General Chat

Suzy, I think I am over sensitive with this situation at the moment and I too didn't mean to offend you, I did read it that you thought I wasn't wanting the mother there at the wedding which has never been the case. I'm scared stupid if I am honest and haven't slept for days because all said and done I am still the outsider and it's going to hurt like hell to know everything I have done to make this a perfect day is going to be credited to someone else. Also it's daft things like where do I sit in the church, Hubby says it's next to him but isn't that the mothers' place? I just want to get things right and not feel so rubbish!!

little update - Hubby has just sent me a text saying Thank you for all you have done to make this wedding perfect, without you it wouldn't have happened!! It nearly made me cry!! ;o)

Hello 2nd wife (wish I knew your name). I am SO pleased your husband has sent you that message. It just goes to show that the people that matter know how much you have done for your step-daughter's big day. You are NOT rubbish - never ever think that. I know that your situation is not a great one, but it is experiences like this that make you realise that what you have is very precious. Having an easy life means you appreciate nothing. Hope you sent your husband a lovely text back - hope it was a little saucy too!! All the best. PS Are you able to tell us when the wedding day is? I think I'm going to come up myself and watch out for you!!

Hi Suzy, it's this Saturday and my name is kept back for now in case any family are reading and i don't want to upset anyone!! But it's great to get support from you guys and I will let you know on Monday how it went!! Thanks again to everyone for your messages both on here and via email!!

Hello - In the case of divorced parents, the brides father sits with the brides stepmother (you) in the first pew on the left hand side of the church. Your husband will be next to the aisle and you will sit next to him. From then on there is some leeway according to the brides wishes. No. 1 wife either sits next to you with her husband (if appropriate) or in the pew behind you along with the brides immediate family. As mother of the bride,which you are to all intents and purposes, you should be seated last and escorted to your seat by one of the ushers when all others (apart from your husband of course) have been seated. Your stepdaughter may want both you and her mother to be escorted in together - but it's you that has the right to the front pew. I hope everything goes really well and that your nerves turn out to be unfounded - we'll all be thinking of you. Mags xx

Ladies, thanks for your words, we decided that the invites came from all 3 of us, so we are all hosting it. Husband and I didn't want her to feel left out although she did get an invite from just me and him. It's all overwhelming me today and I could honestly just get my trainers on and run. Been close to tears all day, have come into work to get away from it all!! Keep everything crossed for me. Thanks again for all your support.

Hope you have a wonderful day tomorrow and the weather forecast is good too!! We'll all be thinking of you and looking forward to an update. I'm sure all will be well relax and enjoy yourself! Love Linda x

Nudge for an update.

Hello everyone. She sent me an e-mail saying she was off on a well-earned holiday, so I guess we will have to wait until she returns for an update.

what i would do don't think that this might be the right way but here goes be all nice for your stepdaughters sake as this is her day and just for that day would be very stressful for her if there were any fallings out.then after that write or text her to say that she was being very unreasonable on the day and very tightfisted to assume that you and your husband were going to pay for everything .and then remind her that the house nolonger belongs to her as she is no longer married to your husband anymore.