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Hi Everyone Well, we really don’t know where to start. Perhaps we should say that all the kids have gone home and we have talked about what this invasive cancer means to us and our lives. We have cried in each other’s arms and we now have to put into words and share with our “Genes Family” what we are going through. I have been a part of GC for a while – Rob agrees, he has always been one of those "indifferent other halves” – he couldn’t understand the bonding, the relationships and the feelings that we could/do build for each other. Last night, we sat together at the puty and read all of your replies to all three threads, and Rob doesn’t mind admitting that he cried buckets – we cried in each others arms at the absolute love, friendship and united support that has been thrown our way by you wonderful lot. Yes, we both share terrific fears about the next few months:- Me – yes, am a bit scared about the pain, the chemo (not bothered about losing my hair – am not that vane!!), the fact that I’m going to have that “you’ve got cancer look” about me and that I’ll look/might go skeletal. I am strong, I have this cancer and I’ll do everything I can to fight it. Both mine and Rob’s family have been marvellous, they have been supportive and honest with what we are about to go through. Them and our close neighbours have assured us that all the pressure will not be just on Rob to take me for appointments for chemo etc – a relief to us both. But my biggest drive apart from Rob is you lot – I just can’t believe how many people are prepared to travel to Bucks to the meet that the wonderful Donna (much supported by Susie) has organised. My God – you just don’t know the power you all have – it’s so positive, it’s so strong – it drives me – thank you. Rob – I am scared for Gaynor for what she is about to endure. Scared that I may lose the most precious thing in my life. Scared to see my wife in pain. Relieved that I have so much support – but, here I have to say I am just so glad that Gaynor found Genes Reunited. Reading what you have all said about Gaynor, the support and encouragement that you are all showing and giving to both of us has deeply moved me, and that’s the biggest understatement in the world. I know we can both conquer this thing and all of your help and support means so much. I have promised Gaynor that I will keep you updated with her progress as there will be times when she can’t read the threads, but the times that she can, she will cherish your warmth and love that you appear to show for her. Both of us would like to say – thank you so much for everything that you have done and we both look forward so much to 16th October. You have to be warned that you will be meeting two people who will have no compunction about sharing their emotions – we will both cry so much on that day and guess that some of you will cry with us. We fly to Belfast on Thursday to spend a long weekend with very dear friends (what good timing) and shall not return until early Monday evening. We will catch up with you then – promise. Much love and deep affection – we do both need you so much. Rob says stay with it cos miracles do happen if you really want them to ……… Gaynor & Rob xxxxx

Have a great time in Belfast and remember we are all thinking positively about you both. LN

With you and your family every step - loving you, praying and sending hugs from Cardiff. xxxx Annie xxxxx

Gaynor and Rob May you both be given so much strength, together you will find it. We are all behind you. Lynda xxx

Gaynor & Rob, Enjoy your visit to Ireland and embrace you friends from GC -gather all the love and strength you can from everyone. I just wish I could be there for you too - I will be there in spirit. Lots of love to both of you. Christine

too overcome to say anything apart from love you both Mags xxx

You and your family wil be in everyones thoughts . Thinking of you both. LOL Chrissy.XX

gaynor and rob i have just been reading this message out loud to terry and we are both now sat here with the tissue box close by. you are 2 very brave ,strong people and we am so proud to have met you and also very proud to call you our friends! we are both praying for you and know you will beat this horrible thing. terry is kicking himself for not being able to get to your house last weekend but we will get there ,we promise. we are also looking forward to 16th october,i dont think there will be a dry eye in the building. thinking of you both and sending lots and lots of huggs and kisses love susie and terry xxxxx

take care both of you lots of love from lou, cliff, kris and bex we love you

Here's praying for that miracle to happen. My thoughts are with you both, God bless Ann Glos

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and fears with us. We shall ALL pull together in this. Take care of each other, love Jo.

Gaynor and Rob I haven't been on much in the last few days and have only just seen these threads. Stay positive and keep focussing on the happy things that you will do when you are well again. We shall be thinking of you both. Love Chrissie

Hi Gaynor & Rob There's nothing more that I can add to this thread really that hasn't already been said. Lots of love and positive thoughts to you both. Maggy

I would to send you my wishes for a speedy recovery. Rosalyn xxx

We are all united in sending positive thoughts and wishes to you both and I am sure we have all been united tonight in sharing the tears as well. Love to you both Jacky:-)

just remember my friends...breathe in goodness,and breathe out the badness...be positive,surround yourself,with love and good vibes,that will be coming your way from all your friends. bryan.

I'm not often lost for words, but I am now. Thinking of you and your family. With love, Rick.xx

To Gaynor, Rob and family All our love,prayers,thoughts and best wishes to you all.I know it won't be easy but relax and enjoy your trip to Ireland. Loads of love Jude sarf wales xxx

Rob You will need to be strong to comfort, nurse and work for Gaynor to help her to be positive, you will find an inner strength you did'nt know exsisted, your focus will be total, and as in my case when i nursed my wife through her cancer you will find Gaynor will be more concerned about you than her self, but of course you will be more concerned for her, and so a very much stronger bond will be formed. There will be lots of hugging, kissing, crying and above all a fighting anger and determination and you will come through it. My thoughts will be with you all the way Rob, Gaynor be brave, Regards and love David