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You know I can't even rant I am having a real tough time at work at the minute I am really tired and I can usually get to grips with it but I am so struggling but thank you for the hugs
Rachxxxx

Rach, have pm'd you, love.

Carole, hope your aunt will be ok, did she not have an alarm that she wears round her neck to alert someone that she needed help?
Hope your other aunt's op will go well and that you have better news of both of them later on.

Lizx

Rach (hug) x How I wish I knew the easy answer to help you. I guess knowing everyone ( it must seem) else is planning Christmas with their kids is difficult for you. It's going to make you wound up, so all at work are in the firing line! Warn them!
Then when you blow hopefully they will know not to cary on any argument you may start. In the mean time try some relaxation
time in a quiet place on your own xxx

Liz we have tried to get all sorts done for the Aunt who we think may have fallen. She just says she is alright, and stops you doing anything. We all worry about her but she is her own worst enemy. So the answer is no, no alarm! Will be seeing her today.
(She is 87 my sister said last night)

My sister in law mum died this morning.

She will be sadly missed.

R,I,P

Hazelx

Thank you for your pm Liz I am trying to stay up but I really am struggling I can;t even listen to music as it makes me cry and I love my music Oh well tomorrow is another day
Love to all
Rachxx

{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}for you Rach

{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}also for you Carol

And {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}for anyone else who needs them

Hazelx

Hazel, I am sorry to read that your sister in law's Mum died, what a difficult date this will be for her every year, being so close to Christmas.
May the poor woman rest in peace.

Carol, hope your aunt will be ok - these elderly folk can be so stubborn but as you say, their own worst enemy. A fall turns out to be much worse if you have lain in the cold all night whereas an alarm call to the centre to get some help straightaway could mean a shorter stay in hospital and less pain and discomfort.

Hugs to all who need them,

Lizxx

Night night and god bless to all
Rachxxxxxx

Excuse me while I scream ARGGGhhhh!!!

YES I AM SHOUTING.........

COLIN..... IF YOU HAVE GONE WITHOUT SAYING GOODBYE TO ME, AND NOT GIVING ME THE CHANCE TO *DEMAND* THAT YOU STAY........... I WILL BE SO, SO HURT.
AS SOMEONE SAID... CAN'T REMEMBER WHO.... I HAVE BEEN LIVING IN A WAR ZONE AND UNABLE TO REACH MY POOTER FOR A WHILE.

PLEASE DON'T LEAVE.
IF YOU HAVE ANY PROBLEMS, WE WILL HELP YOU.

LOVE DEANNA XXXXX

Hazel, so sorry for your loss.
Carole (Caz) I will get back to you now that I am able to get to my pooter.
it has not been as bad as we expected... but the last week has been a nightmare.
We had to leave the house and eat out, and come home after about 5 hours!
glue drying on the floors.
It does look nice though. We have now to put everything back in place, and the bathroom floor is to be laid tomorrow.
The men were lovely , and tried to make the whole experience as easy as they could.
we lived in the living room with the micro wave, kettle, toaster, bread bin..... you get the picture don't you?
But it was not half as bad as my mind made it.
As a child I was the same, I hated parties, and being army babies my sister and I went to many.
I used to build up a dreadful picture in my head, and usually it was a great party.
On the other hand, the ones I looked forward to often turned out to be the horrid ones..
So now you have it, Deanna's weird mind in a nutshell.....
Nothing to worry about??
Design a problem for yourself!!

I was shy, so that was the problem... now I am well able to get out and about, I need help to go out!!
Life and its problems... we are never happy are we? ;-0)
Well, better go and put the washing away.

Bless you all and keep smiling, and please look after yourselves.
Deanna XXXXX

I can't believe my Aunt is getting worse by the day. Yesterday she told us she could see steam coming out of the ceiling. The beds have all got ironing boards next to them. The dinner lady gives her injections. No one has been to see her. Her mum has a cat now. I asked her if she knew what day it was? She thought about it and said the 6th. It was, but then she said I haven't seen any fireworks. My uncle ( her brother) went today and phoned me tonight and said she was looking at him without a glimps of recognition. It's quite a shock to see someone get like this so quickly. At 87 she did forget things, but never like this.
Dr told my uncle they are going to do a scan to see whats going on. Fingers crossed for her.

