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Hi again, Mandy (and anyone else) please email. Jude yes it was a bit of a dilema for Joan too xx Dave

Hi Dave, My approach would be with extreme care and consideration. Try and find out as much as possible before making contact. After all it will be a great shock to her. It might be easier to try and first make contact with any siblings if there are any. Good Luck in whatever you decide! Lindy;-)

dave thats a tuff one, you must feel excited and disappointed all at once tofind out that you cant contact your dad. maybe write to his wife but pretend that your a relation trying to find information or history about family. It may soften the blow. then as you get a reply you can fill in the details as and when your both ready. well im sure youll do what you feel best, but good luck, i hope she can help give you information about your dad. let us all knw how you get on. best wishes julie ps my hubby discovered he has a sister he never knew exsisted, on here last year, he hesitated and pondered on how to find her, i found a list of addresses on 192.com. wrote a letter to most likely address and showed him and then posted it before he could hesitate any longer. his sister phoned next night, while i carefully answered her questions i gave her his mobile number as he was in work, they have since met several times and its like they have both been given a gift, and thats each other. had it not been for the internet neither would have ever met or known about the other. anyway sorry to go on about that. the longest ps yuve ever known lol. good luck.

Dave - have you asked Joan Allen??.My thoughts are that a letter is a nice idea.Good luck with your decision:o) Jude.S Wales

Dave, this is a subject very close to my own heart. Can I have a little think and come back to you shortly? Maybe I could email you direct? Mandy :)

Thanks Shiela, that was a quick reply. I will gather a concensus over the next few days before making a decision xx Dave

I like the writing a letter idea. She can read it in her own time and reply when she is ready. Whatever you decide though I wish you luck Sheila

Some time ago I was able to locate my birth mum and with help from GC subscribers on this message board I wrote a letter and made contact, she replyed just one letter that meant the world to me. In the letter she explained who my father was and that she had had no contact with him since. I have since found that my father died many years ago but that he left a widow and now with the help of Joan Allan at My Folks I have found out where she lives. It is very unlikely that she knows of my existence so now I need your help again. How should I make the approach? should I write and say I think we might be related through K. L. (my dad)? should I say outright that I am his son? Should I do more investigating and find out if they had children? What do you think? Best wishes for your own searches xx Dave