General Chat

i have been searching for my father,through genes connected and other sources i now have an address...im too level headed to get my hopes up just yet but something is holding me back from writing to this address...could it b fear of rejection ...wot do you think...wot would you do..b nice to hear an outsiders point of view....any one had the same situation?

Hi Samantha Very delicate situation this one, and one I've been through myself. If you write to him, you need to word the letter vaguely enough so that anyone else opening the letter (by mistake or purposely!) wouldn't know that he has a daughter. He may well have a new family who don't know about your existence. Of course, this doesn't necessarily mean that he won't be pleased to hear from you, and his family may well be looking for you too! But if you suffer a rejection, it's hugely emotional and I really would advise you having some support in place just in case the worst happens. I'm not 'trained' but have experienced both acceptance and rejection, and wouldn't wish the rejection on my worst enemy so to speak! If you are interested, email me direct and I will send you a copy of a letter that was written on my behalf to a member of my birth family (by a trained intermediary). Good luck in whatever you decide, best wishes Mandy :)

Hello Samantha, Very delicate, as everyone has said. I knew someone who'd been adopted at birth and tried to contact her natural birth mother many years later, but was soundly rebuffed. Don't want to put you off, others have great success stories. Perhaps one approach might be a letter "seeking" info, but not revealing your relationship identity at this stage? A softly softlt approach... Good luck whichever way you decide to go! Philip

Samantha, go with Mandy's advice as she has been there and had help. Her letter may help you know what to write. take care Love Ann Glos

Hi Samantha I've emailed u :) David

Hi Samantha, so have I xx Dave