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hello people i thought i was down in the dumps but after reading maureen's letter i'm not so bad, my kids have all moved out and one of the girlfriends say's we don;t socialise with parent's, my husband work's night's so i sit alone every night but i have the computer to keep me going and the tele and the dog. chris

Hi Lorr, Sorry that you are feeling so blue. My husband was the same, very negative and also very angry about everything. he went to several doctors for different problems including aches and pains. The last doctor, the one we have now, diagnosed depression, at which my husband laughed. He too had lost many friends and relatives in a very short time. He read all the literature and came to realise that was the problem. He refused to see a phyciatrist, but started taking Zoloft and he is now almost back to normal. Drepression is a chemical imbalance and you can't " Shake your feathers and get on with it" as many suggest. Please see your doctor as soon as possible. Contact me any time you want. Susan in Australia

Maureen Thank you for sharing your story as lots of others did on this thread. There were some very real stories like yours that came out. I understand what you're saying about getting on with life, I think, reading back, that some people find it really difficult to cope. Of course that's not all the time some times are better than others...... There are some very caring people here to chat to....Take care won't you? Luv Lorr x x x

LORRAINE, JUST TO LET YOU KNOW I'VE BEEN WHERE YOU ARE NOW. TEN YEARS AGO WE LOST FIVE FAMILY AND FRIENDS INCLUDING MY LOVELY SISTER WHO WAS MY BEST FRIEND (AFTER MY HUSBAND) MY NIECE AND HER HUSBAND WHO BOTH COMMITED SUICIDE, MY DAUGHTERS FRIEND WHO WAS STABBED BY HER BOYFRIEND, AND OUR FRIEND WHO WAS ONLY 33 AND DIED ACCIDENTALY IN FRONT OF US. ALL IN THE SPACE OF 3 MONTHS. ALL THE STRESS RESULTED IN MY HUSBAND HAVING A HEART ATTACK THEN HE LOST HIS JOB. BECAUSE OF HIM BEING OUT OF WORK WE GOT OUR HOME REPOSSESED, HAD TO GIVE OUR CAR BACK TO FINANCE COMPANY EVEN HAD THE PHONE CUT OFF, THE FINAL INSULT! WE'VE COME THROUGH ALL THIS AND ARE NOW MUCH MORE LAID BACK ABOUT ANYTHING LIFE THROWS AT US. I GET UP EARLY EVERY MORNING JUST BECAUSE I CAN! I THINK OF ALL THE FAMILY AND FRIENDS WE'VE LOST WHO MIGHT LIKE TO BE WHERE WE ARE NOW DESPITE ALL THE S--T LIFE THROWS AT US

Hi Di My pooter's been playing up....was there a reason for nudging??? Can I help? luv Lorr x x x

Lisa You are halfway there if you know what is causing the problem. You say the relationship is suffering, do you talk to each other. I don't want to sound like an agony aunt (or in my case agony gran) but it really does help if you can talk and explain why you are jealous. there may even really be no justification for it. Maybe you need to do something to boost your confidence? Ann Glos

There was a programme on this subject last night funny enough. People trying to do something about the fears they have? I didn't watch it all but one person had good reason from her past to feel insecure......I think she talked to someone official (therapist) about it. x

yes lonely and confused at the moment and it's all my fault.have a very jealous streak in me and the relationship is suffering .don't know what to do.

Hi everyone, just a quick hello! to wish you all well, keep on helping and supporting each other, each small act of kindness will go out into the universe gather momentum and return to you a thousand fold. God Bless terri xx

Thank you - and welcome Katherine. There are some lovely people on this site. Don't forget if you need to chat too, anytime luv Lorr x x x

Hello Lorr and everyone else, I would like to say hello, i'm new to gc and so far have not really got very far in find any ancestors but i'm sure it will come in time. I just wanted to say that i was touched by how much surport is here on line and i am please that hopefully i can be a part of that and if i can help anyone, or listen to anyone please just let me know, Katherine x

That's lovely - thank you Bill! x x x

Just thought I'd bump this up just in case anyone needs to chat and so they know there's others in similar circumstances? luv Lorr x x x

Jan - thanks for that...I enjoyed our 'chat x x x

Just wanted to give everyone a big hug Gc has given us many friends, and the support we get is great no matter how small or how large we feel the problem we have is there is always some one out there with a kind word and some support Lorr this is a good thread. glad i got back to it after talking to you Take Care all Love Jan

Wake up an hour before dawn, open the window, and listen to the birds. If that isn't guaranteed to make you feel better then nothing will!! John

Lou - thanks, have e-mailed you x x x

lorr iv not added to this thread b4 but have read it i hope all the messeges on here have helped u and that u r feeling better theres always someone around to help here isnt there and everyone is so kind i speak from experience cus iv had a hard time recently and iv been helped loads by some very kind people here who have spent time talking to me and just being there....no names mentioned but they know who they r... :- ) u can always contact me if u want to il email u my other addys lou x

Hi Julie - thank you for your reply. It's nice to hear from you. Yes i think it probably did us all good to get a few things off our chests and out into the open....kind of you to share your experience, I know it's not easy! Take care luv Lorr x x x Malc - how are you? Glad to know you're ok. I'll wait to hear from you - speak soon luv Lorr x x x

well what can i say now i have read the rest, ray and malcolm i hope you continue to be so possitive. ray i wonder how your son has coped, though as long as you have each other im sure you will continue to cope as best you can. what ever i say doesnt make sense after all you lot have been through so good luck in you future and hope to continue reading these threads julie newport