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Thx for your reply Lynn, you mum sounds a lot like mine, mine could give hitler, or someone evil, a run for their money lol. Regards Lisa x

Lisa...I have tried throughout my married life NOT to be anything like my mother. I have 2 wonderful Son-in- laws and a beautiful Daughter-in-law whom I love as my own, and I have never ever fallen out with any of them or my children.If they ever have a problem they want to discuss with us we try to help as best we can but would never interfere. Lisa try to rise above it all you will reap the benefits....how does the saying go...you reap what you sow. Lynn

Thank you for your kind words margaret. My mum was only ever obliged to take her medication while she was under section, since she's been out of hospital, she doesn't have to, and doesn't take any medication, no one even comes to check up on her, I feel like the hospital is some how at fault..she's obviously not well, and yet she is out making peoples lives a misery. Something isn't right. Lisa

THANK YOU MARGARET, I TRIED TALKING TO THE DOCTOR A WHILE AGO NOW, BUT HE SAID IT WAS CONFIDENTIAL BLAH BLAH, THE OTHER PROBLEM IS, MY 17 YEAR OLD BROTHER WOULD FLIP HIS LID IF I HAD HER RE-COMMITED, AND SHE WOULD PROBABLY TRY TO KILL ME WHEN SHE GETS OUT...LAST TIME SHE WAS IN, I DIDNT GO THE HOSPIAL, (WHEN SHE ASKED ME), TO HELP HER GET OUT. SHE DRINKS ALL DAY AND NIGHT NOW TOO, I REALLY FEEL STUCK IN A RUTT, AS NO MATTER WHAT I DO, I WILL LOK LIKE THE BADDY. ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHH LOL THAT'S A LITTLE BETTER. LISA XX :-)

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Thx for that email, It certainly seems it's only us girls who get all the grief. So far I have had amazing feed back, all by women, who say that their mothers love there brothers but not them...Strange, yet very hard. My sincere regards to anyone in the same boat as myself. Lisa xx

lisa i kinda know where yur coming from as my hubby has a mum the same. he has done so well but she was always mean to him as a child , when she eventually had him and her other kids back from kids home she left them in. he came home from the falklands first time and she had moved house without telling him, second time he came home from there( hes ex forces), she met up with him in a pub. when we got married she asked him if he was sure ur baby was his! she knew nothing about me . 18 years later now and no contact with her inbetween last 16 years and when our daughter got in touch with her she was more than happy to chat for a few minutes occasionally. hubby warned us it would be short lived and it was. approx 4 months later husband discovered younger sister he never knew about, his mother then accused him of stirring up trouble , though it was her secret and one he completely by accident discovered, (via internet). our daughter was told on phone by his mother, she no longer wanted to speak to her or us. her loss, hubby has gained a lovely sister and our kids an auntie. you have my sympathy lisa, i cant advice you but my husband gets on without his mum and though she should be proud, i cant make her .i could go on but ive gone on to long here sorry. thinking of you . wish every one had a mum like i had

Thank you Julies, lol, I wish I had a loving mum, but that's life huh. I hate to think this, but I know life would be easier without her around. So many people say love your mum, one day she'll be gone and you'll regret not talking to her, but we've never gotten along, so there really is nothing to miss. Lisa x

i know it sound bad but get on with your life i have been with my partner 5 years and my mun still dislikes him when it suits her dont let her no it gets to you or she will do it all the more you have a life just like she does take care louise

Oh Lisa Tell me about it. I am now in my sixties and I have never got over the deep longing to have a mother 'Like all the other girls mothers' I am now writing a very cathartic book on my experiences of growing up with a Mother I loathed. It is such a strong feeling and I have traced it back to my earliest memories. I hated her trying to get me to sit on her knee when I was tiny. You see she dumped me when I was little,because I was a nuisance and interfered with her social life. It suited her for me to be brought up by my aunt and uncle as one of their brood. When I was fourteen she married again and wanted to play house, so I was taken from the family I loved and set up with her and a step-father and step sister. I left home as soon as I could and never went back to live. As a child my nightmare was to be stuck with her on my own. Guess What- She is now 90 and very dependent on me. She can do nothing for herself and I have to help her through each day. I do it out of duty not love. The nightmare is now the reality. There are still so many things I would like to do with my life. She is eternal and I am going to be an old woman before I have time to myself and it will be too late. YES I UNDERSTAND

I'm with you Lisa.... my mother has always to me that I wasn't wanted as I wasn't a boy.... she already had my sister so I was the disappointment.... now it seems that it's a competition between her and me.... when i left hubby all she did was email me saying how much she hated my dad and wanted to leave him... I just replied saying if she wanted to leave then she should but I wasn't going to take her rubbish anymore.... she's been dead nice since but I am witing for the next "poor me" session.... we get one a month!!

Hi Lisa, i didnt have a life such as yours with your mum but i did have an unhappy relationship with mine, i am the youngest but one of two boys and three girls and i always thought that she neither liked or loved me, my dad and myself were always on the outside, by the time i was 40 i had distanced myself emotionaly from her so that the slights didnt hurt so much,then my dad died and things changed she wanted me near but i hugely resented it and would only see her once a week whereas i could have seen her every day as i lived very close and didnt work,then 4 years ago i had a major personal crisis where i was practically suicidal and for the first time in my life i felt loved by her, i still felt resentfull so didnt tell her how much i loved her then 2 years ago she also died and i cant tell you how much i miss her and how much i regret not talking about my fellings with her, i havent got any advice for you in your situation i only know how much i wish my mum was still here

OH TINA, I'M SO SORRY TO HEAR THAT. YOU HAVE MY BEST WISHES. AT LEAST YOU HAD SOME GOOD TIME WITH YOUR MOTHER, THAT WILL NEVER HAPPEN FOR ME, AND I WOULD LIKE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH MY MOTHER. CAN'T HAVE IT ALL. THANK YOU FOR YOUR REPLY, AND KINDEST REGARDS, LISA X