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I just had to tell someone this, but my sister got married when she was a few months pregnant. My nan and Grandad thought this was terrible and had a good moan. When it came to their 50th wedding anniversary years ago my auntie found the wedding cert and it turns out they married when she was pregnant with my Dad. Then this week I recieved my grandads birth certificate and lo and behold his parents married when they were pregnant. I wish they were both alive today to see what they had to say. even though my grandad was a bit grumpy at times I loved him so much and I miss them both to bits. Just had to get that all of my chest. Debbie

Similar thing happened in our family. My gt grandparents were married over 50 years, we have newspaper cuttings from their Golden Wedding celebrations. After the last of their children died we found their marriage cert - at time of celebration they had only been married 49 years! The first child - my grandmother who I never knew - was born either before or just after their marriage and they had kept up the pretence all those years! We have still not been able to find her birth registered anywhere!

This is not my story but that of a childhood friend. There were five daughters, the eldest being 24. When their parents Silver Wedding anniversary was due they decided to give them a surprise party complete with wedding cake with 25 years on it. Just a family affair but quite a celebration. The parents had arranged a day out by themselves but said they would be home to have a special meal with the girls. Of course they were surprised by the lovely reception laid on for them. They then said well we have a surprise for you - we got married today!!!! Apparently they had decided after 25 years that they would finally tie the knot. Being Irish Catholics no one had suspected and even their daughters thought they had married in Ireland before leaving to come to England. They were a very close and happy family so everyone was delighted - and they had a wedding reception they hadn't expected. Kathleen

Kathleen I dont know what I would do if I found my Mum and Dad were not married. Im going to ask to see their wedding certificate. If they make and excuse I will know. Debbie

In my family it appears to be the norm to get married then have a child 1-6 mths later!!! in fact i think my parents were considered posh cos mum WASN'T pregnant!! Julie T:) (with a whole flock of black sheep!!)

In the 'good old days' of the 1700's and 1800's a bloke often wouldn't marry until the girl WAS pregnant, just to make sure she could have his children.

So true alas- and quite sad! If she couldn't have his kids he wouldn't marry her - and married someone else instead.

Well thanks for all the replys, It never occured to me that a man wouldnt marry unless he knew she was fertile. It all makes sense now. aghhh dont men just annoy you. can you see a woman doing that. Debbie

debbie the same thing happened in hubbys family mother-in-law was 3mths pregnant when she married,dad-in-laws brothers had to get married,i was 5mths pregnant with my 2nd son when i got married and my eldest son got married when his baby was 2mths old my nan also got married after her baby was born. sue

I had my first 71/2 years ago and we are still not married. So basicaly its the normal thing to do no matter what century you are in. Debbie

only no1 son is married.no3 son is living with girlfriend and their 2 kiddies and daughter is living with fella and their 2 kiddies.theyre not the first and wont be the last sue

On the same lines but slightly different direction - My dad was married 3 times,my mum twice,1 of my sisters twice and another once - and none of them were happy marriages.So stay unmarried unless you're really sure.I've been married 32 yrs and we're great,we are lucky though!! Jude.