General Chat

Carole,

I know I have been AWL but will report back for duty tomorrow.. I will grovel if you promise not to put me in the greenhouse or on tatty peeling duties.

I salute you. lol.

JoycePxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Eileen, I am sure you have absolutely no need at all to feel guilty about taking your Mum and Aunt to Holland, or about having to put your Aunt into a nursing home. You did your best in difficult circumstances and I am sure your Aunt understood. I think it was wonderful of you to organise having them both with you, it can't have been easy.

gill, I don't know which thread you were on but I hope you have managed not to retaliate. best ignore them and let them 'play' on their own.

Ann
Glos

Eileen my grandmother had a stroke and after her husband died grandma lived a week at my aunts house sleeping on their sofa then after bingo on a Wednesday night my parents took her home with them for a week on their sofa as my sister and I were still at home, all in a two bedroom bungalow. Each Wednesday after bingo grandma would go home with aunt or my mum for a week. This wasn't a good arangement my aunt had a comode at the side of her dinner table as she lived in a very small house and there was nowhere else to put it!! So mum went to see her mums doctor after a few months of this,to see if they could get her into a nursing home. My mum feels guilty to this day. And now nurses my dad who is paralised and has no speech after a stroke four and a half years ago. Dad (79 today) went into hospital Tuesday night after having really bad pain in his sciatic nerve. So mum will have a bit of a break. But dad not being able to comunicate will feel like your aunty. You might be able to give me some advice how to help him. xx

Gill pleased you left the thread with dignity and didn't stoop so low as the ones who are upsetting you. I haven't seen it, don't do much thread hopping!! xx

Eleanor are you looking in? xx

Ben where are you?

Debbie haven't seen you

All on the naughty step!! A minuite for every year of your life !! I told you the search party would be out xxx

Can anyone give me any advice on how to help my daughter , who I really believe is suffering from depression.

She is 22 and has a 16 month old baby. He was recently diagnosed with hemiplegic cerebral palsy, and added to that her relationship with his father has broken down because of his 'playing around'!

She has no appetite, so consequently isn't eating much, and so weight is falling off her.

She snaps at everyone, is incredibly moody, and quite tearful at times.

The one thing that is really worrying me now is that she doesn't seem interested in her little boy, luckily they live with me, so I help a lot, but over the last week or so she seems to want to leave him with different members of family (if I am in work) and "chill".

I know she adores her son, but don't think she's really accepted his diagnosis, and I really believe she blames heresself for his condition, which of course is rubbish, but how can she be convinced of this?

She doesn't have many friends as she stopped socialising with them when she got together with her sons dad. He appears to be controlling her even now, when the relationship is all but over, and he's seeing someone else.

I've tried talking about everything to her, but she won't or doesn't want to listen to me.

Any advice would be gratefully recieved as I don't know where to go to get her help

Thanks Kath

Hello Kath, and welcome. Your daughter sounds as if she is hurting badly, and it must be so hard to stand by and not be able to do anything to help. Your daughter has had some bad things thrown at her all together and she won't be able to make sense of them. It sounds like she is depressed but won't be able to see that for herself. My depression started with a lot being thrown at me all at once, different situation but all basically the same result in the end. Do you think you could get her to see her doctor, maybe go with her for backup. Is she still seeing her ex? I was thinking it might be wise to stay away from him for the time being.
Her little boy sounds as if he is ok and being looked after, but your daughter won't be able to sort things in her head until she can come to grips with herself a bit. She will be able to do that if she can be persuaded to see her doctor.
I'm sorry I can't be much help but maybe someone on here will be along later who has more experience.
Keep in touch with us won't you.

Caz xx

Good morning Kath,
how awful for your daughter at 22 to be feeling so low.
I certainly think she has depression. Best help is to see her doctor, if she won't go for this, could you go in with her about her son, and say while we are here I am worried about my daughter!! Once he see's she isn't coping very well he can prescribe anti depressants, and she will start to cope better, to be able to deal with her son's problems. As for her boyfriend leave them to sort out their problems. I know it's hard but you could end up being the one who is pushed out. Just let her know you are there if she needs your support and hug's. At 22 she is still young and (my son is 22) maybe not mature. She has a lot to deal with so will need you. Let us know if she agrees to see her doctor xx

Eileen I'm pleased you have been able to lance your boil!! Hope it helps it become less painfull!! xx

Elaine any plans for today? How do you feel this morning? xx

Gill what are you doing today? xx

Y Caz whoooh !! I told you I'm still high with your news. Have you told your family what reaction did you get ? xx

C Caz ~~~~ xx

Kathy is J taking over the computer? Haven't seen you for a while xx

Joyce are you alright? xx

Thinking of our Gran of Oz hope all is okay xx

Deanna how are you? xx

Ann G I'm sure you are closing up and the little leaks will soon stop. Once you get the sun on it, it will help xxx

Dave have been back to the club? xx

Ben is still missing!!

