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The saddest thing that can happen after a divorce is for grandparents to loose contact with their grandchildren We are in this situation. My former daughter in law has moved from her former address and is making a new life,and I sincerely wish her every happiness. I understand her hurt and pain of the past,but why should my husband and I, WHO HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH THE EVENTS, WHY SHOULD WE BE PUNISHED FOR BEING MY SON'S PARENTS. Would some kind soul look up the Electoral Roll for Acle in Norfolk and find the address THEN we can continue to send birthday cards and gifts and he will know that we still love and care about him.I can supply information to anyone prepared to help.

I sympathise greatly with you both.My husband and I found his two daughters after five years seperation after much searching and disappointments.It is so difficult to find people who dont want to be found.It is always the children who lose out.I will try and help you in any way I can but have no access to look up info in Norfolk.If you want to,you can e-mail me and I will see if anything I know will assist you in your search,Best wishes,Fee B x

rosemary, the law is on grandparents side now, i am sure there is a new law that grants access to grandparents. maybe it is worth contacting a solicitors who offer a free consultation to see where you stand. i do hope it works out well for you. tracey x

I tried Acle for England - none found. If you want to send me an email with more info I will try and find them for you. Jane

Thanks to both of you,it was kind of you to reply. We can't be the only grandparents with this problem. I am happy to try and trace lost grandchildren in my area for anyone. I need someone who can help me in Norfolk

Me a step-grandparent to 4 and I have no rights to see mine!! It makes it all so horrible!! ;o(

I do empathise with you. My stepgrandchildren live in County Cork with their Dad, and we have not seen them for 4 years. It is very painful. Joy

It's an awful business and one where unless everyone is calm then there are no winners!! I hope you get to send them cards at least!!

I believe that Grandparents have some rights in the cases mentioned.Of course,the rights may be very limited but give it a try and go and consult a solicitor,it has got to be worth a try.

To all of you who have been so kind and helpful today our many thanks. We are beginning to be more hopeful about finding Oliver Many thanks everyone Edmund and Rosemary Fisher

Good luck with finding Oliver, I think my mum and dad are going to struggle to see my brothers daughter now he has split up with the mother, fingers crossed it wont come to that but i'm not too hopeful

I have heard of a group who help Grandparents and other family members try and get in touch with their lost relatives such as grandchildren following divorce.They are called Purple Hearts and I think you can access them through the Fathers4justice website.I havent looked them up so I am not sure if you have to subscribe but worth a look all the same,hope they can help,Love,Fee B x

My heart goes out to you all in this situation. We have experienced the good and the bad. I am very fortunate in as much as I have gained 2 beautiful grandsons. My son met a girl who had 2 lads and 4 years ago they decided to make a life together. My 'Daughter in law' (Calls me mum as both her parents have died within the last 2 years)was left by her husband when the baby was a few weeks old. The second father left when she was 5 months pregnant. Grandparents of the first boy live in the same village and do not even acknowledge his existence. His uncle lives 3 doors away and does the same. We haven't done much except love them, accept them as our own and treat them when we can. We have been told we are more like Grandparents to them than their real ones will ever be. I also have a Grandson that we know nothing of anymore. Serioulsy ill as a baby and in and out of hospital, his mum left my son for his best friend. To this day we do not know if he is still alive or not. One day I will find out. I hope you find your grandson. I cannot imagine having ever done that to my children or their grandparents. Good luck. Jacky

I cannot begin to imagine your pain and hurt. I'm a grandma myself and the mere thought of not seeing my grandson is unbearable. I hope you find out soon where he is and am able to see him. Thinking of you. Jo.

I cannot begin to imagine your pain and hurt. I'm a grandma myself and the mere thought of not seeing my grandson is unbearable. I hope you find out soon where he is and am able to see him. Thinking of you. Jo.

The group Fathers-4-Justice who demonstrated at Buckingham Palace the other day are also campaigning on behalf of grandparents who have lost/been denied contact http://www.fathers-4-justice.org/