General Chat

Bryan i know exactly what you mean i had a meeting on monday afternoon which ended at 5pm, i was in on nights at 7 pm, so basically i got up at 8am monday and did not sleep again til 8am tuesday (i work 12 hour shifts) i was back in again 7am thurs & friday(only i came home at 10 am today cos i broke down at work) i too have to support junior doctors who know less than i do about the specialty i work in. i assume you are a paramedic, in which case i know the extra responsibility you guys have taken on over the last few years

thankyou marion and all of you your opinions are very much appriciated and you are right, i am no good to my patients if i am stressed, cos i know i get irritable and am not at my best, which means i cannot give my best to my patients. i do talk to other staff and the feeling is pretty general i'm afraid, in the NHS today there is not enough doctors or nurses to cope with the amount of sick patients (never mind the whingers) that we encounter. we are all stuggling to provide a service with limited resources and high demands, that is why there is such a problem with recruitment and retainment in the NHS

dear bev, i really feel for you,your on here supporting others,and now its your turn,to sit back and let your friends support you. i work the same hours as you,my rota is changed so often,i have to look at the paper,to see what day it is. shortly they will change me over to nights,and i hate nights,as i have to deal with drunks,falling out of pubs/clubs. we have this "new charter" allowing doctors more free time,while we have to train,and re-train,allowing us to dispense more and more drugs,and roadside resussitation,that five years ago,would be not allowed. but bev,we do it for love NOT MONEY...the nhs needs people like you,so relax,take a break,a day out...comfort shopping,spoil yourself! our nurses are wonderful,thank you bev....bryan.

hi Bev there are those that moan and complain about everything and think the world owes them everthing a minority i know and it makes the blood boil sometimes, but the rest of us know how hard you all work thanks howard again now i'm off to bed goodnight

Howard thankyou so much for that, you have no idea how much that means. with todays goverment and patients charter, the expectations of patients are so high, and so they should be when it comes to the nursing and medical care they recieve. but when they complain that you did not make them tea in the middle of the night because you were seeing to a sick patient, or that the food is not what they ordered, or they missed the doctors round cos they were outside having a fag. it does make you question what you are doing there. especially when the management demands answers to those complaints ( and yes they are true)

hi Bev i have had the misfortune to have to go to hospital and with out the wonderful people like you may not be here to write this go some where quiet and poor your tears out if it makes you feel better please dont give up nursing we all need people like you god bless you and hope you feel better soon Howard

Bev You are not superwoman. She doesn't exist. Everyone feels stress at times. You are in a position of responsibility to your patients and your team and you take it seriously - but stop beating yourself up because you feel weepy. If you feel weepy, that's how you feel. It's not a good way to feel, but it is probably your body's way of saying you need to ease up. I hope you have a restful week and are able to see your GP to talk it over. Someone will always be here for you. Be gentle on yourself. nell

thanks again for all your replies just chatted to my coz in oz and she says the same as all you.................................see the doc so looks like i will be seeing the doc next week might need a bit of support in the coming weeks, hope you all don't mind Bev

Good for you Bev, you're doing the right thing. And of course, it does sometimes help to get it all off your chest and tell someone how you're really feeling. Make the most of your week off, have a lovely relaxing time. Mandy xx

i have a week off now i will see how i fell and if no improvement i will go to GP and get advice thankyou all for your advice and support i feel a bit of a fool, in my position i shoulod be the one giving the advice lol

Bev, you're a nurse - you know that a big cry will do you the world of good, it will be worse if you bottle it all up (particularly if you're not a weepy person). Hang on in there - loads of us have been through the same thing, not always with the same root cause, but the symptoms are the same! Email me anytime and I'll reply as soon as I can. Take care, Love Mandy xx

Mandy thankyou so much, you have started the waterworks again i have held it in for so long that now it has started i can't stop

Bev, I understand what you mean about having 'stress' on your work record. But maybe you have an understanding GP who would call it 'exhaustion' rather than 'stress'? You really need to step back and think about your work/life balance, something to which you are fully entitled. You are going to do yourself no favours by pushing yourself more and more, because it will take you longer to recover. Better to have a couple of weeks off now than six months later on. Get plenty of rest - if you need to sleep all weekend, then do so and recharge your batteries. Also a nice walk to get some fresh air, and do some relaxing things, warm bath, etc, etc. You know where we are if you need us. Love Mandy xx

Barbara & Daisy thankyou for your support it is just that nursing is such a thankless task these days, we changed to 12 hour shifts just over a year ago and now i feel i have no home life i am just so tired all the time, and that is not good for my patients

A human one Bev. Sometimes, and for no reason, these things happen. Your record should speak for itself I would hope. I hope you feel happier soon. Daisy

Anne it isn't as easy as that yes i think it is stress, but that will go down on my personal record, and i worry about letting my team down (i am the ward sister) i have to set an example and show leadership, otherwise what sort of sister am i???

Bev, Dont mean to be negative, but unless you can put this down to hormones, the bursting into tears for no reason sounds like stress to me - as advised above, best to go see your GP. Take care :O) Anne xx

mandy i just keep brusting into tears which is not like me at all (hard bitch) even hubby was surprised when i told him

great minds think alike little kb (what does the kb stand for) Tracy

Hi Bev-from-down-the-road, Sorry about your day; please see your GP if you don't feel better soon. Nothing on here to worry about - we just have another imposter in our midst. Not very pleasant when you consider we are all supposed to be adults! Take care and try to have a relaxed weekend, Love Mandy xx