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you are not a loser honey - you are a fighter!!!!!!

Hi Gill, lovely to see you, you are not a loser, get that out of your mind now. You have not let anyone down either, you came back to talk to us,please keep looking in. I think you are so deep inside your black cloud that things are getting out of proportion now, it does happen, so will you tell your doctor tomorrow exactly how you feel? And will you come back and tell us how you went on please, we are all willing you on, we are behind you, never forget that.

Caz xx

Gill.... where is this loser talk coming from?
YOU ARE NOT A LOSER.

It is actually a label that I hate.
People everywhere, everyday are trying so hard to fight one problem or another... some of us succeed and some fail.... even after the hardest and longest battle.

So you can put that loser idea of your in the bin!!
You will be fine.... we will ALL be fine, together. x

***I am so upset at the news about Joyce, bless her she was a funny lively lady.
She had just pm'd me a few days ago, and we had a giggle.***
RIP Joyce love. XXXX

See you all later folks ,and look after yourselves .
Caz... is the finger pads for the same reason then?

Deanna XX

Morning all, a wet and foggy day here, more snow promised for this evening till tomorrow. Up the Vitamin D!!

Gill and Angela, we are here for you, I cannot say it any better than Y Caz has done, many of us are very familiar with that black hole, when we think we will never be able to climb out. I wish this thread had been available to me when I was deep in the blackness. It's so reassuring to talk with people who share some of the same anxieties, means much more than a highly-paid psychiatrist telling you 'this will pass' once the pills kick in. That's not to say we don't need meds, but we also need ongoing support to stay focused on health of the mind and body, and to clear our personal triggers. Pills on their own are not enough. I had excellent counselling from the psychiatrist, but never did tell him the REAL reason I cracked, or that I had tried to end it all, more than once, just wasn't totally comfortable in that setting, probably shame that I had reached such a low that I had to admit help was needed. It was 5 years later before I admitted to a friend what had happened to send me spiralling down.

Reading news of the death of a friend, really hits home to me this morning, to think that I ever had such little self-worth or value for life, that I would have considered leaving early. It's been an extended path but there really is some light above that blackness.

On good days we can help others, on bad days we can receive a listening ear. Never be afraid to unload/admit your feelings, that's the first step in healing & potential recovery.

Positive thoughts and hugs coming your way.
Mary

Hi Deanna, Mary, Ann, yes it is the chemo Deanna, makes it very hard to do things, took me all morning to prepare veg for beef stew.There's only me that can think of doing stew when my fingers are sore but I'd got the meat out of freezer by then defrosting. Oh well, I suppose we we can all be a bit dizzy at times.

Caz xx

Hi gang

sorry that I didn't get on yesterday I braved it and went into town to meet a friend I hadn't seen for 3 years .Had Carole's problem as soon as I got off the bus !
We went for a cuppa and I was embarressed that my hands were shaking when I lifted the cup .Went round the shops and I was fine then .I bumped into several people I knew and one who I have not seen for ages which was nice as she gave me a big hug . Can't remember the last time I got a hug .
I used to do shiatsu and they were a very huggy tactile lot may be I should try to go back .

Reading the posts it sounds like some of you are having a really hard time .Sending love to you all xxx

Back in the days when I was almost normal I helped out at a healing centre run by the NFSH which is the national federation of spiritual healers .It is a none religious organisation and has nothing to do with spiritualism .All the healer's have to go through strict training and go before a panel before being accepted .I don't know any healer who charges only donations for the upkeep of the centre .Home visits can also be arranged for those who can't attend a centre .

What I am trying to say in a long winded way is that some of you might like to try it .It can do no harm and most people who came for treatment found it very relaxing .If you google NFSH you will find healers in your area .You can also ask to be included in the distant healing book .

Hope you all have a good day
love
Kathy xxxx

Y Caz, next time a tin of spuds and some frozen vegs will give you a morning off!!
hugs
Mary

yes I realise that now Mary, but I am one to do things from scratch, always have been. My sister says I make more work for myself, but I have always liked things home made, more satisfaction.

