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Hi Lorr You can always email me as well - l'm not lonely, but sort of have been through illness. l took on voluntary work,that helped so much,cause your not committed for one,but you also realise how many others are out there being a volunteer for the same reason. l now work with adults with learning difficulties. Another thing l did was go round the charity shops collecting McDonald toys - my hubby used to go mad at me,but l really found it interesting, had books on it and still have 300 of the bloomin things - but l spent hours sorting them, looking them up in the book,coding them etc and it got me out!! Keep your chin up. Loads of hugs:o) Jude x

Joanne That's why I tentatively put this thread on - for myself but I wondered if anyone else felt like getting something off their chest as well? Mandy Thank you for the positivity of you answer - I always listen to what is said on here Nicholas I cannot believe all the wonderful people I have come across on here. I have had brilliant advice, kindness,sincerity and much more. I don't analize whether people would be the same in person, rather than cyber-space - I like to think they would. xxx Jude Thank you - I'm feeling all the positive vibes coming through and my mood is actually lifting......thank goodness x x x

Lorr, Cheer up petal ! Don't think you'll be allowed to stay feeling lonely with this crowd on here :-) Rick.

Oh! Lorraine I know how you feel. Finally seperated from my husband after 41 years of marriage. Although it was my decision and I don't regret it, it has been very hard, at the age of 66, to make decisions just for me and to have to take responsibility for things on my own. Even though I have 2 wonderful daughters they have their own families and so I spend a lot of time on my own. I get very lonely and miss the companionship of a partner. Since I have joined GC though it has given me a new lease of life, and I know I can always come on here and have someone to 'speak' to. It is also comforting to know there are other people who feel lonely too. I am sure your 'blues' will lift shortly because from seeing your threads on here you seem such an upbeat person and always have such nice things to say. Lots of hugs to you. Take care. Jean x.

When I came back from Germany, just over two years ago (can't believe it's that long), having lost my job, I came crashing back down to earth with a bump. Whilst I didn't notice it straightaway as I was partly glad to be home, boredom and bitterness began to set in as I was unable to find work and the days all felt the same. Looking back, I regret that I didn't lower my sights sooner and go for a job that might not pay well but would have been better than watching your self-esteem crumble away. At this present moment in time, life is better - I'm working again, I decided to do something about my weight and managed to get it down considerably and I feel more positive about doing other things that I may not have done before. There are areas that still remain unfulfilled but so long as you have things going on in your life that matter to you then the positives should outweigh the negatives. Just wanted to share that. Andy.

YOU ARE ALL STARS - for sharing things..... There, you've all come up trumps again as you do! Like Rick said you can hardly stay so low knowing that there are people in this little box that pour out such wonderful things..... If only we could get rid of the rest of the world and just have only G/C members in it! What a lovely idea - I know life just isn't like that, I am a bit unrealistic, I realize that x x x

Lorraine, Your thread has taken me back a couple of years and I know how you feel. I have been in the situation where I had a partner and two children, one only a couple of months old and I felt like the lonliest person in the world. For me, it was an illness, post natal depression, and it was the darkest time of my life. Happily, I can say that this does'nt last. You will get through this feeling and start to see the light at the end of that dark tunnel. The fact that you have posted this thread is the start towards that. You have made that first step towards getting things back on track. The wonderful thing about the people on here is that they care. I have seen it so many times. I am at home all day and log on here at least three times a day, so if you ever want to chat, just give me a holler!! Allie xx

Thank you again everyone - you are truly GREAT human beings and better than I've met or spoken to anywhere,anytime! Jean How brave are you! That must have taken so much courage, even if it was what you wanted......I hope your life is ok now? x x x

If anyone's still feeling down there's apparently a secret party going on at Tracey from Leicester's thread - but I didn't tell you, right ?

Oh Lorr, I'm so sorry you are feeling down........'cos when you are down, it's hard to see any light at the end of the tunnel. But it will come, probably quicker now that you have seen how much support you are getting from our great GC family. Losing both your parents too.....that must be really hard for you. Even if we don't always see eye to eye with our loved ones, when they are not there, that's far worse. Do hope you feel better soon and if you want to talk about things, please -mail me and I'll give you a ring. I'm not too far away from you either if you want a shoulder to lean on. Love and hugs Norah xx

Hi Lorr I am really sorry to hear your feeling down. I know that it's not that long ago you lost your parents, you are bound to have days when you feel like this, it's only natural, nothing to be ashamed of at all. I can only say from my own experience it does get better, and I hope your sad days get further and further apart It's funny I took a glass of wine and a ciggy out on my balcony last night, (naughty but giving up next month!!) and felt my hubby should have been out there with me. Its coming up to a year when he died. I do know how your feeling, if that's any help. Take care Lynda

Hi Lorraine I'm so sorry that you're feeling a bit low. I was having so much fun helping (or interfering??) with your family history the other day, can't wait for the next instalment! Hope you feel better tomorrow. Love Heather

Big hugs to everyone who is feeling low, I've been there myself a few times - things can get on top of with out you realising. Chatting always helps though, and I'm sure you will find lots of people willing to listen & help on GC Natalie :)

It is a GREAT help to hear from you all - I wasn't crying WOLF I want you all to know that...... It's just that I didn't realize just how much my life was wrapped up with my parent's and now they're gone I'm lost really...... If you've never done it before you've saved a life today! x x x

I don't think anyone though you were crying wolf so please don't think that for a minute. Just try and take each day as it comes Big hugs Natalie :)

Dear Lorraine, Loneliness comes in all guises,and its horrible. It's probably the fifty thing making you look back and thinking what have I achieved. We all get like that sometimes, bet you could fill up a lot of pages really if you thought hard of what you have achieved. As you say we always think other people have got it all, but lorr we are all bluffers, muddling our way through. Don't be so hard on yourself, My mirror tells me I am overweight, a bit past it, and sometimes a doddering old fool. thats what my mirror says. But my heart tells me I am drop dead gorgeous really. so come on girl, you are entitled to your space so fill it. Love Terri xx

Hiya Lorr, How can anyone feel lonely,with so many friends on GC. Barry. XX

Heather, Natalie, Colin, D. D. Baz & Terri I have listened to everything that's been said, what wonderful messages..... I hope to never feel this bad again! I don't mind feeling low, everyone does from time to time, but not this despair - can't do that too often! x x x Thanks all so much! :-))

Lorr - you had better get to the party on the "ignore this please" thread...they've been asking for you!

l've just started me 2nd box of tissues, what a fantastic crowd u all are - so open,honest,helpful,caring - huggable:o) Jude xx