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I took advice from you good people and wrote a very appealing letter explaining that I would like to meet but didn't want to cause embarressment etc etc. Well a week later I got a reply with a photo and some info about grandparents, even my father's name plus explanation, single mother living with her mother in a 3 child household without a father. Mum's children by a later marriage do not know about me so she wants it to remain that way. Now at 57 my search has finally almost come to an end. I say almost because I may now try to trace my father who mum hasn't had any contact with. My next message may be asking for advice on contacting dad. Thanks everyone especially Joan Allen at My Folks web site. Dave

Yes we should start a fan club for my folks to Joan who attends to the English side and Margaret Drummond who looks after the Scots side. Wonderful people who have helped so many. Pat

Congratulations. It must have been so nerve wracking opening that letter. My housemate (but not really friend) is adopted, and she received a letter from her half sister, but she didn't reply to it. I think that's kinda sad. Her birth mum is dead now, and they don't know who her dad was. The half sisters only found out about her after her mum died and they were looking through some things of their mothers, they found her birth certificate and the name of her social worker. They thought she had died you see. If I were her, I would want to get in touch with my sister, but well she is a bit of a bitch anyway!! Chloe

How sad that your birth mother doesn't want to accept you into her family.... i don't know part one of your story but I am hoping that your adoptive parents are special and all you need now you know the why's and therefore's.... one of my best friends is adopted and she doesn't wish to find her birth parents as she says "It's not going to change my personality" You sound like a genarally good person so just be proud of who you are now and know that your family loves you with or without birth parents. Good luck with your search for your birth father. D

Dave I have not heard about this latest information. Please let me know what is happening. Joan

Yes please all of you that want to start a fan club of joan (me). I really, really want to get a column in a magazine so I can get in touch with all the people searching that are not on the internet. I would love to reunite all and everyone searching but, at present, have not been accepted by the Government as a Post Adoption Agency or whatever they want to call it - I (and my colleague Debby applied over a year ago with references, testimonials etc) and we are still waiting to hear. Whilst we can find an adoptees natural family if they know their birth name - we cannot really help find an adoptee, unless a natural family member knows a great deal of information - find who they are seeking. Our hands are tied because we cannot access adoption files. Debby and I wish everyone searching great success in all they do. If we can help in any way at all, we will, and we will also be truthful in telling you if we cannot help but will give you pointers where to start. Our website is www(.)myfolks(.)co(.)uk for advice and help ring Joan on 01454 615031 up to midnight - not too early as I am researching to early hours.