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Hi everyone Norah. I'm doing very well thanks, not getting much time to get on here at the moment. To busy to hunt down the missing this time of year. Lorr. Will mail you tomorrow, should get to you by the end of the week, be quicker for me to drive down and deliver it. The postman brought me a nice package this week, 180 page book on my Lay family written by a relation in OZ. Hundreds of names and photos. Best wishes to everyone and once again thank you Lorr. for starting this. Malcolm

Hi lorraine sorry you feel so down, i started reading threads but got half way down page one and found why you feel like this. You must talk to us about how you feel, you lost both your parents thats terrible for you and will take a long time to come to terms with. Its been 10 years since my mum went, and i miss her so much, last weekend in the sunshine we popped to my dads, i sat by him in the garden watching my husband and son half a tap about with golf clubs, its not a big garden,(watch the greenhouse windows)! and all i could think was if she could see them two, our son 13 now, he was only 2 nearly 3 when mum went, it was all i could do not to cry for dads sake. we also have a 17 year old daughter. we all miss mum badly. lorraine im approaching 40 in july, its depressing me and when i say to husband, he thinks im mad, well i am but thats besides the point. You havent wasted 35 years you have a daughter who im sure cares a lot about you, and memories of her growing up. anytime you want to chat feel free. ill listen, and try to help if i can. go easy on yourself youve had a bad time. take care julie

Hi Daphne - there you are again you certainly are a ray of sunshine! I think you'll have to get a hat! luv Lorr x x x

THANK you Valley - just caught me before I turn in. Yes the people on here are amazing. There are so many people in need of all kinds of support..... There is always someone with a kind word or even practical advice.....take care luv Lorr x x x

Hi Norah - you kind soul...have e-mailed you x x x Hi to everyone. In case you have written and I didn't answer? I may have been a bit too cautious with e-mails? I took note of people warning of bogus e-mails and I have received a few that didn't look right the past few days - so I deleted them. Now I think that 'some of them could have been to tell me that mail had failed to deliver? Um so sorry if that has happened! Take care luv Lorr x x x

Back up to No.1. again !!! I'm just wondering how you are getting on Lorr, Malcolm, Ray,Angela, Mary,Beverley. Wishing you well. Love Norah xx

Mary - thanks for adding your thoughts. If you or anyone wants to message me, feel free it does you, us all, good to talk. Take care luv Lorr x x x

at times do feel really alone more so in winter as i suffer from s.a.d also all family grown up left home got family themselves they try to keep in touch but i still get lonely hubby works where i can't due to illness,don't know many people in lincoln and find it hard to go out and about got followed last time scared life out of me and that was in day light but i take one day at a time its the only way i can do it ,just learning to use computer which helps love mary

Terri Thank you for your kind thoughts. I think people have found it good to exorcise some of their demons.......take care yourself luv Lorr x x x

just popped in to say, God bless all on the board, even if you are just hanging on by your finger nails, you are Hanging on! Love Terri xx

Angela I've e-mailed you direct x x x

Hi everyone Yesterday I didn’t know if I had done the right thing by adding my posting to this thread, I had very mixed feelings. Today I know I did the right thing. Thank you to all of you who mailed me. Yesterday I received a mail from Lorr. I would like to share with you all what she said, I won’t. Lorr. All the friends you have made on here should know what you did yesterday morning. You may not think it was much but you did it. You have made yourself some life long friends on here I hope you will count me as one of them. The love and pride that you have for your daughter was so strong. I think that you and her should sit down together and go though this thread, she is going to be so proud of you for starting it. Angela ----- hang on in there, you are right one day this will be a memory. Ray ---- I know the feeling you describe only to well. Get yourself to Winchester and we’ll have a pint together. Folks I’m going to need a lift home. Beverley ------ Reading between the lines your pain is happening now. It sounds like you have found a good friend if he is half as good as the friend I have, he’ll have those tears dried and a smile on your face. Thank you Lorr. Luv Mal

Dear Lorraine Sorry to hear about your parents. I lost my father suddenly 5 yrs ago. It started off a chain reaction of a run of bad luck which I still haven't got out off. At the moment I am a single mother with a 2 yr old, living in temporary accomodation. I have been waiting to be re-housed for over a year. The place is very small, no garden, no shops around here, not even any pavements! I don't have a car and have to walk miles just to get basic provisions. What keeps me going is that I know I will get out of this situation soon and this will just be a memory one day. Angela

morning Lorr I've tried to mail you, my mail is delayed, may be there by now. its not nice outside but do the same as you did yesterday, get rid of those cobwebs. take care, I'll post you again after I've walked the dogs. your mail has got to me ok, thanks. Mal

Hi I keep popping back and it's truly amazing how there are so many people suffering... To EVERYONE who have written replies - you are unique and your story or comment WHATEVER it is, IS just as important as the next persons. Half the trouble is that people DON'T fit into boxes, their difficulties can't always be measured and packaged up to suit.... Everyone is as valid as the next person - you are worth it and your life is worthwhile.....

What can i say? i am in tears having read this thread, i thought i was the only one that felt like that, surrounded by family, good job, loving husband, but still somehow alone. I find it hard to open up, i somehow feel guilty or disloyal if i put my feelings first, then i think about all those people who would give their right arm to have what i have, and that makes me feel like an ungrateful bitch (scuse the language but that is how i feel) but i have found a good friend through FH and for the first time in my life am being honest, not only to him but to myself about how i really feel. he doesn't have all the answers, but it feels good to talk thankyou, you know who you are Bevxxxx

hi lorr, how you feeling today? i know what it's like to feel down,i've had it the last few days,but tonight it seems to have lifted a bit and don't feel to bad! it's a rotten feeling isn't it!! when i feel like that i just don't want to be bothered with anyone. you take care now, chris.

Reading the last page or so of this thread made the hairs stand up on the back of my neck. so much suffering has come out, so many people with a story to tell, but all of you are triumphing over your problems. Well done Lorr for having the courage to start the thread. those of us lucky enough not to have had cause to suffer depression can ofer our sympathy and support. Malcolm it will certainly take courage to walk into that pub in Winchester, but you can do it because we are all your friends, and you will not find censorship there, only friendship and support. Ray, I can't begin to think about what you went through. I have suffered the sadness of losing parents, but they had a good life and were elderly when they died. sadder was the loss by premature birth of Toby who would have been our fifth grandson in 2000. But I can only imagine the shock and horror of losing your beautiful daughter in law, her baby and your grandson. My thoughts are with you and my heart goes out to all of you who have sufferd. Ann Glos

This is a wonderful thread - Di what a lovely idea to keep it going!!! So many of you have suffered and taken the courage to talk about it - thank you:o) Jude x

Hi Ray, You haven't upset me at all, I have read your message with tears in my eyes. There is always someone out there who has had it harder than yourself, reading some of the messages on this thread, has done me good as It has made me put things into perspective. Yes, I did lose my mum when I was 14, and my stepmum suddenly 3 years ago from emphysemia. I'm also terrified I will lose my dad who has angina. But I have got friends who have lost babies & children, who were too special for this life. They have fared much worse than me...yet still stay strong. Don't be angry with God, as they say only the good die young, thats why i'll live to be 100 ! Big Hugs Ray, Elaine xxx