General Chat

Dave - now stop getting up tight about going to the club - you well know that it will be fine and you're getting wound up about absolutely nothing - so stop right now and instead think of actually enjoying yourself. If you come back on here and say you didn't have a good time after all I shall bombard you with pm's and you would not want that - be afraid, be very afraid!!!!!



Ann XXXXX

Carole, I do write short lists.

I do them one room at a time.... and if there is a particularly BIG job in the room, i don't add it to the list.
It is something 'my head' decides to do when all around me looks ... dare I say Normal(?)

Dave , I take it you have problems leaving the house and going amongst people?
Am I right then?

If I am Dave... as a sufferer, please allow me to give you a little tip.
It will sound stupid to most people, but not to me.

IF you have to go by yourself......

Go out, look straight ahead.... and one step after the other..... until you get there.
Once there you will find a friend... and that is the start.
Told you it sounds stupid, but I've done it.... not easy, but so rewarding when you have done it.
Good luck Dave, have a lovely day, you are the most important person in YOUR LIFE.... look after DAVE.

Deanna X

Dave please do not feel guilty about posting your problems. We are here for all of us and that includes you. We are here to listen. Nobody's problems are considered trivial.

Diana had some good advice for you there. When I worked I had a friend who was agraphobic. She would phone me to say she was leaving a certain place at a certain time and would know I was walking towards her, she could then leave wherever she was without panicking knowing she was coming towards me. I was her 'safe haven'. We then continued together to home or work or wherever. That was in the 50s.

Ann
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Ann
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I have just been to the surgery to have my dressing changed - exhausted now getting in and out of the car. Nurse was really pleased, couldn't believe it was only Tuesday I had it done. She said it was healing really well, no inflammation or anything. When I got home I had two lots of flowers, carnations and chocs from my sister and a lovely freesia bouquet from son and family (although orchestrated I am sure by Daughter in law bless her. I do love flowers so I feel really spoilt now.

Ann
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Dave - do not apologise for "going on" as you call it, we want you to come clean and say how you are feeling and then we will all do our very level best to help you through it. Just a thought, but have you ever had counselling for this bullying that has obviously blighted your life? You may have touched on this before and perhaps I've missed it, but I really think you should do something positive about it or the bullies will have won and we certainly do not want that. Bullies are essentially sad inadequate people who take out their own shortcomings on vulnerable people. I don't for one minute think bullies are very happy people and they need some sort of help too, but only AFTER their victim/s have received help.

Dave it dosen't matter how old you are. I have said before we feel 10 or 20 in our minds even thought we are a lot older! So for you the bullying at school is still formost in your head. Remember you are now 32,
and people round you are older too. While there are idiots who may see you as a soft touch try to have a quick answer to their put downs. Mary is right their words say more about them than they do about you. You may feel silly but they look a ****** ( put what you want there!) lol Also you might want advice at the moment, but as you feel more confident you will be able to help others with your experiences. x That is something we all look forward to !! Like seeing Carolina tell us to take our tablets xx

Gail when you look in, we are thinking of you don't like to think you are upset.xx

Ann how nice to get those flowers xx

Deanna you are doing a good job ! xx

Afternoon all....

Hope everyone is feeling ok today...??

Dave...I can relate to things you're saying n I know no matter what advice people give you it makes it no easier to face the things that terrify you the most ie...people, situations, confrontations, groups of people...etc etc....all I can say is it will grow as your confidence does. I'm still not there yet either. I have a day coming up soon where I will be spending the day with 9 of OH's friends (1 being his ex wife!) n It's eating me up inside already....I'd do anything to get out of it but I know the only way to conquer fear is to face it......but it's scary...!!

Anyway....been to GP today, has given me another 2 months of tablets n said I will be on them for at least 6 mths as I scored very High on my 'depression test'. Back to see her in 2 mths.
Am a bit 'peeved' tho cause I went for a repeat script 2 days ago as my tablets ran out before todays appt n had to pay £6.85 for 1 weeks supply then another £6.85 for todays...a bit unfair I thought as It wasn't my fault the appointment I was given was after the tablets ran out..!!

Have been worried about my 19 year old daughter today too.....recently she has been stupid n got caught doing 105mph on the M25 n had to face the courts today.....luckily for her she was banned for only 14 days n fined £175......was expecting more n to be honest she deserved more...but she has learnt her lesson now.........kids..who'd have um..!!

Well...sorry for 'going on abit'.....Once I start I can't stop.

Love n hugs to one n all.

Julie :o)xxxxxxx

Jules I wonder why you didn't get a repeat of your last prescription which would have been for a month. Thats what I get if I run out inbetween visits to the doctor. Anti depressants are usualy for an initial period of six months so I can't understand why they gave you a slip for one weeks worth. Like you say it will cost you the same as a months. Hope your daughter realizes what a lucky girl she was today not to get a longer ban. Will she have to retake her test?
What will you be doing for the day with oh's friends and ex? Treat your self to a new outfit so you feel like a model!!! xx

