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hi abigail..im 27 now but was a headbutter and used to bite myself.now ive got my own little darlings im aware how my mum used to feel in this situation..my middle(age 4) son trashes his sisters bedroom,wipes poo on walls and bedding,constantly tells lies and beats my youngest up(age 18mths)ive had the health visitor making regular visits,but she asures me its "normal" he recently cut the youngest with baby nail scissors he'd found behind a cabinet.because he's almost five(sept 8th)and had to do another year before school(finally he can go this sept) theyve put his behaviour down to boredom and being too intelligent for his age(talks and acts bout 16)hopefully i wnt go through any of this with the youngest,i didnt with my eldest(shes now 8)but i can empathise with all the mothers who experience this frightful behaviour.xx

Abigail, I saw a programme on t.v. about toddlers having trantrums and head butting the floor, the advice was to place one of those large bean bags in front of the child so she banged her head on the bean bag not the floor. Sue

It's ok Fred. My husband is the local GP so my delightfully charming little Miss Jekyll and Hyde is just too well idolised amongst the local medical community! As the youngest amongst eleven cousins and the only girl she is far too spoilt in terms of attention and own way even among her peers. The only one that won't stand any nonsense is the next one up - about 18 months older and they fight like cat and dog. The disbelief, exasperation and sheer disgust when she does not get her own way with him is a joy to behold! She is not spoilt in terms of material things or in routine at home, but she is so pretty and knows exactly how to work a crowd that even when she is at fault and has been put in "Time out" her brother will creep in and love her better because he cannot stand her to cry! Still, as you say, these children grow up into kind compassionate, sensible adults - my mother says I did anyway! Abigail

I don,t want to ask the obvious question Wendy,but does your doctor know about this ? i ask because if this child marks herself ,or hurts herself whilst doing this and the authorities don,t know ,you could land up getting blamed for the injuries.My youngest son had to convince his doc that the injury to his son was self inflicted ,and it wasn,t easy.Take care .the grandson had the same sort of trouble with his paddy,but has now grown out of it.Fred.

My little girl has been going through the terrible twos since she was about 15 months! The worst is when we are out and she is thwarted. 1. She will kneel on the floor or against something and bang her forhead against it. Hard. This really shocked one of my friends' husbands. 2. She bites herself and then the shock of the pain makes her cry. That brings her back down to earth and she asks for a cuddle. Tantrum over. All my mother can say that is helpful is: "Oh, it brings back memories!" Regards Abigail