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My mum is 95 and I see her every day and every day I tell her that I love her. AND I MEAN IT. Ernest XX

Morfydd. I can understand how you must feel as I have for many years had to compete with my brother. I was and would always be wrong in my mothers eyes and she was never ever pleased with whatever I done, and I just never ever felt loved . I can be honest and say she was my brothers mother and not mine. She never ever told me she loved me so it was never mentioned. My dad was my rock and not a day goes by that I don't miss him. He has been gone 18 yrs. I always tell My Hubby & children I love them and my 5 grandchildren and I also give my kids hugs even as big as they are. Lynn

Karen, it's the same for me. I grew up in a very loving home - in fact, I was adopted and always knew how much I was loved and wanted. But I think there was something in the generation before mine that didn't actually say the words, even though we all loved each other. I still have a very close relationship with my parents, but because those words weren't actually spoken to me, I didn't get in the habit of saying them either. Complete opposite with my own son, we tell each other all the time that we love each other!

Hi Margaret, I so feel for you. I lost my precious Mam a year ago, of Alzheimers. Somedays, I can remember that we were ready to let her go, and can feel happy for her that she's free from the hideous disease Alzheimers is. Other days, it breaks my heart! I'm not well at the moment and just want my Mam to put her arms round me and make it all go away. I do try to remember 'this too will pass'. I've also found it helps to put happy smiley photos of Mam around the place--I chat to her, and smile back at her. I hate to quote Dr Phil, but he said a very powerful thing once which stuck with me--just cos your loved one is dead, your relationship with them doesn't end, it just changes. I still have a relationship with mam, and hear her advice and love every day. I found it really hard to say 'I love you', but on the day I left home, I made myself do it. Very hard, but it got easier very quickly, and very soon I could say it all the time. Mam had never felt loved by her own Mam, so it meant so much for her to hear it. Still found it hard to say it to Dad though, but when Mam died, I realised Dad wouldn't hear 'I love you' from anyone again unless we kids did it. Now we say it all the time, and it feels so good. For all those who can't but want to, please try to say it. It will be the best gift you could ever give.

my mum used to say to me love you always and she would write it in birthday cards, xmas cards ,just wish she was around to hear her say it now sorry folks just feeling down today 3 years today she died and it only seems like yesterday it happened

I've lost both Mumand Dad, but came from a very loving Family. I have 2 children of my own now and always tell them that I love them. They in return say the same to us. My Son is 18 now and whenever I ring him when he's out, before he puts the phone down he tells me he loves me. He doesn't care either that his friends laugh about it. I love you is the first thing I say in the morning and the last thing at night. I count my blessing everyday that I have such a loving Family. Angie.

Untill I had my son almost 5 years ago I could count on my hand the times I had told my mum that I love her, not out of choice but it felt strange, we never really discussed love! That all changed the first time my son put his arms around me and said it to me! It made me aware of how good it made me feel, so I started saying it to my mum. It has improved our relationship so much

Ievery time I spek to her. My little boy (who is 7) tells me every night that he loves me . My foster dad used to say to me me every night before I went to bed "Love ya kiddo, mide the bed bugs don't bite " and I would always reply "if they do i will kick them in head, Love ya" and even now it is said when I visit home and I say the same to my son every night

I am probably an awful person but I have told her about as often as she has told me. Never. But...... me and my daughter, well, nearly every day we tell each other and it's great. Jacky:-)

i tell my mum i love her whenever i go home to the isle of wight for the weekend and she manages to turn my grey socks and tee shirts back white again!

i do tell my mum i love her despite her nagging,but my hubby his mum has caused so much bother over the last few years that he has moved countries and speak to his mum every so often,and finds it to say he loves her as he now has no respect for her after the way she has been to towards me and our children so really my mum is a angel compared to his

I told my mum but not often enough - l still tell her but she's not here!!!! (miss her so much and after 23yrs still go to phone her if l'm upset about something).My hubby,kids and l tell each other all the time now. The kids tell me every time we speak on the phone or by email etc, they might phone 3 times in one day.Also tell 2 of my sisters every time we speak:o) Jude

Every time I talk to her, which is usually twice a week or more, when we phone. I love her to bits. Lisa xx

Simple answer to this one... not often enough.

whenever i speak to my mum. my kids now adults always say it, david just popped in and has invited me down for lunch, along with baby who is not going to go to sleep, i am rocking her in a bouncy chair with my foot while typing, can't wait till she says i love you nanny, i tell her all the time. ooh the eyes are going she gone off yes!!!!!!! bless her. sandra

In our house me and my lot are always saying 'I love you', but never did at home when I was growing up, love was never said. My mother says it to me, but I cannot say it back, and I know people will think this is terrible, but I have such a bad time with my mother, brother and his family, they are just slowly killing any feelings I have for them. As for my Dad that man is a giant to me and always will be and I love him to bits, can tell him very easily. M.

It was mothers day here(in oz) on sunday and my sister brother and i all sent my mum a card each and in these cards we just put "to mum love you and our names, my brothers girlfriend who lost her mum 2 yrs ago sent my mum a card and in it she put "thanks for being there for me and for making me smile when i thought i couldnt and welcoming me into your family with open arms you have been like a second mum to me listening while i cried for my own mum you are a very special person whom im proud to have in my life " (which i must say what she wrote made me cry) so i was just wondering how many off us really tell our mums how much we love her cos i know i never tell my mum enough im usally to busy telling her to stop nagging at me