Caz xx

Afternoon all...

Caz im making beef stew as well today and like you i will only do it from scratch, homemade tastes so much niceer than packet....

Sending everyone my Best wishes for the day and hope your all feeling well....

Kerry

I always make from scratch too, just thinking how your poor hands could have a rest. There is no question that scratch is the best , I use no Bisto or OXO, just meatjuices and seasonings. I keep frozen vegs for quick meals,or spur of the moment.

Mary, girl after my own heart. I take short cuts now, frozen veg or those ready peeled etc I usually get mine when they are in the reduced tray, did a lovely casserole the other night with a bag of mixed root veg and a pack of reduced beef, opened a tin of peas to go in too, used a left over half jar of tomato and herb sauce out of the fridge, and served it all up on a bed of brown basmati rice. It tasted great even tho I say so myself, had left it slow cooking in oven for a couple of hours and was fine.
Right now I have made everyone hungry lol, just want to say I am fed up, cos can't get hold of the counsellor, she has called in sick today so wasn't given my message of yesterday and means I have now missed two weeks counselling, just as I thought I had found someone who was understanding where I was coming from.
Heyho, back to the drawing board, second let down on counselling in the last few months.
Gotta get on with some bits and bobs, only been up an hour but love to everyone and stay strong, together we stand, together we fall, we will all be there for each other.
Lizxx

Hi All, Liz, sorry about your counsellor, what a nuisance just when you found somebody, still I suppose even councellors can be ill!! Hopefully you will get another appointment soon. i was actually very lazy last week, found a bag of diced swede and carrots in tescos which I put in a casserole. actually it backfired on me as i only used three quarters of it and left the opened bag in the fridge. OH got something out of the fridge and picked up the diced veg bag - upside down- veg all over the fridge!!!

Gill, no way are you a loser, and you have let nobody down. You are feeling that way because you are so poorly, do let us know what the doctor thinks/says, hopefully a change of medication will help you. keep talking to us.

Deanna, you have got the right Joyce in your mind haven't you? The sad news is not the Joyce who posts on here, I know I get confused as there were at least four Joyces on the boards. Just Joyce has been unable to post for along time because she was so unwell. If I am wrong, sorry but wouldn't want you to make a mistake about it.
Caz and Kerry, all this talk of stew is making me feel hungry! It must have been so painful for your poor hands Caz doing the veg.

Kathy, well done meeting your friend in town, sounds as if you enjoyed your outing.

Ann
Glos

Ann I think you are right, I got the wrong one, but I hope she is at peace anyway, God Bless her.

The other one will sort me out soon enough.... look at me, I'm shaking here.....

Deanna XX

Deanna, i thought you had, no damage done though.
Just Joyce had a great sense of humour and Joyce Justice of the peace does too. easy mistake to make so stop shaking now!!

Ann
Glos

Deanne, Caz and Annxxxxxx
and all my other friends on this thread....

It was with great sadness that I learnt of Just Joyce's passing..she is now at peace and pain free.. she was a very much loved person and will be sadly missed by all of us.....from one Joyce to another, rest in peace lass xxxxxxxxxxxxx

JoyceP

Caz and Deanne.....pm's are enroute to you both....


JoycePxxxx

thanks Ann.......................

Liz - "together we stand, together we fall" - please somebody, batten down the hatches, there is going to be turbulence if we all go down together!!!!
off to work now,
Mary

Caz how's the stew..?...Mine was yum although kids turned their noses up and asked for something different..

Delicious Kerry, I felt good to have made it myself as well. Hubby has to do the cooking as I am not safe with cooker now, I burn myself a lot so I bought a slow cooker and it's wonderful, I'm in charge when I use it.

Caz xx

glad the stews were nice. I did grilled pork chops, mash, mushrooms and beans. But OH has to mash the potatoes at the moment. He is on a steep learning curve as he has never done any cooking except fry. But now he can mash potatoes!!!!

where is everyone this evening then?

Ann
Glos