General Chat

Amy, I'm sure you are not rude however consider that they may not have received your email stating no link hence why they may find it slightly annoying if you deleted them when they are thinking you didn't bother to reply. I would send an email stating you previously sent them an email stating no link and just keeping contacts up to date. I also always reply to someone if they email me back saying no link saying thanks for letting me know as hopefully this lets them know that i did receive their email in the first place. I never delete contacts as i then know who i have previously contacted and about which rellie. Also I didn't think i had a link with someone only to find out when i eventually ordered the certificate after couple of months that we were indeed linked it saved me having to use the search function to find that person again (this happened twice!!) kind regards zoë

dont worry about it you have deleted them but they have to live with themselves.

The rude ones are those who never reply at all. At least you let them know there was no connection. I wouldn't worry about it. Jane

Amy There must be quite a few rude people then. I have deleted contacts - after established there is no connection and others have deleted me for the same reason. I think it was them who were rude. Liz

I don't think you're being rude at all. Especially after such a long time. I would get completely confused if I kept everyone I had contact with on my contacts list. Once you have returned an email with them and established no connection it would be silly just to keep them on. They must have been having a bad day and took it out on you. lol Take care, Eileen

Thank you, I feel better knowing that some people don't consider me rude! Grrrr!! Ah well, I'll be charitable and presume they'd had a bad day or something! Amy x

I know this sounds kind of stupid but I've just recieved a really snotty email and wondered if I was being totally rude without realising it. If I a contact has no definate link with my family tree I try to delete them after a decent interval, I usually wait three months. I get quite a lot of contacts and it gets complicated having to go through loads to find the person who you want. I recieved a contact in April from someone who definately wasn't linked to my tree. I replied saying no sorry, no link and that I don't have relatives in that area. Last week I deleted this contact, they however must have kept hold of my email address as they sent me quite an angry email saying that I was being really rude deleting them. So just wondering if there is some kind of unwritten rule about deleting contacts and is it really bad manners to delete after a long period of time? This email really did quite upset me but am I the one in the wrong for deleting the contact? Sob, sob, sob! Amy x