General Chat

I always thought it was a bit silly, you know, people who got a midlife crisis at 40--- well that was until I found myself rapidly heading towards it screaming and kicking. Anyone got any advice that doesn't involve getting old gracefully? lol lol

jay hitting forty is great, i'm 42 i found hitting thirty the hardest, so enjoy it it gets better as you get older,so i'm told lol sandra

Jay I am 54 and NOW think 40 was wonderful. Take the long term view! Gerry

I will be 48 in three weeks' time. I don't know whether life was better before 40, or if turning 40 was better/worse than turning 30 because I can't remember! I do know that when I look at photos of myself aged 30ish I think how young/slim I was and I am still doing that at 40ish - except that I am older/fatter than at 30, but just younger/thinner than I am now. Just try to enjoy the age you are. Inside I feel about 8 years old> Helen

Have turned 36, for the second time today. Yep, I've wound the clock back, will stay 36 until I'm 39, then may become 37. That should stave off 40 for at least six or seven years!!!!!! Steph xx

Steph lol gonna try that!!

well i'm approaching 60, and feel quite happy with the age i'm at, just forget about age. Has anyone else been asked their age out of the blue, and you've had to stop and do some mental arithmetic? Val

Go Valley.... And Jay

Val, thank heavens for that, I thought it was only me who had to do a quick reckoning up lol Jay

Hello again Jay, I was 40 earlier this year and starting to get a bit miserable about the thought of it. So I decided to have several celebrations to take my mind off it as much as possible, which I did and had a brilliant time. Then sadly I lost my best friend to cancer and thought 'I'll never moan about being 40 again because she didn't even make it to 35'. However, I must say that I don't feel any different at all, it's not as bad as I thought, and I'm having a pretty good year!! I would like to stress though that I'm not actually 40 at all - I'm 18 with 22 years' experience ... keep that thought in mind LOL. Mandy :)

Cheers Mandy, not depressed about it, just thoughtful. My hubby had cancer last year and I've loads to be thankful for. Just seem to reminise a lot (is that how you spell that?LOL) Jay

Hi Jay I eill be 2 x 30 this year and just wanted to say that the past 10 years have been the best EVER!!! Make the most of every day. Eileen

Hi Jay I'm 40 next year and I don't care! lol. It's only a number. I also found being 30 a worse prospect than being 40. Jeanette

If memory serves me well ,and it was a long time ago ,the best thing to due is run towards it,you get there quicker ,and it,s a lot less painful .Heck friend your just a pup yet ,enjoy it all .Fred.

Hi Jay I'm 39 next month and I agree with Jeanette I worried more about being 30 than I am ever worrying about being 40. I for one will not being growing older gracefully. I saw a granny the other day poss aged mid 60's wearing black leggings under a black skirt with a rather nice pinky salmon low cut top and sponsered a nice pixie looking hair do. She looked very trendy indeed. Approach 40 with an I can do anything frame of mind, 'cos you can. Much happiness Debi

Hi! Jay Found both of your messages.Dont worry about coming up to 40 it gets worse when your approaching 76, but it`s up to you to enjoy your self.thanks for reading bad manners John another one in Grimsby

hi jay i was 45 in february but i dont feel any older than i did when i was 25!!! i may look older though lol but with 7 grandchildren and another one on the way i have to keep young:) i must admit though,the only time i feel old is when my littluns have gone home,im knackered then!!! and feel 95 not 45 just enjoy life jay,i do:):) susie

IM 65next month and loveing it my best two birthdays were my 21st as I married two days later the second was my 60th I went up over 2000feet in a GLYDER something I will never foreget I hooped and hollowed it was fantastic.lifes to short to worry about age just enjoy it while you can as we dont know when it will end. JEAN.

Jay, I'm 43 on the 14th July. When I was 40, I had a massive party, the first I'd ever had. Never had an 18th or 21st or even 30th. I promised myself that life was for the living and any opportunity to enjoy myself wasn't going to be missed again. You might feel that half your live is over due a crisis, well if it is, make sure the second half is a whole lot better than the first. I changed jobs, after 25 years, always wanted to do something different, but always told myself that I couldn't. I've learn't I can. I'm more relaxed, do things instead of wishing I could, and feel great. You are in control, you might not think it at the moment, but my advice is try and accept that you are 40 and that your live really does begin now........... all the best, Brummie Dave

hi jay I wish I was approaching 40, I have 3 years to go my bus pass . jenny