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Gaynor --- you are a power to us all. Love to You, Rob and the family Malcolm & Pat

gaynor your honesty has touched me so much about accepting the enevitable which being me i could not cope.but just hearing your story has made me realise we're not immortal and it could happen to any one of us.i can say that i am very moved by all this and upset for you and even though i do not know you personally have shed a tear.but you want us all to be strong for you and to be there when your down just to be a shoulder to cry on and i speak not just for me but all the members we're here for you ,rob and your family anytime of the day or night.saying a prayer for you now.love and hugs lisaxxxxxxxx(:

My mate Gaynor - you are one incredible lady!! Lots of love Magsxx

Gaynor, I really wasnt sure of the extent of your condition.Now that I have read your thread,I am both shocked and in admiration of the way you speak and think.I only hope that you continue to find the strength and courage that you are displaying at the minute and my thoughts are for you,Rob and your children,to make every moment count.No doubt I am bad with words but I wish I had half your positive attitude and your courage.Love to you all,Fee B x

,Gaynor we are with you all the way.no matter what. and thanks for sharing it with us ,i won,t be complaining about my condition any more as i feel i would be letting you down,love and hugs,Fred,and Lizxxx

First of all, I don’t mind sharing this with you. Being honest and open does help me and after sooooo many emails – I know that many of you want an honest update on what has gone on. Some of you would have had an email after my lung biopsy – and what a palaver that was (and not painful at all – honest). For those of you not in the know : the biopsy results showed what appeared to be 2 primary cancers – a breast one and a lung one. They had 3 pathology experts opinions and then 5 oncologists discussed the case and as of this Tuesday – the cancer was in my oncologist’s terms – a “mish mash”. This meant that they were finding it difficult to know which way to go as in the concoction of chemo i.e. not knowing whether it is a breast or a lung cancer as the chemo would only hit one of them. Only one other test to do which might give direction. The results of that test came through today. The cancer is an extremely aggressive and invasive lung cancer (the primary) and the breast lump is a secondary. This does mean that my chemo concoction is now definitive and it will hit both tumours. The chemotherapy is palliative – it will NOT prolong my life. Here is the honest truth (which I have totally accepted now), my chances of surviving this VERY rare type of cancer are nil. To give you an example – Lance Armstrong’s chances of surviving his cancer was 40%, so a bit of difference there – and I am NOT being negative. So, that leaves me with approximately 9 – 12 months to live. Time to enjoy what I have left while I feel well enough to do it. Nope, I’m not gonna sit in a corner and hide. Nope, am not gonna tear around like the proverbial fly and wear myself out. And no, I am not scared of dying. My biggest worry? Husband Rob, I feel for him soooo much that he has to watch me go through this – and then he has to start again with a very different life. And there’s the kids too. And finally ……………… can’t wait for 16th October to meet so many of you. Much love and hugs – thanks for being there/here Gaynor xxxx

Below is a very candid update of where I am - if you get upset easily - don't read it, please.