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Please read below:- I thought this a nice story, and yes today is a special day. I am making friends with you guys

TAKE HOLD OF EVERY MOMENT A friend of mine opened his wife's underwear drawer and picked up a silk paper wrapped package: "This, - he said - isn't any ordinary package." He unwrapped the box and stared at both the silk paper and the box. "She got this the first time we went to New York, 8 or 9 years ago. She has never put it on. Was saving it for a special occasion. Well, I guess this is it. He got near the bed and placed the gift box next to the other clothings he was taking to the funeral house, his wife had just died. He turned to me and said: "Never save something for a special occasion. Every day in your life is a special occasion". I still think those words changed my life. Now I read more and clean less. I sit on the porch without worrying about anything. I spend more time with my family, and less at work. I understood that life should be a source of experience to be lived up to, not survived through. I no longer keep anything. I use crystal glasses every day. I'll wear new clothes to go to the supermarket, if i feel like it. I don't save my special perfume for special occasions, I use it whenever I want to. The words "Someday..." and "One Day..." are fading away from my dictionary. If it's worth seeing, listening or doing, I want to see, listen or do it now. I don't know what my friend's wife would have done if she knew she wouldn't be there the next morning, this nobody can tell. I think she might have called her relatives and closest friends. She might call old friends to make peace over past quarrels. I'd like to think she would go out for Chinese, her favourite food. It's these small things that I would regret not doing, if I knew my time had come. I would regret it, because I would no longer see the friends I would meet, letters... letters that i wanted to write "One of this days". I would regret and feel sad, because I didn't say to my brothers and sons, not times enough at least, how much I love them. Now, I try not to delay, postpone or keep anything that could bring laughter and joy into our lives. And, on each morning, I say to myself that this could be a special day. Each day, each hour, each minute, is special. If you got this, it's because someone cares for you and because, probably, there's someone you care about. If you're too busy to send this out to other people and you say to yourself that you will send it "One of these days", remember that "One day" is far away... or might never come....

Nat, this is so true. I'm not one for keeping things "for best", if I have something new then I wear it or use it, that's what it's for. After years of trying to persuade my husband not to store things for best (even socks he's given for Xmas) he has finally come around to my way of thinking too. Live for today.

Absolutely! I've always been one for 'living for the moment', but especially now. My best friend has only weeks left to live, she is 34. Makes you realise that life is too sweet and too short to 'save' anything.

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Mandy Thinking of you. I lost my best friend, who was more like the sister I never had, when she was 38 (in 1987). We met when I was 8 and she was 9. Sue

i used to watch my mum clean the floor everyday, she would dust at 10 30pm to save the job for tomorrow, shake the cushions every night before bed,worry about the tiny things.Id say mum im not going to do that when im older every day, as i had my kids i would say, mum itll all be there tomorrow, shed say yeh i know but i have to do it. mum died suddenly no chance to say goodbye. she could write her name on my T.V. somedays in the dust. but i alwys think of her and it wouldnt be like that if she was here. Anyway im wandering now. i agree live for today. message to mum... miss you.