General Chat

You lot are really great Thankyou. I have read and appreciated all of your contributions Thankyou Rose

Thankyou Jo,Ann and Bev such nice sentiments. I too have a very strong belief in the hereafter and can talk with her freely about this if this is what she wants. She was a very selfish person for most of her life and I think it has been very important for her to know that she has been forgiven,what after all were the actions of a very young widow during the last war. I told her today that she is very special to all of us, her family and that we all love her very much. Towards the end, all else seems to be of little importance. Rose

I think you are very lucky Rosemary and it's giving you time to prepare as well. Jo.

Hi Rose, I traveled nearly 200 miles to be with my nan in hospital, she was in a coma and I was told she could not hear me, but when I was holding her hand telling her that we all love her and talking about when we were kids and the things we got up to, remembering the holidays in her caravan, she would slightly move her fingers and make noises as if she was trying to talk, I told her I hope I can be as good a nan as she has been to us, I wanted some thing to eat (as I had not eaten since tea time the night before) so told her I would be back in about 20 mins, as she had been like that for over 24 hours I was expecting her to be the same when I got back, but just 5 mins after I left her she sliped away, I feel that she knew I was there with my eldest son, and she could here me tell her she was the best ever, she must have felt it was time now knowing that she had done a good job...she passed away just 9 days after her 95 birthday....god bless her. Rose your mom knows the time is coming soon, she also knows that she is loved remember that when the time does come, and be pleased for her that she can go at peace with the world. Bev

My mum saw the tunnel and the white light after she had my younger sister. It was a very difficult birth and she was in a lot of pain. As she tried to walk towards the tunnel a voice told her to go back - it was not her time. Typical of my mum, she argued a bit, said she did not want to go back to that body full of pain. But the voice was quite firm, it said she had a new born baby and three other children to care for, she had to go back. So back she came- and is still here 33 years later!!! She believes that her 'bed wasnot made yet upstairs,' but says she is not frightened of dying as it was a nice experience.

thanks Roxanne, It is good to share emotional experience. I had a very similar experience when my mother's second huband was taken ill. He had had a massive heart attack and I knew instinctively. I lived in Salisbury at the time and they were in Bath. I was 7 months pregnant and ad twins of a year and half to cope with. But I bundled all of us up and took the train and got there in time. He said he had been willing me to come.He was a lovely man. I was soglad I got there in time. He spoilt my Mum rotten, Rose

Thankyou very much for your kind thoughts.Ma and I have not been the closest Mother and daughter in our lives as she dumped me when I was tiny with my AUNT and her brood. Rita was what was described as a good time girl and I grew up feeling very much in the way. The past few years have been a getting to know you,and I think we reached a situation of unarmed neutrality.She did at one time say to me "Oh, you must have such a lot stacked up against me" In fact I havn't got anything stacked up against her. I think the sad thing is with all children who have a rough deal from their parents, they just accept it. Anyway I think we have been given time to salve wounds. Rose

Hi Rose i worked with the elderly so this isn't a shock to me,and not the first time i have heard this, she's ready to go and is preparing you for the day. My thoughts will be with you, enjoy the remaining wonderful time you have left, and take care sandra

Mum 90 is in Hospital after a fall last week. I have been visiting all week. Today when I was sitting beside her holding her hand.I noticed that she was very relaxed and very happy. We had talked about our little grandson,grt.grandson and family news. She suddenly went very quiet and very far away. She had a lovely smile on her faceand seemed to be listening to something or someone. Then slowly she turned to me and said "I have just been given a warning,I have three weeks to live" Shocked, I went with it and asked her quietly "Who told you this?" Thinking that she may have overheard a Dr.saying something. Without hesitation she contimued "The Angel told me" 'How do you feel about that 'I asked her as she was quite happy to talk . She replied"I have been told I've had a good life and must be ready to go. I'm quite happy you know. I don't want to go on and on " And with that she said 'I want to sleep now' So I kissed her and left. I was still stunned when I walked into a friend of mine who had moved off the Island onto the mainland and I went back to her house for a cup of tea. I thought how beautiful her hands were,not a mark on them and such beautiful nails What do you make of it. Rose