General Chat

I know it,s not easy, but Xmas is a state of mind and not a time of year.. You have to find some way to get outside yourself. Try REALLY try. Good luck and very best wishes.

Hello everyone - just thought I'd show my face as this has appeared again! It does seem to help that people can chat about their troubles and it did for me and I've met some wonderful people since because of it. We had a mini meet up in Southampton of members/ex members the other Saturday, it was lovely to see them again. They have brought me out of myself and even when I haven't really felt like it, along I've gone and have met up with them in Winchester, Isle of Wight, Swindon and as I say Southampton........ Keep talking! There's always someone around who will chat/e-mail you and the thing is 'you're not alone' Take care luv Lorr x x x

Lorraine is still around. sorry you are both feeling lonely, it is possible to feel like that even when surrounded by people. i am sure that the time of year, not only Christmas and new year, everyone else (you think) all jolly, but the short grey miserable days of December doesn't help. On here we are all friends and always here for a chat. please feel free to e mail me any time, always a shoulder here for you. Ann Glos

yeah go for it! stick a thread up!! Are you coming to the next one in London?? xxx

Lou, im sure that once Crimbo and new year is out the way i will feel better. Always here if ya fancy a chat xxx

Yes i do feel very lonely, although i am surrounded with friends and family, i myself feel like im in a black hole...but i suppose its just the time of year..xxx

Lorraine Christmas is the worst time for 'loneliness' as we all think (mistakenly) that everyone else is surrounded by a loving family and are happy, happy - it's almost mandatory in Dec!! This will be my first Christmas with son overseas (permanently, with new wife) and I have a difficult husband who has no joie de vivre! I think it would be easier if I was on my own, lonely - but content in my busy life.............I love Christmas but can't generate the necessary excitement this yr

I dont feel lonely as in lonely but i wish i had contacts on here or msn 24/7 lol

Oh I'm still here. Going soon.

I am, but understand pretty much everyone is asleep becx

Good answer Di.. Thats exactly what my doctor told me when I was feeling low.(I hate taking tabs cos I think our brains/bodys have their own healing power)...he gave me a non addictive pill that helped see me through a bad spell. My body/brain told me when I no longer needed that tablet.

Lorraine if you ever feel lonely and need achat with someone then please e mail me. I know what being lonely feels like!

well spotted linda x

Oh I see!! Just couldn't make out how it got there without a message being added! Thought I was seeing things! Maz. XX

Many is the time I have felt just like you, but with folks as kind as the ones on this site, you need never feel lonely or sad...

Where on earth has THIS come from??? According to the board, last posting was at 20.29 today - but not according to the thread - another mystery nudge - but why ???!!!???

Awww, thanks Lorr. Like I said, it's great just knowing people care. Kim xx

Kim so glad you found a path to get you through. There are a lot of people on here who will relate to what you say and have great sympathy if ever you want to chat. Take care luv Lorr x x x

I manage to feel great loneliness sometimes with a loving husband and wonderful young son! My dad died when I was 12; his brother (who became like a surrogate dad) died in 1999 and my mum died very unexpectedly in 2001. I don't have any brothers or sisters and after mum suddenly felt I had no family left (not true anyway, but grief does that to you!) and felt like an orphan (at 34!) - really alone. When the initial grieving was over, a cousin mentioned she was trying to research her family tree - I started to help as I'd just got a computer - and I was bitten by the bug! And now, my long-dead family have made me realise that I DO belong and I DO have a place in this world. I still miss my folks dreadfully, but there are more good days than bad now. Christmas would be awful if it wasn't for my son...my birthday I find hard (it was last week)...but I know enough now to realise people really do care for you - if you let them. My problem was - I wasn't... Love to EVERYONE!!!!!!!! Kim xx

yeah cos my good mate paul from hampshire has left the site and deserted us.not back till thursday.xx