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of my pig of a boyfriend!I have been with for 2 and half yearsand we havent been right for a good few months now. The past two weekends he has been a nightmare! Even on my birthday the other week he was nasty to me, i just dont understand why? He wouldnt leave me alone last night until he made me cry and once he had done that, he then called me a child for being so upset, then 5 minutes later got upset himself and wouldnt stop saying sorry...i just dont get it! xxxx

Hi Steph, sorry to say that we're all the same sometimes. Especially if we think we've got the upper hand. how old is he

Hes 21. I just dont get it though Craig, he has no reason to be like this, i think he just likes to drag me down! xx

Hi Steedie Please don't be offended - but why do you put up with it and stay with him ? You deserve better than this treatment. Chrissie

Im not offended Chrissie! to be honest, i dont know why i put up with it! When he isnt like it, hes great, hes my best friend. Just not sure what to do! xxx

Sweetie.... me agrees with the others.... dump him, you are a gorgeous looking girl and you won't be on your own for long!! :O)

I know it is hard to leave someone that you are happy with when they are being nice but Carol is right, life can be miserable when you are walking on eggshells waiting for the next bad mood. Unfortunately, people like this very rarely change and revel in making those around them just as miserable. Chrissie

Steph... have already said my piece to you privately, but you can see everyone else seems to agree. You're worth more than that, you shouldn't put up with it. Paul xx

Wendy that's awful.... I do hope no damge was done!! Steedie, it's easy for us to say as I know walking is harder than putting up with it, but trust me it does get easier!! :O)

Yes, i can understand what your all saying, and i know you are all right! xxxx

looks like its time for a bit of change! lol xxx

Steedie - it could be that your boyfriend is insecure and, in some way, feels unworthy. His nastiness may be a way of 'testing' or 'pushing' you to see how much you'll take. When you naturally get upset, he is then guilt-ridden. I may be completely wrong, and am in no way excusing his behaviour, but I feel that if he was a truly 'nasty' guy you'd have dumped him already. I would challenge him about his behaviour, but make clear you find it unacceptable. Hope things work out for the best. Sheila x

dump him. x

Steedie, agree with everything thats been said---you're worth more than this, Karen

It really does sound like he's got emotional problems, and at 21 is probably too immature to deal with them. Things may never be diferent but try giving him an emotional "kick up the arse". Tell him to stop taking things out on you or else. Trouble is you,ve got to mean it. Craig

Craig, i will, and trust me, i will mean it! lol xxxx

Thats the thing, i know full well he isnt trying to do that, cos when i mention anything bout us having a little space, meaning i wont go over his till the weekend, he gets all upset and insists that he needs me and cant bare to be away from me for that long! wierd! xxx

Totally know how you feel honey! Have the same situation with my boyf and I think (not being sexist or ageist!) that it's probably he's age, boys in general are less mature at our age. My boyf has just turned 20 and has no idea how to be in a relationship half of the time (even though we've together for 2 years). You have a choice, hold on and wait for him to grow up (and put up with behaviour like his) or get rid of him! I'm still waiting for my man to emerge from the boy... becx

He's probably testing you and doesn't realise just how much it hurts you. Does he have confidence issues in general?

yes i think he does have a bit of a confidence prob! xx