General Chat

Jeanette - tell your sister to use another word - "quietness" for instance - do not let her struggle over a word, she will get a block about it. Just substitute another one that she's comfortable with that means the same or something similar. I do feel that now you have discussed the matter of your grandad's funeral next week with all of us here, you will be mentally much better prepared to "take in" all that will happen, and maybe later on you will feel able to talk to other members of your family about all you see. That doesnt mean that you will be disengaged from the proceedings, on the contrary, it means that you will be looking subsconsciously at all the things you have spoken about, and taking it all in. Maybe you wont want a photographer after all? Love to you and your family - may you celebrate the life of your loved one in a truly fitting style. Jacqui

Glitter I was about say it must be something in the water round here! lol. But........ Jacqui Thanks for letting me know that. I didn't realise. I wish had known at my Dad's funeral. The amount of people that were there left me gobsmacked. I knew my Dad was a well respected and well thought of man at work and in the village but I hadn't quite realised how much. And as you say, you only tend to remember a small portion. My youngest sister is giving a reading - something I found on Linda's thread 'words for the bereaved'. She's trying to decide between He's Gone and All is Well. We all quite like the latter but she is having trouble saying solemnity! Jeanette x

God Bless him. Jo.

Jeanette - I am sorry to hear about your bereavement, but glad that you are able to tailor the funeral to suit a wonderful patriot, and family man. It is not unusually you know to have photographs taken at a funeral, nor indeed videos. I know it sound kind of odd, but it will only take place once and wont ever be repeated. Many many people have photographers etc at funerals to record the occasion - obviously when you are emotionally involved you will only recall a small portion of what is happening, so do consider asking a friend to take some snaps (discreatly of course) as in due course you and your family members will appreciate them, if not immediately. I am a funeral director and often arrange such matters for clients, so its not odd at all to me. Whatever you think fitting, is appropriate. Will be thinking of you next week. Jacqui

That is so sweet you have put a tear in my eyes God Bless him. Love Debs.

Glitter I'm glad you said that cos I had thought of it earlier today, but then had second thoughts thinking people might think I'm a bit odd! lol. So if I'm odd then you are too! lol. I'll mention it to Mum Jeanette x

What a Fitting tribute it will be for your grandad on Tuesday. My thoughts will be with you Love Bren

Pat It had never occurred to us to do this. Apparently they can't approach you, you have to approach them and ask. Fortuntaley my Mum's cousin is the chairman of the sub-mariners club and he called as a family member and sounded us out! Jeanette x

Oh Jeanette. So sorry to hear that.. I bet it was interesting listening to him tell you those stories. How proud you must be.. My dad was in the Navy and how I wish we knew that they could have helped us. he was scatterd in the sea. and they would have taken us out on a boat ... it's a shame that you don't know these things at the time. Will be thinking of you on Tuesday Love Pat

jeanette i think it is davenport.where the field guncrew were based.the ones that done the naval tattoo.they are based in devon i think.so sad about your grandad but sounds like he got the sendoff he so rightly deserved.if it wasn't for people like him then we would not have the lives we have today and for that i thank him.good luck in your search.love and hugsxxxxxx(:

What a fantastic farewell........im sure that your grandad would be very proud

Hi Lisa I just asked my Mum where he was based and she wasn't too sure. She did know he was one of very few who joined up from Lowestoft of all places. Apparently his crew mates tended not to believe this as it was not common practise to join up there. But he had a different 'number' to those who had joined up in Portsmouth. Mum also said she thinks there might have been some connection with Devonport/Davenport. I am going to have a look on the cwwg site to see if I can get his records. Jeanette x

jeanette i live in southsea and just up the road they have a cockleshell social club for members and their families.was your grandad based in portsmouth?.xxxx(:

That will be very fitting Jeanette, we had the 'Last Post' at Grandads funeral, one snowy January, and it was so moving in the churchyard... shall certainly be thinking of you.

That is going to be a very moving service. i have only been to one funeral (a serving RAF man) where the last post was played and it is SO emotional. what a great tribute to your grandad though. Ann Glos

A wonderful tribute. I will be thinking of you on the day. Love Linda x

Jeanette, What a tribute, he sounds as though he was a wonderful man, I wished my grandad was alive when I started my family tree, I bet he has passed so many stories on to you, treasure them and be proud to of been his grandaughter. Love Sue........xx

How proud you must be of your Grandad. It is good that so many want to play their part to remember him. Thinking of you. Gwyn

A lovely tribute, nice to know what they did isn't forgotten, Thinking of you and your family. June xx

Jeanette, what a tribute to your Grandad, its going to be an incredibly moving occasion. love Lynda xxx