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Thank you for this thread. Will make sure I enjoy my almost 4 yr old boy and almost 3 yr old girl now. Sounds like I'll be tearing my hair out in ten years time with all those hormones flying about. The only thing I do know id that life is short and before you know it, all your teenagers will be fully grown with families of their own - and most end up as pretty nice people. So keep smiling. Debs

Thanks everyone its nice to know we are all in the same boat but boy do we love them (i am sure i was not like that) maybe if my mam was alive she would say i remember.............. say no more byesandra

My 14 yr old son and 16 yr old daughter are at each others throats as soon as they see one another. "Rampant hormones in play" should be tattooed on their foreheads. "Why have I got to do it", "in a minute," "it wasn't me," "he/she started it first." Would we have them any different?

All that I can add to this is, it does get better!! My kids are 19 and 21 now and I think that the 14ish age was about the worst!! They are not kids, but also not adults at 14. Maggy

YES THEY ARE ALL LIKE THAT.AS SOON AS THE HORMONES KICK IN IT'S DOWNHILL FROM THERE .THEY GET MUCH WORSE!

Hiya ladies many thanks for all you stories so girls are all the same my friend has twins age12 and she says how they changed when they went to big school and they cant get on with one another shouting at each other all the time.My sister rang me this morning from the airport i said how is noughty nicks today she saidshe is fine but will it last haha my sister has another girl 9 and she is a diamond always hugging you and saying nice things to you lets hope it stays like that

Oh I agree with Sarah in Derby, except my daughter's six and a half and acts like a teenager!!! I dread it when she hits 13!! I already get the mood swings, the sulks, the screaming and door slamming. I get the answer, 'yeah, whatever' when I am trying to tell her something and the other day, I had ' YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO BE MY AGE!' But I love her with my life and I wouldn't change a thing, because she's independant and speaks her mind, qualities that will be admired as she gets older!!

Having gone through my elder boy's and elder girl's teens with no problems at all, it was a NIGHTMARE when my 13 year old daughter (child no:3) turned into the bitch from hell overnight! We had it all, from the tantrums, hitting, staying out, mixing with 'undesirables' to phone calls from the police station! She was the leader of the gang at school (HAD to change schools at 14 before expulsion) when she decided to stay there after morning registration, which wasn't very often. She even reported my husband to the school nurse for 'beating her up'. He was at the end of his tether with her for the way she was talking to me and grabbed her by the shoulders to try to make her apologise. We had a home visit from the nurse and social services - no action! She is now 23 and mother to a 5 year old boy and we get on reasonably well. She recently admitted at a parenting discussion group meeting (she was attending, I was an observer as part of my job) that she was a terrible teen. She said it was as if she woke up one morning and suddenly thought she would become as awful as she possibly could - and she did! At least she admits it now! Most of them eventually grow out of it - it's whether WE can survive it or not! LOL Try to keep smiling - even if it is through gritted teeth! Sue

You have all made me soooo SCARED! As I said earlier, my daughter is lovely and we are great friends. Seldom argue and even then only little things. I was living with the belief that it would always be so but I seem to be the only one who has a daughter like that. I want to keep her as she is!! I had more than my fair share of problems with my son and thought my daughter was my reward. And to whoever asked, boys do grow out of it. Mine did at 27 when he met a lovely girl and her two sons. That was 5 years ago and he is now their Dad. Jacky :-) mother of the best 15 year old girl around!

hi i had 5 kids and i must have been lucky, youngest is 16yrs mine never had swings like that, all i had was grunts and Hmmm, and i thought they had lost the power of speech, but each only lasted about six months, and i'm pleased to say they can now all have a conversation. have a nice day its grotty weather here sandra

to all i really feel for you all that are having problems with their teenagers, just had a little cry to myself reading this , as i am in the same boat, as some of you will know my daughter went off to her dads . Its heart breaking and stressfull having to go through these teenage years for both parent and child. best wishes to you all tracy

Well arent I lucky! Couldn't sleep after yet another clash with my almost 14 year old, so decided to browse, and what was the first thing I saw, this topic. Thank you God there ARE others out there going through the same thing. My daughter was quite normal until about 2 years ago, and now its downhill all the way. Should be grateful we havent hit drugs drink or sex, but the shouting, arguing,name-calling nastiness is really wearing at times. I find myself sitting bawling my eyes out when I'm on my own. It's impossible to speak to her, it's as if she is living the life of this terribly neglected downtrodden abandoned alien, and I and the rest of the family are of course to blame. Do they eventually morph back to normality at a certain stage, or does this last indefinately. Good luck to all of you out there in the same boat!!

I'm scared...my daughter is only 9 and behaves like this already - I'm dreading the teenage years lol

dont get me started on teenage girls(nightmare!!!!!!!!!!) tracy

I have 3 girls ages 22yrs 14yrs and 4 yrs (long gap and a long story for the reasons why0 With the 22yr old i have been their done it worn the B*** t-shirt and had my heart broekn in peices as well. and She hasn't got any better either. The 14yr old, loving, caring, generous, sweet and then one morning she woke up literally and OMG what a changed person!!! The name kevin does sum her up, if i hear stress head once more grrrrr. I WANT MY DAUGHTER BACK! even though i have been through this once I WANT RID OF THIS ALIEN BEING CALLED HORMONE (lol) The 4yr old well their is time yet watch this space. In answer to the question YES !!!

I am beginning to wonder if my daughter is not normal!! She is 15 (just), is loving, friendly, hardly ever throws a wobbler and I am dreading the day she moves out! But..... she is no angel. Doesn't tidy her room (I'll do it in a minute), has to be reminded several times to feed the rabbits (oh mum don't keep on) and doesn't put her washing in the basket until I think I have finished (woops)! Now my son...... trouble from 3. Moved out at 18 by mutual agreement so we could stay friends. Now has a 14 year old of his own and hears his dad and I every time he has to tell him off! And I still wish I had been able to have 4 children! Jacky :-)

thanks for that girls i never had children and i looked after my niece when my sister went back to work till she went to school so i am learning all the time i worry myself sick if she so much as sniffles so all your replys have bucked me up god bless xx sandra

thanks for that girls i never had children and i looked after my niece when my sister went back to work till she went to school so i am learning all the time i worry myself sick if she so much as sniffles so all your replys have bucked me up god bless xx sandra

Sounds like every 14 year old I know. Been there, done it and still doing it with my 18yr old and 17 yr old. Still got two younger ones to go. Something to look forward to. Lol!!!!!

I had 3 teenage girls - why do you think my hair is so grey?? LOL