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I've always been puzzled about the feelings between daughter in laws and mother in laws. I've never clung onto my son though I love him dearly and I've never interferred in their lives. Don't understand it really. Jo.

My parents-in-law are now dead. I got on extremely well with my mother-in-law Eddie (her full name was Edna Maud Doris, so you can see why she preferred Eddie!). I could talk to her about everything (including some things I couldn't discuss with my own Mum). We enjoyed the same books, we went to the theatre and cinema together and had the same sense of humour. She was a very bubbly, bright person, very caring of others and thoughtful. In her retirement she took up sculpture and had an exhibition, which she was very proud of. I am very glad that she was able to see her first grandchild (my eldest son) walk and talk, but I am sad he doesn't remember her. My father in law was very quiet and hardly spoke to me. However, when he visited me in hospital after I'd had my first son he gave me a huge hug and said "as long as you're all right". This meant a lot, as he and Eddie's first child died shortly after birth and Eddie herself nearly died. nell

lifes too short for fallings outxxx(:

LOL Di! I will recognise yours cos she will be with mine :)))) Jo - I think Shaz is right here, it's possible your dil is sat there thinking the same thing as you. Could your son perhaps mediate between you? There could be a simple misunderstanding that could be easily sorted out. Don't miss the chance to be involved with your grandson's life, they grow away so fast. My 16 year old can count on one hand the number of times he's seen his grandparents (on that side anyway!). Love Mandy xx

LOL ... Di :-)

watch out for my m-i-l on 31st Oct she will be out on her dyson lol

Oh Joanne do ask just incase she thinks you dont care... she may be saying.. they only live half an hour away yet she never comes to see her grandson. I havent spoken to my m i l for two weeks now but I make sure that her Grandson speaks to her every other day and has done since he was born, he is almost three. I never have a film developed without getting an extra set of prints for Nana and I then post them straight up by special delivery, I also put together a 3 hour video of him and the other children to send her every few months and of course I take him up to Scotland and often as is possible. Although she grates on me I do appreciate that she loves her son and Grandson and after all I too could be a Granny some day. Shaz x

In all fairness I have to say that my M I L did say that I was the best thing that ever happened to my hubby! She treats me well most of the time,, on my last visit as I packed everything into the car I looked back at her standing at the door and she waved and said Love You! I was about to just get in the car but then I ran back and hugged her and said Love You too! And deep down I do but she really does wind me up when she puts her Great Niece first all the time, especially when I know fact that her Neice does nothing but slag her behind her back and only uses her when she needs something. Maybe my angry would be better directed at the neice but when i do that Mum in law goes against me and I can hardley explain my anger without hurting mum in laws feelings!

My wife's inlaws are wonderful. Mine are good too. :-)

My daughter in law and I are so so different and it's such a shame as I would like us to be friends, after all we have something in common, Paul my son, her husband. Last year they made me a grandmother to a dear little boy. I love him to bits I really do. I don't see him very much at all and they only live half an hour away. I don't feel right about asking her if I can come over and see him. Jo.

Ann would you like to adopt my hubby and be my mother in law please!! This doesnt come down to just being a mother in law its her as a person and unfortunately she just happens to be my mother in law too :-)

lisa i have a lovely son in law, and 2 of my other kids, i get on with both future daughter in laws. its so nice. lol sandra

Jo I jump through hoops for M I L and am the one who pushes hubby to ring her and also I am the one who insists we never have a real holiday and we use all our spare time up by going up to visit.... I have children of my own Jo three of whom are sons and I always ask myself How I'd feel. I show her respect and although Hubby told her that if she ever got to the stage where she couldnt care for herself he'd put her in a home, I said over my dead body would she be stuck in a home and said I'd care for her! I still dont figure as much as her precious Great Neice!!

there are some good in-laws out there and i know there can be two side.hope i haven't offended anyone by asking the question.love and hugsxxxx(:

Thanks Joanne, I wondered when someone was going to come in on our side. My In laws are no longer with us and his Mumdied when she was only 48 so I only just knew her but she was lovely. And his Dad was Ok too. Hubby got on well with both my parents once we were married. My Daughter in law is lovely and I get on very well with son in law too. In fact we are going on holiday with daughter and family and this wont be the first time. I don't THINK I am a problem. Ann Glos

LOL Lisa I did say dont get me started.... Another thing... she insists she wont babysit for young children. I have to say that she does have very bad arthirtis and is a very very large lady so cant run around after little ones etc. I go up to Scotland as often as poss so she can see her Grandson and last Halloween I was invited to my own cousins 30th Party but no kids could go! Jimmy was a few weeks off his 2nd birthday and she said there was no way she could mind him even though 14 year old daughter was going to be there! 3 months later darling neice wanted to go shopping so M I L babysat for not only her 3 children but also her other neices 3... Ages of children???? All Girls aged 12, 7, 3, then the youngest 2 were 16 weeks and 9 weeks old!!!

sorry jo.it can be two sided .so have added another thread.love and hugsxxxx(:

You are all knocking the Mother in Law. I'm a MIL too, what about the Daughter in Law? It works both ways. Jo.

shaz you go girl.!!!see a problem shared .i bet you feel a whole lot better nowxxxxxx(:

Wow Lisa if I didnt know Barry was an only child I'd swear we have the same mother in law!! She thinks the sun shines out her neices backside and it doesnt!! She told us one day we had emabarrassed her neice because we gave each other a kiss in the park! I couldnt believe it and was tempted to say ..... Well I bet she wasnt half as embarrased as her father was when he was asked to step down from his position in the bowling club after she was caught having sex in the toilets there!!