Malc as well how are you, are you looking in? xx

Liz did you make any start clearing your house? xx

Janet how are you? xx

Eleanor x

Ann GG love to you xx

Jules nice to see you here xx

Carolina hows the training going? xx

Kerry have you got rid of all those kids yet? xx

Mary in the cold! How are you today? Hope you are feeling a bit better than you did yesterday xx

I know as soon as I hit submit I'll remember someone else ! If your not here I will remember you later xxx

Carole I am fine thank you... hope you are too.
Have just reread some bits, and it can be frightening to come on here for the first time.
NOT because we are frightening, but it does take courage to tell people our inner most fears.
there is always the chance that they will not understand and think less of us....

BUT.... we are all the same here, it is like a normal *SELF HELP GROUP* except for the fact that we are Cyber friends. ;-0)

Ann G.... the tablets are so good, I feel so much better these days.
I think having had that 'bad' day I have even been able to accept that my days will not ALL BE GOOD.
So I can be *athletic* on all my good days, and be an invalid on the days when I am not so good.
It is just lovely to be able to do the smallest thing... without gasping for breath. LUXURY!

Ben where are you?
Has no one seen him then?

I hope Eleanor is still about so nice to be able to come on here and chat.
When I feel good it is a nice chat, and on a bad day it is someone to cry to.
Thanks for starting it Carole.

Joyce P, I was happy to see you on here. Look after yourself and we can have a giggle when you are fit enough.

Have a lovely day everyone.... I am going out.
We are taking a friend out for a birthday lunch.

Bye all
Deanna XX

Forgot to ask about MAC.... anyone heard anything?

bless him,
Deanna XX

I'm having a bad day today so far, feel very vunerable & low

Not helped by constantly reading threads on a particular subject which makes me fear for my kids lives in the future.

I want to enjoy them, not worry constantly about things which may never be.

sorry folks :o((((

You are having a bad day aren't you Mildred?

Chin up, and try to ignore the bad bots.
We all have things which we need to talk about don't we?

Make yourself a nice pot of tea love, and put your feet up for a while.
Wont change your worries, but it will relax you.

Best wishes,
Deanna XX

hi carole the training is not going so good i have a lump at the bottom of my foot its like a blister but its full of something and i don't know what i think i must have got something in my foot and skin as grown over it so i will have to go to see my gp i hope everyone has a good day

love and hugs to all

carolina xx

Thanks Deanna

Sometimes it can be a bit much on here & try as I might to ignore what I dont want to read...its still there and I do end up looking..just human nature I think.

Will go off & do some washing then take a look at facebook to read something less distressing :o))

Sounds sore Carolina.

Good luck with that.

Deanna X

Mildred you have a nice day.
And have you ever noticed how , if we are upset about something.... it will be flashing around all over the place!

On the boards , magazines, television....
I have noticed this all my life love..... *the whole world is out to get us* ha ha ha ha

Have a lovely day,
Deanna XX

HI everyone
Quite a nice day here, I am full of good intentions and that's it!!
Anyway, Deanna, what are you on!! lovely to hear a bit of happiness there.
Jules hope you enjoy your trip
Eileen, hi, I took Amitriptylin for quite q while (I have had most of the anti's over the years) I take Duloxitine now and that is good for me. You certainly have had a rough time and believe me being able to talk about it is the best ever.
Carole, hope the finger is ok now
Love to everyone else
Janet

Finger is okay now, but covered in glue from the nail repair which came unstuck when wet!!

Today I'm getting Mum and taking her with me to visit Dad in hospital . It was 70 miles when I did it Thursday. Hope traffic isn't too bad today.

So much to do at home don't know what to do first, so catching up here!! Anyone take in washing?

Have a good day, make yourselves do a little something extra, you will be pleased after it's done.

No I haven't seen Mac hope he is okay

xxxx

morning everyone ,well wasnt so shakey this morning till about a hour ago hubby had invite to go se his brother for a few hours nearly 60 miles away he wasnt going to go and leave me but i told him to go an that id be ok ,well youve guessed it i on my own first time in a few weeks and all of a jitter but trying to stay calm still havent plucked up the courage to take propanolol yet silly ant i well im gona get showerd now then chill out on here so ill join you all again in a little while love to all xxelainexx

Morning all....
No Carole ive not got rid of kids yet, i keep trying but they just keep coming back...Have decided to let oldest daughter go to Reading festival after all, Tickets on sale from Monday evening so guess who will be on phone and here all evening buying them...Carole hope your dad is feeling better and traffic not too bad when you go visit..
Hello Eileen and welcome...
Thank goodness its not raining here so kiddies can play in garden and if i ever say id love another baby i need someone to hit me...Hard..!

Kerry

Janet I am on ....A HIGH.... ;-0)

No... the doctor gave me iron tablets and they have given me back a bit of vim and vigour!!

Plus I am going out soon... see you all later.

Deanna XX