Carole, sounds sad that your Aunt is like this but hope the doctors can find out what's wrong, apart from the obvious, sometimes I think water infections and dehydration can cause a lot of confusion. She doesn't sound particularly unhappy tho.

Lizx

My niece and nephew went to see Auntie last night, they couldn't belive the way she was, it was a real shock for them. Funny she didn't know her brother earlier that day. But she asked me how my kids were and said their names Sunday.

Thinking of our friend Caz and her husband today, lets the news isn't too bad xx

Hi All
Im back again with life assaulting from all sides time to check in.

this time its my daughter i am convinced that she is suffering from depression of late she has become even more selfish and self obsessed than normal she just seems to sleep all the time or stays up till all hours then cant wake up to go to school next day she has also started to say things like im never going to have children no one will ever want to marry and i dont want to live to be an adult.

last night she saw my new organ donor card and so we had the inevitable 20 questions about the whys and wherefores and then she said "if i was dying you would give me one of your organs to save me" to which i replied "of course i would i could give you one of my organs to save yr life i would do it with out hesitation" she replied "dont bother i dont want to live anyway"

Whilst it dosnt surprise me she is depressed given the family history im a depressive, her grandmother is a narcissistic depressive and her aunt is an alcoholic depressive so her genes are kind of stacked against her. my family is living proof of the genetic link for depression!

The big question is how to approach the subject my daughter is somewhat of a hypochondriac at the best of times and has a lazy streak a mile wide and i am just worried that she will use her depression as an excuse to do even less than she does now the old chestnut of " i cant do that because i am depressed"

god only knows why life has to be so hard its not like i dont have enough problems trying to deal with my own feelings and then there is my son who has multiple learning difficulties and is having a really shit time at school. he turns 16 on Monday and i really do wonder what the future hold for him.

The only think that stops me from going completely mad is my hubby he deserves a medal for putting up with us all. they are not even his kids yet he still is prepared to take all the flak that comes his way.

Claire

Sometimes I think we are not depressed at all, just utterly worn out and frustrated at what life chucks at us.

I would think the first person to talk to about your daughter would be your husband.He is not seeing it with your depressive eyes and he is going to have to be in there with you whatever you do.

Sharron
Funnily enough we talked about it last night and he agrees that she certainly seems to be displaying the sings of depression so its not just my coloured view. I guess he didnt want to say anything until i broached the subject knowing that i can detach myself enough emotionally to see what is going on (a skill i have had to learn when dealing with my son) but knowing that acknowledging the fact that she more than likely has depression would be difficult for me.

I know she is only 14 and being a teenager is not easy and they all go through difficult times but there is a subtle difference in her behaviour over the past few weeks lots of little things that when you take them as a whole makes you wonder.

I also did check out a few websites about teenage depression and looking at the general criteria of symptoms and signs she is certainly ticking a lot of the boxes.

I dont wish to appear conceited but i know my both my children very well and having spent several years with a child who didnt speak and has subsequently been diagnosed with autism amongst other things i became very adept at reading body language and attuned to subtle changes in behaviour

The more angles the better.How does she feel?

If you can all recognize it you are going to be one helluva team to deal with it. Lucky girl not having to do it alone.

There is a new lady on the narcissistic mother'e thread. I think she could do with a bit more support than mine and I have to go and look busy for a bit.

Could somebody have a look please.

Hello everyone,
I am taking a rest this afternoon as I am feeling really, really tired.
We have been up early everyday 6.30 to 7.00 and although to a lot of you that its normal, to me it is the middle of the night!
...... Well folks, son has just come in and since it is his birthday, I am going to speak to him.
Bless him, he needs a bit of good luck so that is what I wish him for his birthday.
speak to you all later.
love,
Deanna XXXXXX