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I'm expecting to hear allsorts at the parents evening but I'll let you know how I get on anyway Jeanette and you can let me know how you go... We will compare notes .. LOL Shaz x

Get your own back everyone.I remember that when mine were all late teens I used to refer to them as ELDERLY TEENAGERS- rOSE

Hi Jeanette My grandaughter will be 14 in December and last Friday her Mum my daughter Sue said I don't know what's happening to her she is getting really lippy and keeps answering back So I stood there went through the actions and did all the moaning and asked is it like this. because this is what you were like at the same age My 16 year old grandson has a girl friend and in summer when they were taking their GCSE's she had more influence over him than his mum, she made him sit down and study Things are a bit differnet now they are at college When my 4 were younger and they started arguing and all talking at once I used to make them draw lots as to who had to speak first and when it came to the crunch most of the time none of them had amything to say Hope you can sort things out with your daughter Love Bren

i LOVE IT bIG Shaz, Senior moment here,I forgot what I was going to add.Oh Yes,got it. My sister in law is on her own with her two 13 and 16,boy and girl.She works extrememly hard up at 4am baking and running her own bakery.Her house is a tip.The kids never do a thing,not even clean the loo after they have used it or wash the basin ,bath or shower after themselves. I cannot say anything and I keep my mouth shut.But I do feel that these two should have been brought up to do more of their share.They never lift a finger. That was what I meant about Family Conference.We all make it dirty,we all clean it. I always thought that some future daughter in law would be pleased that I had brought them up to do anything around the house. Rose

Ah, Jeanette I feel for you. Went through the same situation with my eldest. Said 'she didn't feel loved'. I was gob-smacked! Especially as I had become unpaid taxi driver, taking her too and from school for show rehearsals, shopping trips to town to buy costume, etc for said show. Getting her there for the performance, ensuring she eat before going and being a general dogsbody. This all happened because dad and I said we weren't happy with her going to see a boy in another town and staying overnight. We didn't know anything about or where he lived. She considered us to be unreasonable. If we showed an interest, we were too nosey. If we didn't, we obviously didn't care. Damn if you do, damn if you don't. I can only sympathise wholeheartedly.

Write to school and ask for progress update on all coursework. Get staff to identify what needs to be done by when to catch up. Sit daughter down and 'chunk' the work, drawing up a timetable. Tell her she can go out with boyfriend (who MUST collect her from home) ONLY after requisite amount of coursework done each evening. She may not get ready for evening out until work is done. If necessary boyfriend can sit and wait for her to complete work. Forget about housework until exams are over. Life is too traumatic for arguments about that as well! Best of luck Beth

Hi Jeanette. Had the same problem with my daughter, didn't matter how much we told her that her exams were important, she just wouldn't revise, I said that you need the results to get into college, her reply was no they don't they'll take us from our school.ughh.. But have to say she did well and got onto the course she wanted, But I do know that if they hadn't done their course work, they could be taken out of the exam all together, does she realise that, Pat

Somebody somewhere has been cloning teenage girls! I 've got one too, in her GCSE year, behind in everything, no course work done. Spoke to her until I am blue in the face about throwing away her future, not getting into college etc, etc. Parents evening last week and every single teacher told me what a lovely polite, smiley, bubbly girl she was - but they couldn't get any work out of her!! She does nothing around the house, and yet, her grandma had a major operation last week and lives on her own. She volunteered to go and stay with her to help her out as she cannot lift anything. Glowing reports of how helpful she is, can't do enough cleaning, cooking etc. I had high hopes that she would be a changed girl when she came home. No such luck - she reverted back to type. I blame myself entirely, if I didn't do it, she wouldn't expect it, the other 2, boys aged 19 and 8 are the same. Having said that, they are all my babies and I love it really- most of the time! But don't they just try our patience? Carol