General Chat

Terri How right you are! If we keep this thread near the top maybe some of those who are 'suffering in silence' will be encouraged to open up and get help and comfort from the GC crowd.

Lorraine, you've really stated a huge thread here? which goes to prove how many people actually feel like you do. I know I do sometimes. That's why it's so nice to come on here at GC and have a 'natter' with everybody here. I call them, 'my extra set of friends'. You'r not on your own. Jo X.

Hi I wasn't going to add anything to the thread because I am slightly self concious of the fact that it's here, if you know what I mean...... I'm glad I wrote that night in desperation really because I soon found that there were many people, some on their own who were feeling similar things. People's stories have helped not only me with their vast knowledge on various subjects, but others to open up. This is easier for some people on here rather than face to face......I hope all is well? Take care luv Lorr x x x

I have to admit that I do feel lonely at the moment and somewhat sad. It would have been my Hubby's birthday tomorrow (he died last August) and I always used to make a big fuss of him, I have just bought a single rose and put it next to his photo. I am dreading next month and have taken 2 days off work, because I know I shall be weepy and would rather not be on show, at the same time not sure where I should go that day. Like David, I have not been able to sort his clothes but hope that once this ghastly year has seen itself out I may feel strong enough to do it (having replied to David's thread) I feel I should practice what I preached!! Just feel better for having put this down. Lynda

Lynda I feel for you, it's gotta be so tough trying to come through? You'll make it you know.......Please try and keep positive, like you are for others. Take care luv Lorr x x x

Loraine, Don't worry about this being a big thread, it's only big because so many have replied. I think it's great that so many of us have helped each other. We should keep it going. After all we won't all feel down at the same time. Jo X

Hello everyone, Yes I am feeling so lonely at the moment even though I havemany friends and a loving family. My precious wife of 22 years left me three weeks ago for another man. It has been such a shock to me. I never thought that it would happen to us. we have been in love since she was at school. I am heartbroken and our children are devastated. I think of her all day and night, but she says she will not come home to us. How do you begin to get over something like this? I cannot see any future without the love of my life. My life seems so empty as none can fill her place.

Kevin It is difficult to know what to say because I can see how upset you are feeling. I asume that she has left the children with you, you don't say how old they are, but they must be devastated too. You have to stay strong for them and, hard though it is going to be, try not to say anything against their Mum as they need to be able to keep loving her too. I am sure that, as a Dad much needed by his children, you will find an inner strength to go on for their sake. Take it one day at a time, I am sure it is like a bereavement and you need the time to grieve over your loss. I feel so sorry for you. Please feel free to come on the board and talk, or e mail me or anyone at any time, we are always here to listen. Ann Glos

The children are teenagers now, 13, 17, 19, but still love and need their mum. It does feel like grieving because of a death, but she is still here -only a few miles away and I cannot reach her. I am trying to be strong for the boys but at times it is all overwhelming. I am trying to live not just day by day but hour by hour at the moment. I try to be strong for them, but miss her so much that sometimes I cannot hold back. My hope is in God for a miracle

kevin,ive been where you are now...ime going to email you. bryan.

My advise to all is be strong, and take each day as it comes - even when you believe life won't get better it does. My first hubby beat me - so I left after 18 months, I then met a wonderful man - we lived together for 10 years when we decided to get married, 3 weeks after marrying he was diagnosed with a brain tumor, he died 4 weeks + 1 day after our wedding. 7 months later a cousin died of Motor neurone disease, then 1 month later my Nannie died and 4 days later my Mum then 4 months later my sister in law. It was a rough few months - but with support from friends we all got through it. I have since remarried and am happy. My dad remarried on monday - things are not perfect there - but they can only improve (I hope). Keep strong keep talking and typing to others - we are all there for you. Rebecca

Thanks Rebecca, I am so sorry to hear of all those sad events in your life, but glad to hear that you have come through them. My doctor reminded me today that there are still many positives in my life, My children, health, job, family and I am so thankful for these. But that which I so much want and need I no longer have. She is the only person I have ever loved.

I wish there was a magic cure for heartache - I really feel for you. Just keep talking to everyone on here, be strong and take each day as it comes. You will get through this. Rebecca

you know wot Lorr...life sucks!!! I'm not gonna moan about it all but.....it does!! Is it too much to ask to be happy!!?? If you find a way out of your rut will you please let me know??? I could do with some tips Jill x

Jill - ah the great answer, yes it would be good if we could find that one! It's a bit late so excuse me if I ramble. I guess what most people who have added to this thread really want is actually quite simple things - peace of mind, a bit of happiness, security........ You can't find it in quick fixes, in money or things like that. I suppose 'at the end of the day' (don't you just hate it when people say that) it comes from within. You have to find your own level and be content with what you find? If you turn out to be just the ordinary Jane or Joe don't knock yourself out trying too hard for the unobtainable. You just make yourself discontent in the end. Hope this isn't a load of tosh (it has been known) Take care luv Lorr x x x

My 22 year old daughter is lonely.. All of her friends have boyfriends and are otherwise occupied,,,her boyfried has dumped her and she can only get bar work, She went out with a ''friend'' last night and they left her,,,She came back from the loo and they had gone, Some friend.!!! She walked all the way home in the dark,,its about 5 miles. and getting in at 2-30..I almost had a fit. Iv told her never ever to do that again. She cried herself to sleep,,,bless her...I wish i had a majic wand,

claire im so sorry im sure she will b ok sometimes this happens in life but she will get other friends and a boyfriend just give her a hug from me lou xx

Kevin, You never know she may chnage her mind in a few days. It's something she has to get out of her system. She must be riddled with guilt especially about leaving three children. You are down at the moment, the only way now is up. take care. Jo.x.

What can I say that everyone else has'nt said already? You are indeed all wonderful people..! Having had my share of disappointments, grief, traumas I'm heading for 50 - fast - but have learnt to take each day at a time when you are in a crisis of any kind..and nurture a strong sense of self-protection - as somebody said, it is within you. Could say much more but (Tsk!!) I'm at work... Good weekend everybody, Cathy ~~

I would just like to thank Lorr for this thread, and Di for giving it a nudge. There are some lovely people on this site, not only who have given words of comfort, but have been in sore need of it too. Sadly it seems these days that you don't have to look far to find others going through the most traumatic experiences. I just hope that eveyone who has felt the need to post on this thread, and those who have perhaps found themselves unable to, they are out there too, will eventually find themselves in happier circumstances, or in the meantime be given the strength to deal with the blows. Lynda