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Last weekend I added a comment to a thread of Rollos that has since been deleted and a few of you responded. I mentioned that my youngest sons' father-in-law was in hospital, on life support after catching Covid.
He suffered severe lung damage due to pneumonia and also kidney failure. He died this morning having never regained consciousness. My poor Son is devastated but feels he has to stay strong for his wife and mother-in-law. There's nothing I can do as they live in America and I don't even feel able to tell him that he must also allow himself to grieve. He might be the only man in a household of females but they mustn't all look to him for support or he'll be the one to "break". Thank you for reading. X

So sorry to hear this Kay, so many families going through the same sad situation I'm sure.

so sad, my thoughts are with you, Kay...

Oh my Kay, my heart goes out to the family. I hope they all support each other and grieve together, such a sad time.

Florence in the hebrides

I'm so sorry to hear this, Kay.

But you are quite right, your son needs to grieve and to take time for himself as well as taking care of his wife and her mother.

Oh I am so sorry to read this Kay. How sad for your son and his wife's family. And for you too because you are naturally feeling for your son. Has he any friends outside of the family there to support him? If not, if you are close to him, after a few days do tell him that he needs to grieve, men don't have to be strong and silent any more. I am sure that his wife will understand that he too is sad both for the loss of his father in law and for himself as he feels his wife's sadness. The younger generation are much more comfortable than we were/are at talking about their feelings.
But what a horrible disease this is. <3

I remember your post.

Very sad. Difficult for you too as I suspect you want to be over there for your son.

So sorry to hear this Kay, we lost my husbands twin a week ago with this dreadful virus. (Also put on that deleted thread.)My sincere condolences to you all at this very sad time. <3

I think I missed that, LaGooner - sorry to hear it.

LG I think I may have responded to your post on the deleted thread, however I had not realised it was your husband's twin, how very sad, twins are so close he must be devastated. Even if I said before I will send my deepest sympathies again. It is a sad world at the moment for sure. <3 <3

These are such sad times for so many people, It must be so hard when family are so far away . Condolences to all .

My condolences to all concerned, Kay <3

Sorry to hear of your loss as well LG.

Sad to think there are still some who question whether it's real or not, they need their heads shaking.

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Kay, so sorry to hear of your son's sad loss. Condolences to you and to your son and his family.

LG, my sympathy to you and your OH at a sad time.

Last year I lost three of my relatives to the Corona Virus and I still find it hard to think they're all gone.

LG ......... I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Your husband must be finding it very hard.

Thank you everyone, yes he is in pieces at the moment bless him. <3

My condolences to all. Kay <3 LG <3

Thank you all for your kind words and thoughts. Much appreciated.

I remember your post LaGooner on the deleted thread. This is an evil disease.

My son tells me the family have arranged a viewing of Marks body. I don't know if this is a usual thing to do in America but it's not something I'd participate in myself. I'd much rather remember when the deceased person was alive and well, laughing and chatting, than have my last memory of them laying dead in a coffin. My poor son doesn't want to go but his wife does, so he'll have to, to support her. Who'll support him when he's witnessed such a terrible thing? His wife isn't of the nature to tell Ben she'd be ok to go on her own, or jointly grieve with her family whilst Ben waits outside and I'm not even certain that Ben would refuse to go if he didn't want to, if she did want him there. I'm rambling, I'm sorry, but I'm just feeling so much for my son who adored his father-in-law. His only friends are his wifes friends but even they live quite a distance away from them, and they wouldn't be able to meet up anyway with restrictions, plus the fact that there's Covid involved with the whole family. Such a mess, and all 4,000+ miles away. Thank you for reading my troubles. <3 X

Kay, I know that, even in this country, people do go to view the body but, like you that would not be me. It is a shame that your son will be needed by his wife to go with the family. Maybe he can take it as just that, being with his wife and somehow detaching his brain from the viewing. If he concentrates on looking after his wife he might manage without having to look too closely at his much loved father in law. Maybe think of him as being asleep. I hope he manages to get through this ok, such a sad time for the familt.