Good evening everyone...
I hope you are all as well as can be tonight...Can i just say that this thread is amazing with some amazing people on here and some of your stories are so humbling and make me relize how lucky iam to only have anziety, i can leave my house and go to work, i have no major health worries (i hope) and have 3 healthy children and a wonderful partner so i guess i am a very lucky girl and i want to thank you all for allowing people like me to read your stories...
Thank you all and i wish you all a peaceful evening and a wonderful weekend...
Kerry x

hello everyone well at the preasent time im feeling a little better seen doc yesterday and back on diazipan and other antidepresants have to go back in a months time or before if i need to ,well i think doc already new what is causing my anxitey/panic attacks before i even spoke to him he asked me what i was holding back and that was all it took for tears to start falling , from as soon as i open my eyes till time to close them i have these dreadfull thoughts of loosing my oh ,when he goes in for open heart op and start imagining all kinds of things . doc said this is perfectly normal . i feel reasured im not going mad or insane just my bodys way of dealing with it been hiding my feelings form oh and tryed to be strong for him but ive crumbled , hope you all well and all have a lovley weekend regards elaine

Flippin typical.....you lot are usually 'gassing' 10 to the dozen this time of the morning when I'm fast asleep.....n now I can't sleep no-one's in sight...lol

Carole...I'm not sure if she'll ne to retake her test....she didn't say but she was one lucky girl.. she wrote a letter to the judge explaining how sorry she was n how she needed to go to the loo (which is why she was speeding) as she has IBS ...n how if she lost her license for long she wouldn't be able to visit me in Essex n her dad in South Wales....apparently that's what saved her bacon. She won't be doing that again I'm sure!!
The Dr said if she had known about the perscription she'd have done it for longer than a week but nothing can be done about it now.
For this day out with his friends we're going to Brighton for the day, they all meet up every month or so n usually in someone's house....I feel so uncomfortable cause they've all known eacother for a long time n I feel like the outsider....

Anyway...hope everyone has a nice weekend. Decorating for me :o(

Love n hugs

Julie:o)xxxx

I'm here Jules, I wasn't going to be but hubby is still asleep and I need my tablets, I have to take first one 4-15 now so getting earlier. going for a cuppa in five mins as I can't have anything but water for half an hour so will vanish again lol, but will be back.

Cazxx

Hi Caz and Julie, sorry not been on earlier and so tired, got up early - for me lol - on Friday to attend my friend's funeral and then got stuck in traffic so was late and missed first ten minutes which was disappointing as missed a lot of what her son had said about her. Went back to her house after with the others and saw people I hadn't seen for a long time, but got caught talking, well listening to her brother telling me his family history lol, and was standing up so it tired me a lot. Her latest daughter in law, the other two weren't very nice, and no children from the marriages, is a Thai girl and doesn't speak good English yet altho she understands and does well, but her little girl, not my friend's son's child, is a little doll, so dark and beautiful, and she speaks brilliant English, she loved all the company. She was my friend's delight, the short time they knew one another and it is sad my friend is no longer here to enjoy seeing her grow up a bit more. The girl had a miscarriage before Christmas which must have saddened Iris hugely, her son was adopted at 5 days so it wouldn't have been her blood grandchild but she would have known he would have had someone of his own as well as the little girl, but now he is saying they probably won't have more children. From talking to the girl, it was obvious she would like her daughter to have brothers and sisters but he at 44 doesn't seem bothered. The little girl calls him Daddy.

I felt quite emotional when I got home and couldn't get on line till late when o.h. went to bed.

Julie, glad things weren't worse for your daughter. I think you can get a special card that you can show to shopkeepers etc to ask if you can use the loo if you have ibs, it might help your daughter to get that, just in case she is in a fix again, might prove her problem is real and less embarrassing than trying to explain.
Gotta go to bed, am so tired, sorry I am not very chatty or supportive.
Catch you all later,
love
Lizxx

Hi everyone, thinking of you all, be kind to yourselves.

I think it will just take a bit of time to get the wind in my sales again.

Will keep looking in. Thank you for all the lovely PMs.

Gail XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Hi Gail - nice to see you - just popped in and then out again as I am off for the day to a place called Clarks Village - big outlet centre in Somerset so will be back this evening - have a good day all of you, Love Ann XX

Morning everyone

I hope today is kind to you all

Gill

Hi Gail, Gill and Ann if you are still here, nice to see you Gail, keep chin up girl. Lovely morning this morning but was scared during the night with the wind, at one point it sounded like a train or something had hit the house, and my bed shook. Got hubby to bring me down for a bit to calm down.
Going back to bed now, see you all later

Caz xx

Morning to all you sleepyheads... was it the wind which kept you awake last night....lol.

Cannot stay on line because shopping is due to be delivered any minute now....

Kerry.......

you have not been forgotten and welcome to our thread lass......yes, we do have varied stories to relate....we feel we can open our heart and thoughts to each other and get help, advice and understanding in return...

You will also discover humour running through this thread which is a great healer when one is feeling down.

Hope you visit us again....


JoycePxxx

Good morning Ann and everyone on here.

Lovely day today, sun shinning in spite of the gale blowing.

Dave ... how did you do then ?
I hope you went, and I hope you had a great time when you got there.
I DO KNOW what you feel like. I promise it will eventually get better, but you do have to work through the fear.

How pompous does that sound Dave??
But I can only say it because I know.x

See you all later.
Deanna X

Jules I hope you go and I know you will be glad you did.. I also know that you will spend most waking hours thinking about it.

I know what your friend felt and she was so lucky to have you.
I went through a period where my strength came from my COAT!!
if I wore my coat.... I was invisible!! STUPID?
Well of course, but not to the sufferer.

I also had a neighbour who was so good to me.
I took my little boy to school, and needed to go to the post office to collect my family allowance... much needed in those days.
I hd to ask for help, I HAD TO. so I spoke to this young woman I had seen in out street.
She took me to the shops.
She then came every day and FORCED ME to go with her!
Yook me a long time, but these days that she helped me were a God send.

Thanks PAULINE.....

Deanna X