General Chat

HI Julie,
I'm a bit late reading your message, but PLEASE, go and see your doctor. There is no shame in having to take anti depressants, I have needed them all my life - when I last stopped taking them I self harmed, attempted suicide, and went through hell (and put my family through it too) for three years. I am back on an old Trycyclic drug now, the only one that seems to work for me, but it is just so good to be alive again. Major depression is a chemical imbalance, just like diabetes, and needs medication. Please don't put off seeing your GP if you havent already, and join the club of "survivors" who are glad to be alive!
Pauline

Hello I take those but I have the highest dose. I never knew what depression was until it hit me. I have spoken to many people and have found it helped them as well as me. Mine was family I never set eyes on them for almost 40 yrs. They welcomed me with open arms then really made my life hell by bullying me. That was the reason I never had anything to do with them in the first place as a member of my family bullied me but I thought after all those years things would be fine. It couldn't be further from the truth. I really am all for having your friends instead of your family in a lot of cases. I am OK now as long as I keep taking my tablets. I tried to stop once but I went back to square one so I am afraid I will be on the 1 a day for ever.

keep taking the tablets as they say!! I've been on them for about fifteen years now, also made a serious attempt at suicide - but with my regular medication I am just fine. Nothing to be ashamed of and people who think it is a stigma are so very wrong - it's an illness like any other illness, except it's a non visible one - but just as serious, moreso in many cases.
Tried to come off tablets with GP assistance but failed - no worries he said, you can be on them till the day you die, won't hurt at all

Ann is right everyone, keep taking the tablets.
I had to come off them last year for a test I was having, the doctor explained how they work on the brain and that I had to do it slowly.
I did it, had the necessary test, and within a month was back at the doctors to go on them again.... crying all day is not my idea of fun!

I have had my iron tablets sent to the chemists.... OH has just brought them in for me.
NOW I don't know if i should start to take them before my blood test tomorrow, or wait??
Ain't life one big puzzle?

Have a lovely day all of you, I can never remember all your names, but When I'm on my own.... I think about you all ...by name!
Told you, I'm just stupid.

Deanna XX

I am off to bed now, have spent my day on MIL family tree and printing.

Deanna, if you say you are stupid one more time, this gran is going to put you over her knee and spank you, naughty girl.

It is hard to remember all the names, so I write them down, especially the newer posters.

Think of all of you, hopefully things will settle a bit for me soon, but wont hold my breath.

Take Care,
Gail XXXXXXXXX

Deanna, there are so many people posting on here now that it is impossible to remember and 'talk' to everyone. Why not phone and ask the surgery if you should start taking the iron before or after you blood test.

I have been trying to be good and work on my tree the last couple of days, think i may have got bck another generation on a brick wall line.

Ann
Glos

I have been getting all the info for my family tree but I would never be able to list everyone I would need a whole ream of paper there are 1000's of them. People might say well there are 1000's in their family trees well that's OK but when you have got people turning up with a relative and the wife of that relative went on to have 22 children the 1st one born in 1934 and all those children have had over 100 between them and now there are grandchildren and that's just one person in the family.

hi carol,deanna,ann,gill,gail.caroline,well everyone realy arnt i getting clever have managed to rember some names hope you all having a nice day ,im not to bad today,feel a little better ,so im making the most of feeling a little well ,had a little walk to daughters only 5 mins away but went on my own i did get a little stressed waiting for hubby to come and get me but i rid it out regards to all elaine

well done elaine i know its not easy but your getting there one day at a time hun i remember the first time i let myself have a panic attack i was at a friends house and i just felt all panicky i sat there saying in my head its ok your just a bit panicky you will be ok soon and after it i was ok but before when i tried to stop panic attacks happening i got more panicky and more stressed out and i was so scared so now if i have one i just let it happen (((((hugs))))) elaine

love and hugs to all

carolina xx

I've made a massive decision (well for me its massive) and just wanted to share it with you and maybe get a bit of advice...
I joined GR to find out about my fathers side of family, you see my Dad left when i was 6 wks old and theres been no contact since..Ive found out loads on him, i have his birth/marriage certs..Have spoken to his old rellies but no one has seen/heard from him in about 30ish yrs, Anyway for the last 15 yrs i have been searching..I would have given everything i own just to meet or just have a chat with this guy, it almost took over my life and became an obsession to find him..I have no decided that im not gonig to search anymore..Im done with it, Im sure thats what made me ill,all the stress of it..Should i really make myself depressed and stressed over a man who abandoned his baby and made no attempt to keep in contact? with and could i cope with the rejection if i did find him..Dont get me wrong, if he knocked at my door id be really pleased to meet him but as for me getting more and more frustrated with looking for a needle in a haystack (his surname is Jones) im going to stop and i feel good about it...
Sorry to go on just wanted to tell someone...
Kerry

Kerry, I am sure that you have made the right decision there. If you have not found him and you have really put a lot of effort in it seems like he wont be found. Not worth the hassle is it. get on with your life, if he turns up, all well and good, if he doesn't it really doesn't matter does it.

Well done for making the decision.

Ann
Glos

Thanks Ann...

Your right , it really doesn't matter...I have more important things in my life to worrry about..

n

hello everyone

I hope you all had a good day

ycaz I hope you are doing ok today.

Gill

Hi Gill,
Are you OK now?

Ann
glos

Hi all the old gang and welcome to the new ones .Now I will never remember every name !!
I hope you are all having a good day .I have been bad and have not gone out all day .It is really cold here and we had some snow in the morning so that is my excuse.
Some rotten person phoned me at 6am got me out of my bed then hung up .Eventually fell asleep only to be woken before 8 with banging on my door .Nearly had a heart attack .I always associate loud knocking on the door with when the police came to tell me George had died .
Turned out to be the postman with a parcel .

Think I have already mentioned that I have an addiction buying victorian photo albums off ebay well it was my latest purchase .64 photos and only 1 had a name !!!! The spooky thing is the 1 name may be a relation .I have spent all day looking at ancestry etc to try to establish the link .
I have made pea and ham soup .Anyone want a plate ???

Kathy xxx

where are you Kathy - snow? My son rang from York this afternoon and said they had received a weather warning for snow! And by the way I do like pea and ham soup

hello Ann

I will just have to get used to these people and try to ignore them, I know they are not worth worrying about but I just get tired of them continually on my back.

Anyway, trying to be positive now,
Thanks for listening Ann

Gill

Hi gang, there's no other way to say it is there, so many of us. If we counted from the first page I wonder how many names there are?
Gill glad to see you are going to ignore them, and I am doing the best I can with soles of feet the colour of strawberries, waiting for the blisters now.

Pea and ham soup is my favourite Kathy, can you put some in the post for me please. Is it made with a ham shank?

I came on to see if Malc had posted how he went on today, but doesn't look like it yet.

Right, off back to bed, just got up for my tea, see you all later.
Caz xx

I've been wondering about Malcom too - c'mon Malc, let's know what happened, even if you didn't make it, just let us know - we're all rooting for you whatever occurred today, so come on, show yourself!!!!

Love Ann XXXXX