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Hi All you lovely people This afternoon i completed the task, i took my wifes clothes to the Sue Ryder care home at Thorpe Hall Peterborough, it was a bit of a wrench leaving them, told them not to open them up until i had gone, i filed up a bit on the way out it did'nt help because it was also her birthday, went from there to the grave, put some flowers on trimed around planted some snowdrops in the shape of an A the first letter of her name, her ashes are buried in the same grave as her mother and father, i have made it known to my family i want to join her when i pop off, Thank you all again for your support David

I can't begin to imagine what you are going through, keep thinking of the good times David. Best wishes Julie

David As Julie has said - Remember the good times. And take time to reflect. Best wishes to you. Liz

well done david it cant have been easy take care lou xx

Thanks very much i do feel a lot happier now that i have sorted it, bit like climbing a mountain i've reached the top now i have to get down without to many difficult bits to negotiate i will be ok!!! David

david just take ur time ul get there eventually lou x

Well done David. Just take a day at a time Sheila x

david, theres an old proverb...to get to the rainbow,you must first walk through the rain...keep walking my friend,you will find the rainbow in time,and god willing,the sun will shine on you. bryan.

Hi Jean Yes i feel for you just keep thinking of her because she will always be with you, i have kept some clothes just to show that i have'nt left her with out something to wear if ever she was to visit, ( I would'nt want to get an ear bashing )I have felt her presence on a couple of occasions!! All the very best wishes David

Hi Bryan i like it I'll remember that one thanks David

my best wishes to you david, take care. luv melinda

Hi David That must have been really hard for you. Well done for completing the job. Try to keep thinking positive, remember the good times you had with your wife. Also that other people will benefit from your kind act at this sad time. Chin up, we're all here for you. Deborah

Well done David, I've been following your progress. You'll always always have your memories, but now you can move on with your life. God bless. Jo.x.

Hi David, you've coped marvellously. I hope Bryan doesn't mind but the line he quoted rang a bell in my mind, and there's something similar in a hymn. Here is a bit more: I trace the rainbow through the rain, And feel the promise is not vain, That morn shall tearless be. Very best wishes, Mandy

Well done David, you have moved on which you have to do, this doesn't mean you think any the less, its just another path to take, Love JUne xx

David, I used to be manager of four charity shops belonging to our local hospice (I was a volunteer) and It's because of people like you that the hospices keep on going. The big bussiness do make a big donation now and again but if people like you didn't donate their loved ones belongings to help the shops keep on making money I'm sure they'd struggle. Youve done her proud David and what better tribute to her than she has contributed to helping to provide care for others. She must be proud of you. Love to you. Maureen

Well done David, I knew you could do it. Glad to see that you still have a sense of humour. Continue to be positive and take care. Love Jill xx

Hi it's me again just catching up with you all, blimey you stay up late some of you!!!, just want to make sure i don't miss anyone you have all been so kind with your thoughts and words of encouragement, bit late getting on today have been building a greenhouse with a nieghbour, about worn out and ready for bed, ( i am feeling much happier now it's sorted), many thanks best wishes David

David: I've been sitting here for ten minutes trying to think of how to word this. I either babble on forever, or things come out wrong. I'll just say that I'm very impressed with you and all you've done.

Hi David, I've been off-line for a week, and hoped to see you on the board when I checked in. I think you should be very proud of yourself! Birthdays are always hard. I approached the subject of Mam's birthday today with Dad, telling him I'm going to light a candle for her in Durham Cathedral's DLI chapel on her birthday in September. It was a special place for her as her Dad was in the DLI-- a hero, as well as a wonderful man. It set both me and Dad off crying--then I've just had a load more tears reading the thread about the balloon release in Manchester! It does get easier. At times, like tonight, I miss Mam so bad that it hurts physically, but most of the time now I think of her and smile. I think your threads have been a tribute to your beautiful wife, and to all our loved ones. Thank you for sharing with us all.x