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Just a question....what do you members think of Teenage Prgnancy, whether the mum is 14 or 18 ?? What would you say if your Son or Daughter (who were teenagers) came home and told them that she/his girlfiend is pregnant????xxx

steedie my sister was seventeen when she first got pregnant.and i can safely say that she was the best mother to her child and even now she is with five.it's not the age it's love and security they need.love and hugsxxxxxxxxxxx(:

steedie 18 is an adult i would not class an 18 year old as a young mother.i was 20 when i had my daughterxxxxx(:

bless her lisa!! xxx

yes my mum was 20 when she had my bro, but i find that some people can think that any teenage preg is wrong xxx

yes but my sister was 17 and when her partner left she was 19.she coped very well and then she had her 2nd one at 19.the kids respect her and love her for doing a good job.you can have mothers of any age that can be mothers but don't give them love and the stability.so i think age doesn't matter.xxxxxxx(:

steedie i had my first son at the age of 17,my 2nd son at 19, by the time i was 23 i had 4 children!! my daughter was 18 when she had her first child,and my son was 19 when his son was born they are both fantastic parents,and their children know right from wrong susie

thats lovely!!

i was 15 and 11 months when i got pregnant, i decided to continue with the pregnancy,and marry, i had 2 kids before 18 years old and 5 by the time i was 26 years old.(non were planned) I don't regret it one bit, but i also don't condone it, none of my children the youngest 16 haven't had a teenage pregnancy so far. I spoke to all of them and discussed protection, and how hard it is to not have the teenage/ 20's years.and they have listened. I'm now 42 and a nanny, young enough to enjoy my grandchildren, and my own kids. When i see young mums. i do feel for them, there are so many things to do and see before having a family. Maybe they should bring back the practical lessons in school, for the boys and girls and then they would see what it is really like. lol Sandra

I was nearly 26 when i had my first and in my 30's when i had my other 2 which was probably just as well as i dont think i would have made a very good mother when i was younger, but that was my choice. My sister had 3 girls by the time she was 21 and was fantastic with them but she's always been more patient than i was. If my 16yr old son came in and said his gf was pregnant i wouldnt be overjoyed, but saying that there are a lot worse things could happen to him. I agree age has nothing to do with how good a parent you are, it depends on the person.

My step children were both parents by their 19th birthdays.... my SD was a parent at 17.... neither of them are mature enough to cope with it in my opinion and they are making the same mistakes their parents made.... Personally i think a person should wait until they are at least 21 to have kids.... this gives the individual time to grow up themselves.... I know 18 is classed as an adult, but knowing what you do now would you really agree with that?

I was 17 when I feel pregnant with my first baby and by the time I was 21 I had 3 and a year after that number four was on the way. I didnt have number 5 until I was 28 and felt ancient and when I had my last baby aged 33 I really felt old. All of my children have been raised with morals and respect and are turning out to be decent people. My eldest is now at Uni and thinks having a 'young mum' is 'Cool' because I am often mistaken for his sister but I'm not looking forward to being mistaken for my youngest's Granny in years to come!! LOL

I was 17 when I had my twin daughters. On my own but living at home with my parents who were brilliant. I couldn't have coped without them. My daughters had their first baby at 19 so I was a young Nana. While not advocating being a very young single Mum I enjoyed my kids while I was young, went back into education and got a degree and am now enjoying the grandchildren. I suppose there are fors and against whatever age you have children. As long as they are loved and cared for it really doesn't matter. Jane

i just hear all the time how teenage pregnancy is on the rise and who should we blame for it and stuff. just wondered what your views were on it

I was 17 when I had my son and 34 when I had my daughter. My son now lives with his girlfriend and has become a father to her 2 boys. My daughter has great plans to go to Uni and then teach. If she should fall pregnant, I will offer her as much support as possible to enable to fulfil her ambition. My support was 'you can't go through with it' from my mother-in-law, what a fine mess you've got yourself into from my dad and not much from my mum who lived apart from my dad. we married before the baby was born and celebrate our 33rd anniversary in December. Friends of ours at the time (and still are friends!) did everything properly with the engagement, wedding, house and then baby and most have divorced. Jacky :-)

Thats great Jean.... I just wanna be honest now, i put this thread up because i had to do a pregnancy test earlier...i was very nervous about doing it (i am 18) so i emailed Lisa (from sunny southsea) and she pulled me together!!! i have taken the test and it has come up negative, but id just like to say thank you for all your positive opinions, even though you didnt know about my situation, i am convinced that i can come to you all for help and advice, so thanks to lisa and everyone. love ya all -x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-

My step-son was 15 when we found out he was to a dad, now he has 2 kids, they are not short of love and the kids are gret I could eat them they are that sweet, I,m proud nanny old fart!!! they have 3 nannies and I am the oldest one hence the nick name.. :) now xmas is coming its time to look at all of the prezzies to get them...age does not say if parents are gonna be good or not. Bev

i have to admit i got to steedies last thread about the test and i shivered, i feel angry when i hear people put teenagers down for being pregnant. no ones to blame really they only do what everyone in life does and it happens. my daughter shocked us all when she was 17 last year. we were absolutely gobsmacked,(her boyfriends a complete t--t, all her friends think the same but she cant let him go though she can see it too) well anyway , that was last october by december she lost it, his parents didnt know until about june this year when i wrote a letter telling them , after mch hassle with this lad. iam sad for my daughter but she has our support all the time . as for people putting teenagers down for being single parents there are some girls out there who are between 18 and 21 (not many i know but some) who will be widows after their new husbands were killed in iraq. those quick to judge will need to remember that. i know none of you lot are like that as everyne on GR are so friendly

Julie, i am so sorry to hear that, but you do sound like a very supportive mother! Luckily i have a lovely boyfriend (well fiancee) who i know would always stick by me. Now i just gotta get meself down to the doctors to see whats going on with my doodar!!! Thanks everyone!! xxxx

i was 19 when i had my first son, 21 when i had the second and 25 when i had the third, im now 28 and wish i had waited but i also think when thomas is 21 i will be 40 and i will young enough to enjoy ourselves hubby was 19 when his daughter was born (from previous relatonship) he says he is quite happy to have had all his kids by the time he was 30