens in prison,it's the result of prolonged incarceration.I was always buzzing about like one of those flies until my dad had his stroke.Now I am at home with him all the time,bullying him into doing things(that's the fun bit!).

We have a system now where he has pocket money.He had better start looking for a paper round.

Of course I don't see everything but I do get to hear about it.

One little bit of progress I was particularly pleased with happened recently.Having the stroke deprived him of his speech,he could make the noise but rubbish came out.This stopped him trying to communicate with people outside our immediate circle and even then I had to be interpreter.

A couple of weeks ago I wanted some sago which you can't seem to buy any more.Well,he went rolling off on his own in Tesco and asked one of the assistants if they had any.

Wishing everybody well with their problems.Off for a soak while he shops.

Good luck.

Evening/Morning to you lot. Have been improving slowly, have not been back on my exercise bike yet. Think I will wait till after holidays, going to the ocean and hopefully whale watching again. Have not packed yet but have put my binoculars in for looking for wildlife. I think the break will do us both good. Away from the frost at least.

Sharon did you finally get any sago, I still love it.

Hope you are all well.

Love and hugs

Gail

Hi everybody,
I'm in a deep DOWN just now.... don't even ask, because I just don't know why.
I got up at eight and felt so low it made me wonder why the h*** I had bothered getting up at all.
I do get depressed but this is low... low, low, low..
Allan asked me why I was so quiet at lunch time... took him all that time to notice, but he had been busy before that.
At the moment he is out there his in his chair... fast asleep. If it doesn't bother him, it doesn't bother me.
He could do with the fresh air and the sleep. He has never been a good sleeper. I have always been a great sleeper, so it is noticeable if I don't sleep.

Colin, no water... you too?
Was it Vicky who had none yesterday too?
We do take these things so much for granted don't we?
We are SO VERY LUCKY... and there are people in the world who live often in a worse situation than some animals.
Another cause of worry for me and I can do nothing about it.... don't start Deanna... I will just get myself into a worse state than I am in just now.

Sharon, I know 'stir crazy' I am stir crazy.
I rarely get out these.
I am not without care to take me out but I just don't want to go just now.
I am Agoraphobic and it took me a long time to *mend* myself... and now this new problem comes along to drag me down again.
I'm in or on the point of tears all the time and it is destroying me.
Allan and Tony are good but they can't understand what I'm so miserable about all the time.
Off I go again.... moaning!

Gail, enjoy your break away.
And everyone else who needs a bit of gentleness.... I offer you some from me, and I am sure that all the others will add to that.
((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))
See you all when my mind is a bit better.... whenever the h*** that may be.
Love to all,
Deanna XXX

Dear Deanna, sending you a hot cuppa and a hug, not togther LOL.
Some mornings it's just so hard to get out of bed.
I'll send you some of our lovely sunshine, it's a beautiful day, temp about 70 degrees, sky clear blue, not a cloud in sight. been watering the front baskets and beds.
Your quietness at lunch (good girl for maintaining regular meals) is just a part of it, push the Vitamin B,all the B's - not just B12.
I have someone coming in the morning to repair the mouldy area, the more I look, the more I see. The shelf unit is outside in the sunshine. Someone suggested I spray the walls (which were hidden behind the shelf unit) with a mixture of peroxide and water to remove the mould - i carefully sprayed and it all ran down the wall, now I have a bigger mess.
back to work now, thank goodness I had this week off, must have been psychic to pre-book this particular week off work.
have a great day, dear friends.
Mary

To my brother I must appear to have mood swings as he has said I wasn't there as often or on the phone or doing this and that. That makes me back off for a couple of days. Strange.

We had a cousin lived alone, died alone. Was found thus days later. Very unpleasant, but true

Paradise Lost , tonight ITV 9pm. My cousin and his wife are in it unfortunatly, their home is under threat of demolition in Spain. (Bruce and Mary)

Helo everyone,

First of all let me thank all of you who have been thinking of me, and all who have sent me p.m's and mails.It it very heart-warming that you all really care.
Sorry, I have not really read all the messages on this thread, mostly because I feel sooooo guilty for not posting earlier, MEA CULPA!!!!!

Was very sick and unhappy, mostly due to a bad bout of cystisis and another (related) prob. plus,the meds have still not been sorted, so am feeling pretty bad. Today,one of my children noticed a bald patch on top of my head, which has made my feelings plummet badly.Must try to get some answers soon. Is this caused by the thyroid prob. or the very heavy cocktails of meds I use, not only for the thyroid.The idea of going bald on top has pushed me into an even tighter corner. Hope that (some of you) you can relate to this?

Having said all this, I feel really terrible for not posting sooner, but didn't want to be wittering on about my daily problems, after so many years of 'fighting in my own corner', so become accustomed to deal with my (sometimes terrible) problems alone.Should have known better, this thread has proved that you all care and offer advice/help/comfort, buy it takes a lot to 'teach an old dog new tricks', doesn't it?


Love to all from Eileen xx

Eileen your not on your own my hair you can see the scalp thru it and even when i put part in theres hardly any there,have no idea way unless its the tablets ,but ive give up worrying have to much going on at the moment,but i always think of you as your such anice lady,its very hard when ones not to well and you cant confide in anyone,but i think im right if i say this you can on here as everyone has problems and its nice to share them with others who have the same or there abouts,take care talk to you when your up to it ,did ring the other day but think you may have been at your daughters
Love Dutchxx
and i wish everyone better days ahead

Hello all, reading Eileens letter has prompted me to write a few words. I have been hiding away as I am so far down I don't know how to cope, I don't want to get up in a morning because I have to get through a whole day and I wonder how I will do it. Of course I always do but look forward to bedtime, when blessed sleep will blot everything out. It doesn't though as I keep waking up in pain. My doctor has doubled my anti depression pills but it's not made much difference.
Eileen's point about her hair getting thin, thats one of my worries, my scalp shows through, and doc says it is some of my tablets that is doing it. Unlike Dutch I do worry about it, my hairbrush scratches my scalp so I have to be careful or it's uncomfortable.

I also feel guilty about not writing but I press reply then sit looking at the blank page for ages before shutting it down, I can't face it.

Love and hugs to all
Caz xx