General Chat

Bridget - our thoughts are with you and hope that your daughter will be back to normal before very long. You say you are all in shock, so take care, and let us know what you can, when you can.
We will be thinking of you.

Bridget - thinking of you with prayers and good thoughts <3 at this difficult time. We are all in God's hands and he knows what is best for all of us, no matter how wrong or unfair life seems to be <3

We seem to have got to H - and as Bridget has done hers I will do mine:

HOLLOWAY - Where I have lived, shopped, worked and generally been around for over 33 years now - which is more than half my lifetime!
Pet HATES::
Old Balding men with earrings and long HAIR (what do they think they look like (Even Francis Rossi from Status Quo and David Seaman of Arsenal goalkeeping fame have rid themselves of their trademark ponytails) - and no I am not jealous (even though I have had little hair since I was 25! :-) )
HALITOSIS or bad breath - I can't understand why some people can't buy themselves a packet of Peppermints or the like.
I think that is enough Halliteration :-D

Love and prayers to all <3 :-) <3 :-) <3 :-)
Gerard
PS: Just to let you know that my OH is coping much better with the loss of her three lovely little ones

I remember as a child at school in a class taught by Miss Brown.
Another teacher obviously very upset came into the class room and whispered some thing into Miss Brown's ear.She burst into tears.
Then she composed herself and said to the class,
The King is dead.
Then we all burst into tears.

David, what a sad and moving moment it was for you and your classmates. A memory that has stayed with you all this time.

I hope that you have a lot of long-standing happy memories too.

Thank you Tess
I didn't now the King of course.
I and the others cried because the adult teachers cried...
That's how young emotions work.
But the memory remains after all these years.

David - I was in Miss Crabbe's class when the King died - I think we all cried too! :-(

Thinking of your daughter and you Bridget and all your family. Stay strong. My thoughts and prayers for you all

Love Mary xx

Do hope you pick up all these positive messages, we are all thinking of you Bridget.

I have not been on this week until now, as I have had the mother and father of all coughs, nothing all winter and then wham !! Cannot remember when I last felt so ghastly. Still the suns shining today, and I trust shining on your daughter Bridget, if good wishes could heal !!

Guess I've got I

I is for ice gone till the winter......

replaced by the thoughts of

Lovely icecream cones with a flake in yummmmmmmmmmmm

Investments.........not much good at present

shall I do J.

J is for Jan cos thats who I am !!

J is for Jam, who can resist that first taste of strawberry jam just made.

J is for Jolly, what we all hope to be.

I agree with you Bridge about fudge, not good unless its mouthwateringly good !!

Good morning to everyone and so pleasing to see the "letter test" is continuing..

Your thoughts and comments for my sad situation is comforting. It is at times like mine that you realise just how much family and friends are,

The family are I touch with each other every day and my eldest son as usual has taken the place of "leader and final decision maker" at this sad and painful time. Amazingly one of my step sons who I always felt did not like me has been so kind and said how much I helped him.

The hospital would not allow me or any other members of the family talk to my daughter, this is painful for all of us........

You are all so kind

Bridget

Has anyone on here have experience of being a Foster Care person or Foster child?

If so would you please share this experience with me.

Thank you

Bridget

Bridget - This is Lynda, Gerard's OH.

I was in care when I was 10-11 for 3 and a half months (in my experience it was not long enough) I was put there because my mother worked and left my brother and I with our older brother who was an abusive bully. One of the neighbours called Social Services because of screaming coming from our flat. We went "on the run" for a few weeks to evade them but they caught up with us. (that was fun)

Personally I enjoyed being there and didn't want to be returned to my mother (the children's court thought mother was best) - I got pocket money, I had foster sisters who were nice to me, good meals. a tidy and clean house to live in, Family time in the evening reading or watching TV. There was a lovely park opposite the house with an outdoor pool which was really nice and 2 lovely dogs to walk. The downside was I had to see mother and brothers once a week.

