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Homosexuality and gender problems.

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Sharron

Sharron Report 17 Nov 2018 16:11

Does anybody agree with me that, unless I have some sort of sexual hope or interest in somebody, it is none of my damned business anyway?

maggiewinchester

maggiewinchester Report 17 Nov 2018 16:30

I agree!
Definitely not the first thing I ask someone.
In fact, it's something I've never asked anyone.

JoyBoroAngel

JoyBoroAngel Report 17 Nov 2018 16:35

I think its getting stupid now

Before long your gonna have to wait till a kids in its teens
before you know whether you gave birth to

a boy or a girl :-( :-(

Sharron

Sharron Report 17 Nov 2018 17:24

Not their fault though is it?

Somebody I met when I was working is now a woman but had been a man. She is evidently comfortable and at peace with herself now but, when I was talking to her, we were talking about things that were really not very womanly, me because I had pursued the opportunity to learn what I wanted to know and she because she had been able to do things that would not have been available to her had she been a woman at the time.

maggiewinchester

maggiewinchester Report 17 Nov 2018 17:51

It's not their fault if they're born intersex - I'm speaking of those who declare themselves as 'women in men's bodies', who never quite go the whole hog. To coin a phrase.
I worked in a psychiatric hospital with a woman who was undergoing a sex change - in those days, it was deemed psychiatric incarceration on a daily basis in between treatment was a necessity.
She spoke openly about it, I never asked - she just said - but one thing she was really looking forward to was peeing standing up!
I left that job after about a year, but, later on, I met 'Janet' on a bus.
I have to admit, I said 'Oh, hello.......' 'John', Janet said rapidly, understanding my pause! We chatted throughout the journey, and she too was happy in her body, but wasn't interested in girlfriends, just happy.

Dermot

Dermot Report 17 Nov 2018 19:11

Some bright spark on the radio last week introduced insurance premium rates into the discussion.

Some specialised policies (eg. Income Protection) historically charge higher premium rates for females than for males.

For life cover, the reverse is applicable.

A conundrum for Insurance providers to consider for any gender changed applicants. :-S

Denburybob

Denburybob Report 17 Nov 2018 19:17

Maggie and Sharron both been RR'd. Oh dear, what have you said now?
Personally, I don't really care what people get up to as long as they are not harming anyone.

JoyBoroAngel

JoyBoroAngel Report 17 Nov 2018 19:31

We have had no RRs for ages and now theres been 3 in a week

Kay????

Kay???? Report 17 Nov 2018 19:42


:-D :-D.

Its not RR'd its called.

GAFFER TAPED>

Probally you may have been seen not fully qualified to have a discussion about the subject.


;-)


:-D

Jane

Jane Report 17 Nov 2018 19:57

This is a subject that needs to be taken seriously .Young people and adults struggle to come to terms with how they feel about their gender when they just know they have not been born in the right body, and then how to be open to family and friends because of the fear of how others will react.Deciding to go through the whole procedure of actually becoming the Gender they believe they should be must be the most difficult and most challenging thing ever.The more support and understanding is what is needed and I am sure there would be far less self harming and mental health issues.
Just my view on the subject :-)

Sharron

Sharron Report 17 Nov 2018 20:03

But I do feel that the gender or sexual inclination of somebody else is nothing to do with me. After all, how much time does sex take up of your life?

There is so much more to a person than their gender or sexual attractiveness unless you are making a 1960's motoring advertisement.

Kay????

Kay???? Report 17 Nov 2018 20:20

Perhaps they should be adult about it and have the good manners to ask you to amend the post, not RR because they are afraid to front it.







+++DetEcTive+++

+++DetEcTive+++ Report 17 Nov 2018 20:29

We're probably all now a little bit more knowledgeable about & supportive of Homosexuality & gender dysphoria. A lending ear, if it comes to it. Unless someone is going through a crisis, it's not relevant.

What I can't get my head around is someone who declares they are Gender Fluid - one day they feel as if they are a male, the next a female. :-S

Sharron

Sharron Report 17 Nov 2018 20:59

It only said it was not their fault they were lumbered with a willy.

Kay????

Kay???? Report 17 Nov 2018 21:20


Perhaps they read it as,,,,,,,,,lumbered with willy.

;-).


even dick turpin had manners to ask...... :-D

Sharron

Sharron Report 17 Nov 2018 21:29

Could be somebody who thinks it is the same as a brain.

maggiewinchester

maggiewinchester Report 17 Nov 2018 22:10

My post was about something Germaine Greer said - and she was lambasted for what she said!

Strange how, something you can read on the internet is RR'd on here, in case it 'offends' :-S :-S

Oh - just remembered, my quote used the word 'penis'!
Perhaps I should have said 'twinky', so as not to offend those who live in a 4 year old's world.

One day, I could regale you with what my 3 year old grand daughter said about a female dog, and her male owner.
It was only a description of their differing 'parts', but a 3 year old explaining the difference, using proper language, is hilarious, if somewhat surreal!
..but some would consider that a 3 year old shouldn't know the proper words for things.

Caroline

Caroline Report 17 Nov 2018 22:24

OMG I don't look at the boards for a few hours and now I read this thread and have no idea why anything was RR'd!!

Referring to the Original Thread.....yes Sharron I agree unless I'm hoping for a "romp in the hay" so to speak why would I care what their likings were. Each to their own, sad to say many do have problems as for many reasons they can't live the life they want to live, and those that can go ahead and do so with our blessings.

and the RR can go and........

SylviaInCanada

SylviaInCanada Report 17 Nov 2018 23:22

I agree with Sharron.

Not any of my business, unless I can given them some support in some way.

We've had friends of both sexes who were in same sex relationships, knew of someone who had 8 children with 2 wives while enjoying cross dressing (at least when still with his first wife) ;-)

Didn't make any difference to us ............. they were still friends, some very close friends..


maggie .............. we had a neighbour who looked after my daughter until she was about 15 months old. She was talking by then, and we had always used the proper terms of body parts.

Neighbour greeted me with horror when I went to pick up daughter one day when she was about 14 months...... apparently she had referred to a part of their male dog's anatomy correctly.

"Did I know what my daughter said???????" :-0 :-0 :-0

maggiewinchester

maggiewinchester Report 18 Nov 2018 00:03

Sylvia, to my mind, it saves a lot of backtracking when they're older :-D

My youngest found a tampax (unused) when she was about 3.
We were just about to go out.
I told her they were rather marvellous, and put the one she'd found in a glass of water, intending to explain what they were for later - those of a nervous disposition, don't worry, most explanations go over a child's head until they're 'ready' to accept the information.
We came back, and the tampon had filled the glass :-S
I just swiftly picked it up and hid i! I had no explanation! :-S :-S :-S