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brian she will never leave u in a way because of ur love together and ur memories it must b so diffiicult at this time and im hopeless at putting stuff into words but i hope u realise that we r all here for u lou xx

written by Sir Laurence Olivier "Death is nothing at all. I have only slipped away into the next room. I am I and you are you. Whoever we were to each other we are still. Call me by my old familiar name, speak to me the easy way you always did. Put no difference into your tone, wear no forced air or solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be forever the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without effect, without the ghost of a shadow on it. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was, absolutely unbroken continuity. What is death but a negligible accident? Why should I be out of my mind because I am out of sight? I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner."

Brian, You will grieve when the time is right. There is no wrong or right way to deal with this. There is also no timescales. Rita will always be with you. At my Godmothers cremation , a Red admiral Butterfly flew into the Crematorium, just as the curtains began to close. Whenever I see a Red Admiral I feel that she is with me. Its funny realy because you only see them in the summer months and she hated the winter and cold.

Oh Brian, I do think you're being too hard on yourself. Rita IS free, and with you, she always will be. At least she's not suffering anymore. As someone said just now, it's still too raw for you and you need to do what you feel. She was obviously a lovely person for you to miss her so much. Look after yourself, and grieve when you feel you're able to. Have a bloody good cry, and don't "control" it Brian! You'll never lose her. Best wishes to you and the family, Glenys and Bob xx

Hi Brian, You will never lose Rita, she will always be with you what ever you do. Don't think about what you are doing, if you feel like smiling then smile, if you want to cry then cry. Above all give yourself some time. Jo.x.x.x.

Brian I believe in life after death. My mum passed to spirit at 38 the same age I am now. My dad was the same age. When we go, we are never far away, "just a whisper away" My dad went on to meet someone else, but never forgot my mum. nearly 24 years later my stepmum has also gone. I go to my spiritulist church a lot and over the years mum has come through (giving me personal proof that it is her). there have been times when I thought the same thing, would the link be severed between us and love be lost. Well i can say it never has, and I too can speak for my dad. You are just living a different way of life without her, it doesnt mean that shes gone, even if you may not feel her there. As your soulmate, she will be guiding you through life and would want you to live it to the full, just as mum did with my dad. Elaine x

brian grieving i feel is the love that you lost not to forget about her.from a person that really knows rita will always be with you.even though you cannot see her she will be there.they show signs just like when my friend died of cancer.she came to me in a dream to tell me that i could not come into where she was that her body was no longer there.but a month after she let me know that she was in something that she loved and i bought her to try and cheer her up .that was daffodils as they were so bright and cheered me up when i was down.now take into account that i had lived at my property for a number of years and daffodils had never grown in my garden ever.well sure enough she wanted me to know that she was still there in spirit but not in body.that spring daffodils grew in my garden both sides.two big ones and the little ones on the other side.from that day on i knew that she will always be with me for as long as i am on this earth until i meet her in gods house one day.believe brian.she is with you.love and hugsxxxxxxxxxx(:

Brian You are still in shock. Your loss is very fresh. Take each day as it comes. Everyone deals with the loss of a loved one differently. You are in my prayers, Brian. Anne

You are not being selfish at all. Although you may not think you are grieving, you are. Everything you are feeling is natural. God bless. Joy

Why can’t I grieve or Why I can’t grieve? For those who don’t know of me, my wife Rita died in 29 Oct. Since then I have come to letting my grief come out on many occasions, but I control it because I am frightened that I will lose her forever. It is said that when you dream that your spirit roams, connected to your body by a silver cord (chord?). During the weeks that Rita was in hospital the house, allthough empty of her person her spirit was still connected. The house still feels the same, she is still connected. I feel that if I grieve her departure I will break that cord and lose her. There again am I being selfish in holding her spirit to this mortal world? Should I grieve and let her go and be free? Should I grieve and let her go free? Brian

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