I hope that is helpful
Regards
Lynda

I did respite care of a young boy for four years. He and his brother were in full-time care and I took him every fourth week from Friday afternoon to Sunday evening - to give him and his carer a 'break' from each other. They were taken from their mother and put into care, whilst the mother was ordered to live with her parents.
His carer did a great job and my son and I liked having him. He looked forward to coming to us each time and we enjoyed having him.

Thank you to Lynda you for sending me your message, I wish I was 10 years younger and then I just may have had a chance to look after them. I am afraid that I might loose being in touch with them.

Berona, it is kind of you to tell me about your experience .

I am of course worried about my daughter, but she has got her longtime friend who lives about 90 percent of her time with my daughter and they are very close, if you know what I mean.

I am a little better than yesterday as I Will make sure that I send them letters, cards etc, hopefully I will be aloud to do this.

The pain is always going to be with me.

Thank you everyone.

I will look in tomorrow or on my messages



<3

Good evening to you all and thank you for your kind thoughts.

I have waited in all day today as I learnt from my previous husband that the person in charge of collecting as much information as he can about the children and to explain what is likely to happen was going to call me today. He saw my previous husband yesterday. I guess that I simply must be patient. Maybe he was just very busy as I was amazed to learnt that this is not an unusual event. How sad is that?

You are all such kind people so I have decided to come back and add more of our Letter Choices.

Bridget

Oh Bridge, sounds an awful situation, cannot imagine not being able to talk to my daughter, keeping everything crossed !!!!!!!!!!!!

K is for Kiss, and a hug coming to you....

K is for Kindergarten....a place where innocence is

L is for Love that you have for your daughter

L is for Laughter the best medicine

Have a peaceful weekend every one

H is for Health and Happiness.
I is for Ink ..
Did anyone else ever use a pen with just a nib - we used to dip it into the inkwell. Of course, I had ink upto my elbows, and all over my clothes!

J is for Joy (sometimes I think that if I had had a daughter, she would have had Joy as a middle name)
J is for Jelly . and the skipping song "Jelly on the plate"

K is for Kin and Kindness.

As other have said L is for Love and Laughter (or if you use FaceBook - L is for Like).

Bridget,

one of my friends is a Foster Parent. She is 63 and has been doing it for about ten years.

Some of her "children" are long-term and some she has for respite care.

She also has families - i.e parent/s and children.

She is a normal, hard working, caring woman. Just loves to be busy.

Well, everyone,
We have agreed to a resolve the difficulty already discussed.
I am sad that I am not able to be directly involved but now that what has been agreed is the right thinking to do.
I cannot add anymore but if anyone wishes to contact me please please feel free to do so. Those who have sent personal messages a very big THANK YOU.

To everyone thanks for keeping the thread going on and on.

Best wishes

Bridget

:-(

Thank you all for keeping this thread alive. I am begining to accept all that has happened and one good thing has come out of it all. My first husband has started to talk to me and my husband and I have learnt just how much he has done for all our children. He is satisfied that the children are now in the write place and that we have to accept this.
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I am not adding anything else on here re this situation but if anyone wishes to ask p,ease do so by personal messages.

I do hope that you all well and add bits and pieces soon.

I will start on my next letter later today or tommorow .

<3

What have I been upto?
Well I decided that the garden needed some attention and love. So all the flowers in baskets and tubs have been treated with tender love and care. I cleaned the troughs and add new mulch etc, the tidied each plant and put them back to where they live. The top terrace now looks pretty and cared for. It took quite a while and the time just went so quickly.
On the next floor down, the level of where we enter our house, has the best roses we have ever had. I took some advice about leaving the dead flowered on and let them drop by themselves....so I do not know if this is why the six different roses are doing so well or just co-incidence , but to the eye they are beautiful. All the fruit trees are also providing enough fruit to open a shop. Apples, Oranges, Figs, Lemons, all being used, and just eating them is good. The only fruit which has failed is pears, and I do not know why.....any ideas anyone?

Down by the pool and terrace we have added some plants just for there colour and I am enjoying just walking around admiring them.

Well, that is about all for today,


Bridget :-)