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Thanks everyone. Tragically he was probably in his late 40s and supported his mother who is disabled.

Jim, This is awful, why dont people engage their brain before opening their mouths. I know we have to look out for our young but there has to be absolute proof before we start even thinking that way never mind voicing our opinions. My heart goes out to this man's family and friends. Take care Jim Love June xx

sorry....words fail me,may he rest in peace. bryan.

I'm so sorry Jim to hear of your sad news. I have a couple of girlfriends who live together and they are called Dykes. They certainly are not. People have to assume the worst when it is perfectly innocent. Jo.

Jim, I am so sorry. I was in tears when I'd read this, my thoughts are with you. Sheila x

jim thats awful news and mandy was right in what she said my thought are with you jim x

Jim, I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you. Take comfort from the fact that your friend is now at peace. Jean x.

Jim, my best regards, and condolences, to his family, Unfortunately a little bit of mud makes a bloody great stain, on a character.........

Jim, perhaps this "someone" who raised the question (and I'd question their integrity) should remember that your friend helped a lot of lads through some difficult times bearing in mind their age. He would therefore have had a profound effect in their lives, for the better. My thoughts are with you and his family. God bless, Glenys x

Jim Such a sad time for you and your friend's family and such a waste of a life. My thoughts are with you. Sue xx

Words just dont seem enough Jim! I am so very sorry about what has happened! I really dont know why people feel the urge to comment on things that they know nothing about! Your friend sounds like a good person who put the welfare of the kids before himself.........people like that should be applauded, not condemned! Once again Jim my thoughts are with you at this sad time!! Bevx

Once again thanks everyone for your support. I expect a lot of our local lads will turn out for the funeral. My son & I will certainly be there.

Jim, i am so sorry. My uncle (well close family friend) did the same. Always here if u need a talk xxxx

Jim, So sorry to hear of this, thought with you at this time. Claire xx

Oh Jim,What a dreadful thing to have happened.Poor man ,So sorry to hear this.People can be vey malicious-Rose

Jim that's so very sad. Love and hugs to you and your friends family. Jack x

Surely someone must have put in a complaint about his closeness to one of the lads? Otherwise, the rumours wouldn't have been substantiated. If he knew he was innocent of wrongdoing, and bearing in mind his mother's reliance on him, would he have committed suicide? He probably just enjoyed the companionship of young people outside the home, which replaced the 'missing' family that most men would have had by his age.......... It's his mum I feel sorry for - not only has she lost her son, she has to carry the stigma with her too......... Are we too 'aware' these days? Our son was in Church Lads' Brigade and other organisations and I never questioned the Leaders' motives - they did excellent work with the boys.....was I naive, I wonder?

oh jim how awful.it just shows the effect that what people say to people can drive them to suicide.very sorry.love and hugsxxx):

Hi Grampa Jim I don't know what else to say except that I am sorry to hear your sad news. My thoughts are with you and his family and friends. Nicola xx

Jim, I think this should be a lesson to us all, we may have thoughts about people, but it is sometimes kinder to keep them to ourselves. Even on this site, this applies too. June xx