General Chat

WELL DONE DAVID you have been brave taking the first step,just do the clearing as and when you feel up to the task.when your daughter comes to help you,sit down and have a cup of tea first,discuss with your daughter what you would like to clear out that day and dont forget that having a cry with your arms round each other will help you both. all the best sue

Good Luck, David. Don't forget when things get tough that you have friends on here. Maggy

Hello David Well done for making a start in sorting the clothes out Regards Bren

Hi Linda, just to say I've been where you are. It's been 16 months for us. It honestly does get easier. I found that just as it got so bad I thought I couldn't stand it, it would get easier again (as they say, it's always darkest before the dawn). The first year was very up and down for us, but once we'd got all the 'firsts' over with--first birthday, Mothers day, anniversary--it got so much easier. Four months before Mam died, I was with my best friend's parents when they were told he was dying. We lost him only six weeks later. Another very close friend lost her Dad of the same cancer only two months later, then 6 weeks later, my Mam died of Alzheimers. It felt like an endless round of funerals and grief, but we all supported each other. It does really help to talk to people who have been through it, so do email me if you want to chat. Sal.x

David Well done! You and your daughter may find this hard, but I am sure your daughter would want to help. You are not alone. We are thinking of you. Helen

Hi David, Well done you! As I told you yesterday, we went through Mam's stuff slowly. I don't regret it. The stuff we didn't need was passed to charity so others could make use of it, and all the special bits now have a special place, rather than hidden away in a drawer. I found a gorgeous letter she'd written me--I blubbed like a baby, but now it is in my bedside drawer and gives me lots of comfort. And I have her jewellery in a nice box, and photos everywhere. That is how she'd want to be remembered. I think your lovely wife would be very proud of you, Love, Sal

Hi David, glad to hear you have made that big step to starting your task. It might be good for you and your daughter to do this together - and if you cry together, why not? Thinking of you and wishing you well as you continue. Mandy x

I know it's really hard to do this, but when you have sorted everything out you will feel much better in yourself. Promise! Jo. x.

David, thank you for letting us know. It must have been hard for you, I do hope things get easier for you now. I'm sure you and your daughter will share some tears, and hopefully some lovely memories. Don't be afraid to cry, it's a great release valve. I wish you and your daughter well, and am thinking of you. Lynda xx

hello david,the first step is the hardest,just take it one step at a time,knowing were all thinking of you. bryan.

It's a very hard job. I wish you well. Sheila x

Hello again all you wonderful friends, with your encouragement i have made a start, rang the Sue Ryder hospice they will take the clothes, my daughter said she will help,( i was reluctent to ask her because she was very close to her mum and i did'nt want to upset her, maybe we can cry together.) I have sorted a couple of drawers it's harder than i thought but feel good after a flood of tears. next test is a week on Saturday. Thankyou all again for your kindness my regards David