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A good friend of mine does everything for her nan Her mum died young & she & her sister was raised by nan She has an uncle who does sod all for his mother & everything rests on her shoulders, and she has 2 kids age 9 & 3. Her sister has ms but is well & does some bits (very little). Her nan relies hevily on her & makes her feel guilty if she cant come round for a reason. Nan wont say a word against her son. 1st step is to tell all her children what is happening & voice your concerns. if they arnt interested , and your nan is still happy with the situation, stand back in the assurance that you have done all you can. and dont beat yourself up over it. people have choices and if none can make the right choices it not your fault. ps my brother in law cets cash for looking after MIL. but they never have any cash in there house as he spends it on himself. MIL wont have a word said against her beloved son (whos been in jail & once sent her a cheque for her birthday which bounced....) Elaine x

he does elaine he has 7 sister 3 live here in oz teh other 4 in the uk and if i told my mum she would go mad about him taking advantage of me but as for his drinking he has always done it used to be at night now its allday everyday cos he dont work now yesterday he called me at midday and he was drunk it just makes me mad that he gets paid good money to look after my nan and he buys booze with it and she still pays fro everything bills food etc but my nan wont have bad word said against him

Kylie You have your own family to worry about now, You are not responsable for your uncles actions. You go & do your best, and that is enough. Its your uncles place to look after his mother & the burden is not supposed to be yours. Brush the guilt aside. Has your uncle any other siblings you can talk to about this. there is obviously a problem with him that needs to be resolved for your nans sake Elaine {{{{HUG}}}}

as you all know i wasnt well yesterday and today i decided to go to my aunties house because i promised my uncle who is my nans carer that i would drop my nan of home after i been to my aunties and so i dragged myself out of bed and drove an hour to do this i had a lovely day with my nan and my auntie and my uncle left and said he had jobs to do ,then at 3pm i told my nan i gotta go now and she was ready i dropped her home which is about 10mins away from my aunt when we arrived there my uncle was very drunk and my nan is 87 is suppose to be looked after by him ,im mad cos he lied about having something to do (even though he is an acholic) and went home and got drunk i then drove away leaving my nan alone hoping she would be ok and cried all the way home i wish now i carried on driving with her to my house and not left her alone .im sorry to moan but i just feel so mad at my uncle for lieing to me and will now find it hard to trust him again even though i would still do anything my nana