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Richard

Richard Report 14 Mar 2017 14:25

I am searching for a lady that was born on the 7th March 1962 in East Dulwich Hospital S E London, she was adopted about 2 months later. Her birth mother would love to know how she is and did she have a good upbringing.
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+++DetEcTive+++ Report 14 Mar 2017 15:10

Richard - its highly unlikely that anyone could identify themselves purely from your post.

Even if you don't want to publicise the mother's name, you should add that of her child. Since the daughter was adopted, there's no invasion of privacy as her name would have been changed. There's an outside chance she'd google her birth name & come across this thread.

Make sure the birth mother & daughter are on your tree, even if you have to invent a relationship. See if both are on other members trees just in case the daughter has already taken an interest in her origins.

If the birth mother hasn't already, she should add her name to the adoption contact register
https://www.gov.uk/adoption-records/the-adoption-contact-register
Suggest she follows through the various links for other info.

Find the birth reg for the child on https://www.freebmd.org.uk & leave a message with a generic email address for possible contact. If the reg isn't yet listed, check back every so often as it's an ongoing project.

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Richard

Richard Report 14 Mar 2017 19:36

Thanks for your help.
The person in question was given the name Louise Collins.
Both she and her mothers name are in my tree, fathers name not known.

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Click ADD REPLY button - not this link! Report 14 Mar 2017 20:00

Someone called John has both mother and daughter in his tree on here. Is he known to you?

Rose

Researching:
I am not related to you and I'm not your husband's first wife!

Richard

Richard Report 14 Mar 2017 20:48

My wife was married to John Collins at the time of Louises birth. Richard

Richard

Richard Report 14 Mar 2017 20:48

My wife was married to John Collins at the time of Louises birth. Richard

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Click ADD REPLY button - not this link! Report 14 Mar 2017 21:15

This John's surname isn't Collins.

http://www.genesreunited.co.uk/tree/index

Rose

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I am not related to you and I'm not your husband's first wife!

Kelly

Kelly Report 17 Mar 2017 15:59

Hi Richard - i am also in a simliar situation to yourself trying to find my adopted half sister. She may well not even know we even exist as I only found this out a few weeks ago. Would love to know how you get on finding your relative - good luck :-)

Richard

Richard Report 17 Mar 2017 18:15

Hi Kelly, I know how you feel. I am new to this and do not know where to start.

Margaret

Margaret Report 18 Mar 2017 21:14

Richard, you say our Louise was born in 1962- in what is now called the
'Baby Snatch ' era.
As she is now over 18, if you are a birth relative, you have a legal right to an intermediary service (under the Adoption and Children Act ).
1) Apply to the Adoption and Permanency team at your COUNCIL Local Authority Social Services. Usually this is free. If they try to fob you off, push back, complain.

This is the usual way to find out the new identity and have them traced and asked if they would like contact from you.
You may have to wait in a queue and the process can seem bureaucratic but it is the only way forward - unless the adoptee searches for you.

It is not easy to find your relative (I don't find it easy) but you certainly have a right to add your name to the Contact Register of the UK. Does you wife want to find her? because you need to be a relative to pursue it.

Also try the other sites message boards like 'missing you.net'., but they will say similar, unless Louise has left a message.

Meg
:-)

Richard

Richard Report 18 Mar 2017 22:16

Hi Margaret, Thanks for the information you have given me, it is appreciated very much. Thanks Richard.