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Hi All, I was fostered aged 4 years old with a younger brother aged 2, his since passed away, I have found links to my birth mother who also sadly passed away in 1982, and this last week I have located her grave, I am aware of brothers and sisters from the same mother and am in contact. I am now looking for my father his name is FRANCIS ALFRED MOCROFT he would have been born in Dudley I think in 1950 and would have possibly moved to Kent somewhere around 1970 1971 as that's where I was born, my brother was born in 1973 and he was born in Wolverhampton but I think my father would have moved back to the midlands sometime before that I have no details of him really and no visual memory, I don't have contact with my foster parents I left there aged 17 years i am aware of a possible address in 2008 in the Dudley area for him but cannot find anything after that, there does not seem to be any evidence of death any advice or information would be greatly appreciated xx

do you and your mothers subsequent children share the same father?

you might try searching for his parents, Alfred & Joyce too

Additional intials for the parents (your grandparents) married 1949.

Alfred B
Joyce I

Could this be Alfred B's death? If all else fails, we often suggest purchasing the DC in the hope that the informant is a relative, but this event was over 30 years ago.

Alfred Benjamin Mocroft
Birth Date: 30 Aug 1925
Date of Registration: Jul-Aug-Sep 1979
Age at Death: 54
Registration district: Dudley
Inferred County: West Midlands
Volume: 33
Page: 0461

Um - 'a' Joyce I Mocroft married 1971 in Tonbridge reg, Kent.

Are these details known to you or is it a co-incidence? Surname of spouse Straeche

Possible death for spouse
Hermann Straeche
Birth Date: 21 Jan 1924
Date of Registration: Oct-Nov-Dec 1980
Age at Death: 56
Registration district: Chatham
Inferred County: Kent
Volume: 16
Page: 0758

On 192.com, including 2011 ER, there is a listing for Joyce I Straeche with 2 other Straeche names, possible children of a first marriage? Its pay to view to get the details.

Part of the address is Tonbridge TN10 - found on www.livingrelativesearch.co.uk.....also Pay to view.

The reason why this has been posted, is that it is possible that Joyce (if related) or the people she lives with may know what happened to your father.
If you were to write, I suggest you address the letter to the person who's name starts with P, rather than Joyce who must be getting on in years. He appears to be the son of Hermanns 1st marriage.

There is a marriage of a Francis A. Mocroft in Dudley 1980, are you aware of this?
Jan

On 192.com there is a Francis A Mocroft in West Midlands. Pay to view site.

Do you know the other people who have him in their tree ? cannot find him with Joan (from the second marriage on the elec roll )

Hi All thanks for your replys, and information its much appreciated, I am aware of a possible marriage to a Joan Halford, but she has since passed away from the information I can see, I am aware that there is an Alison mocroft on here and we have been in contact but didn't really know how or where to start to find any definitive answer as to whether we had the same father other than the names matched, I haven't heard from her since, there are other brothers and sisters and younger brothers and sisters who share the same mother I am in contact with those but none who share the same father apart from my brother who has since passed away I was given the same address as a couple of you have also given me in Dudley which I have been to but was apprehensive about knocking the door you just don't know these days do you and I didn't know what to expect really so I came home I have thought about sending a Christmas card to the occupiers and popping a letter in to see what happens I suppose if nothing were to happen I haven't lost anything but it of course would still leave me wondering. I just wish I had more information to link things together but the only think i know about him is his name because its on my birth certificate I am not and have never been on touch with any relatives just taken into care and all links broken its taken me until now to find my mothers grave, but i just feel like if my father is still around I would at least like to speak to him and maybe he would like to meet his grandchildren too Thanks again everyone I will look into some of the ideas you have given and let you know how I get on xxx

It might be best to wait until after Christmas, then possibly write a letter stating that you are your mother's daughter and believed that he was once married/in a relationship with her, and ask if he has any memories to share.

That at least could be an opener, but although you may be anxious to get to know him, he may have put that part of his life behind him and not wish to revisit it.

A number of people may suggest that arranging for a 3rd party to mediate may be a better approach. Social Services or your Adoption Case Worker? What ever you do, don't go knocking on his door!!

The best of wishes for what ever route you take.