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Hi Fee, Thanks for your reply. I don't think the thing she's missing is 'completeness' - more like a couple of screws!! She is obviously the sort of person who can't take a dose of her own medicine. Perhaps your husband ought to buy his girls a mobile phone to text them instead of writing and block her e-mail address too! How does she get away with him not having access to the girls when he is paying maintenance?? What a difficult situation for you to be in! - at least you and your husband have each other's support so she will find it very hard to drive a wedge between you - which quite honestly seems to be her aim. My daughter worked hard to get s-i-l out of the debt he had accumulated by giving in to ex's constant demands for more money. He really did make a generous allowance - and she still wanted more! She has no idea how to manage money - a lesson she will have to learn if my daughter and s-i-l stick to their guns! The children have so few clothes and look really scruffy it's such a shame but you can only do so much. She whines about them needing this that and the other - but on the other hand she spent over £500 on a Christmas present for her 2nd husband last year (!) Now I'm on my soapbox too! Magsxx

Oh Mags, Dont get me started on maintenance!Have your cake and eat it too springs to mind with my husbands ex.I used to get so upset at her constant intrusion into our lives and in how she treated my husband and all the underhand stunts she pulled.Once I learned to let it go over my head,it got easier to deal with and now I can see her for the person she is.She is the same age as me,has had a similar background etc. but God how we differ.She never seems to be content unless she is bullying someone.I know that she physically assaults people who upset her and if she can take you up for anything legally,she goes hell for leather at it.Its a reflection of someone who is missing that certain something,Completeness.

Hello Fee - I think you're brilliant for not letting it get to you! You remind me so much of my daughter. My son-in-law was married before and has two young teens that live with his first wife. She has married again too. They had a private agreement as far as maintenance was concerned and he gave a sizeable chunk of his salary to her each month regularyly as clockwork, never late, never short. (I could feed and clothe 6 kids on what he gave her!). They agreed between them (months beforehand) that she would forego August's money because s-i-l was taking both boys to Florida for a fortnight. The day they he got back he found that after 5 years she had gone to CSA - no discussion or warning! I don't think much of CSA generally but how it made me laugh when they awarded her less than s-i-l was already giving her!! Talk about shooting yourself in the foot. S-i-l played it straight - no fiddling of pay slips, they were given those with overtime on too but still it came out less. She has destroyed any chance of future 'extras' that she used to get on top of the maintenance- the goodwill (if that's the right term) has gone now. Bet your life she will ring and ask for a top up - she hasn't got a chance! One of her tricks when she doesn't get her own way is to ring s-i-l's mother saying that he is being unfair and treating her badly! I think even they have got wise to her now. My daughter goes out to work so that they can have a reasonable standard of living - perhaps the ex. should get off her a*** and do the same! Magsxx

Fee how awful for your hubby. This woman sounds like her own worst enemy........her daughters will one day grow up and realise she kept them from him. They may well resent her for it!! Much happiness Debi

Oh Ann, I could often have willfully strangled the lovely woman but I have grown to pity her as an individual.I agree,people such as her and your husbands ex do hate to see their ex's happy again.She doesnt want him but doesnt want him to be with me,I just get on with my life and smile when she shows her true colours.

Fee I had one like that in our early married year's, first wife couldn't stand hubby being happy with some one else and they were divorced before i met him--afraid I lost it a few times! Good job she didn't live near cos i would have slapped her!!! Hope that didn't offend but that's what I wanted to do.

Unfortunately she prevents him from seeing his daughters so I havent met them but I would welcome them into our home anytime.That bugs her too.Apparently they are nothing to do with me and I cant comment on them!She blocks her e-mail account so my husband cant reply to her e-mails to him,what a woman!

There are plenty of them out there babe but you should be so pleased that your hubby puts you first and shows you everything!! trust me I know one that doesn't!! Me giggling now so please don't think I'm twisting into an ex-sife!! ;O)

Fee you so have the right attitude. Just being nosey ( 'cos thats me all over ) do you get on well with his daughters? Much happiness Debi

Thanks Carol,I have learned to ignore this silly woman,she obviously doesnt realise this though!.She makes sure that any correspondance to my husband is addressed private and confidential to try and give me a dig not to read it.Well,he shows me everything so she is wasting her time and energy writing it .Dont get me wrong,I am sure not all ex's are the same but she is surely bitter and twisted.

Little boo was one yesterday,we had a party for him,blew up balloons,hung banners,let him rip all the wrapping paper off his presents,he loved it.he smeared cake everywhere and giggled at all the mess.We probably went a bit over the top but we love him to bits and you cant help spoiling you children,can you?

Hi Sheila, We had a lovely day,Boo really enjoyed the attention and the cake as it was everywhere.I know I am being provocative with the above thread but I am so happy with my lot,I cant understand how this woman cant concentrate on her own life and maybe she would enjoy it more rather than trying to destroy others.Thanks John,you made my day!

Awwwwwwww how old was he?

It sounds like your husband got the best woman - in the end!! How did you celebrate?

did the wee fella have a good day?

My husbands ex-wife must have nothing better to do than try and cause trouble.She e-mailed my husband yesterday on our sons birthday to remind him to send his daughters their letters this month.Now,from a woman who is that awkward that she couldnt lie straight in bed,thats a good one.I am constantly amused by her antics but yesterday topped it all off.I think she thought,oh,its their son's birthday,lets remind the ex about his daughters existence so he will feel guilty about enjoying being with his son.Well here I am talking about you love and it didnt work!I am just highlighting your pettiness for my own amusement.Get a life and enjoy your daughters and new son and forget the games.I hope this doesnt offend anyone on here.If it does,I will remove this thread at any time.