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Gee,,,what a lovely man he is,,give him a christmas hug from me..

Yes Bec we are very good friends - best friends, but I don't want to put him in an awkward position, I would rather not go under these circumstances, I'm just glad he told them he wouldn't go. G x

Well Claire... I'll tell you what I know, He is one of the managers in a Big Country House Hotel (beautiful place) and has only worked there for about 7 months, now then, because the hotel is very busy over the Christmas period they don't have a "do" laid on by the owner as such in the hotel. The staff make their own arrangements at another venue. It was another manager that approached my husband about whether he would be going and called him a miserable bu**er cos he wouldn't go without me....... I don't think it's personal because they don't know me.... they probably say it to everyone, but I must admit, I think it is insulting. G xxx

Gee Baby - If I was you I'd go. You two are friends as well as being a couple I assume?

Gee B,,,,am i hearing this right,,,your hubby can take a friend to the works do ,,,but not his wife,,?!!! What sort of a company does he work for? What a load of S****... I dont blame either of you for not wanting to go and as for those who find it amusing to make fun of you,,,weird sense of humour is all i can say,

Hi Lindy.... yes I agree if he wanted to go but I didn't then fine he'd go..... but in this case I would have wanted to go. Luckily we don't like nights out on our own - we don't see enough of each other as it is to be going our separate ways at night too.

I must admit that crossed my mind Lisa, Works Christmas Parties usually fall into two catagories...... 1. Employees only or 2. Employees plus partner / friend. .......... But to able to take a friend but NOT partner, to me means they are up to no good........ Thank God he doesn't want to go! G xxx

I stopped going with hubby a number of years ago because of the heavy smoking, but I don't begrudge him a good time. Lindy;-)))

Wow G BABY...that's the stupidest thing i have ever heard, fancy not being aloowed to bring your own partner, or make them pay there own way...I would be fuming lol...thats how partners cheat on xmas do's isnt it?LOL Lisa x

My partner takes me if that counts, i dont work :P

Me and my hubby discussed this last night.... he thinks I'm getting paranoid now because I don't understand why he can take a friend but not me....(I think he's probably right) after all he did tell them straight away if he can't take me with him he's not going to the Christmas party. But the thing is I felt a bit insulted that they are allowed to take a friend but partners aren't welcome.... How would you feel? G :(

Not this year. He's been to a few, but I have a change of boss and the last couple of years have been a bit dull, especially for an outsider. When we both worked fulltime the works dos often clashed so we went separately. His firm don't do Christmas - they have departmental things each dept arranges separately, and then they have a posh nosh/disco/entertainment thing in Feb, which I go to. The Christmas party I enjoy most is the one we have at the local rugby club, with our children!

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of course i take him!!! who else is going to carry me home??? we don't have 'dos' we have Balls and it's great seeing the consultants getting pi**ed, we usually remind them about it at the next ward round!!!!!

And what do you make of his place????....... He can bring a friend but not his wife / partner! ____________ Apparently his place doesn't have a do laid on by the owner (it's a big country house hotel so it is full up with functions) but they do go to another venue which they arrange themselves. Personally I find that insulting!!!

Yup - thats how it is with us..... still what's with firms these days who refuse to give you the choice? like I said earlier... I am happy to pay for him to join us so what's the problem? G :-) x

Yeah, me too Shaz! There is nothing that I'd 'get up to' when he wasn't around - and I'm sure he wouldn't either! Been together a total of 22 years now and still like going out together (aw bless!), Mandy :)

Agree with you Gaynor, I am totally in love with my other half and he is with me! Now my ex... that was a different thing entirely... he was a control freak and on the very rare occasion that we were out together I hated it... Any Guy looking at me would end up getting it and then so would I when we got home. But my Darling Man now is not like that and guess what? I Can actually dance with other males and greet them with a hug and leave them with a peck on the cheek. My man trusts me (rightly so) and I trust him (rightly so) yes Gaynor I wouldnt go anywhere without him... like you and yours ... we prefer to be together! Shaz x

My other half is his own Boss so he doesnt have a xmas do and I work at home so I dont have one either but I can say that any neither one of us goes anywhere without the other so if we did have work do's then yes I'd take him and he'd take me! I know we are are a couple of saddo's but hey when we go out we dont have to sit on each others heads all night I can be me and he can be himself so we have a great time. Shaz x

no , LOL, nobody takes there partners where i work, its the partners choice, also, 9 times out of 10 we dont have anything in comman with the partners, as with work collagues you do. does'nt mean your not perfect if you dont go together. i also believe that even though married, you should do things seperatly, its not about not loving them etc, its about being your own person , having your own hobbies,interests etc, etc. I make sure at least once a month i have a girl night with all my friends, its great.