General Chat

Jean, i got myself into a bad situation when i was 16. I have been brought up knowing rights and wrongs, i was a tearaway when i was 15, (when i was living at my dads) but when i was 16 i thought i knew it all. Until i got myself into a bit of bother. I wasnt a tart at all, i went to my mum for help and thank god i know i can talk to her about anything. I just think that sometimes people need to remeber that we are all brought up differently, teenagers are jam packed with hormones, and if you tell a 15 yr old girl to do one thing, she is bound to the opposite! As i said before, as long as the baby is loved and is brought up well and has a happy life, that is what matters! xx

As the mother said, she cant watch her daughter morning noon & night. If her daughter wants to sleep with someone she will find a time and place to do it. It can take as little as a few minutes sex to produce a baby. That could have amounted to her being home just half hour late from school. Besides in this world there are many adult "Tarts", who should know better. Men and woman alike. And many who breed just for benefits. ( not meaning those with large families who support them) Elaine x

sO HAVING A BABY OUT OF WEDLOCK IS A NEW PHENOMENA IS IT? ARE WE NOT DOING FAMILY RESEARCH ON THIS SITE.? I am probably your age Bob,but I can remember that little ones were born our of wedlock then just as now. And our family trees are full of close calls.I thought we had moved on in our understanding of the human condition.Mistakes are made and always will be made,sometimes passion kicks in before common sense. I am pleased to see that the girls family are supportive and that the baby will be loved. I remember only too well a less tolerant and LESS understanding attitude, where girls were sent away to have a baby which they were then pressurised into giving up for adoption and where a 'love-child' was tainted with the stigma of illigitimacy for the rest of its life. Please God we never do tht to the innocents again. Perhaps in this case the girls mother should give her better contraceptive advice and she should have prepared her daughter better. As I said many times I had an army of sons and we did give them proper sex education.One of the things we impressed onour boys was that THEY,not the girl were the source of life and should not bring a child thoughtlessly into this world. This girl is not a tart,but misguided by the one person who should have prepared her for life. Her own Mum Rose

i think that when she had the termination it would have been traumatic but at fourteen you know about precautions.yes it does take two to tango but if she keeps the baby who will pay for the childs upkeep.her parents should have some responsibility in the cost and welfare of the childxxx(:

well said Jean x

Jean, my point exactly.

You can talk to most teenagers till youre blue in the face and they will still go and do what they want after smiling sweetly and agreeing with every word you say. I know a few teenage girls who have become pregnant and they come from perfectly respectable families and have parents who care and do their best for them. As a mother of 2 girls who havent yet reached their teens i'm inclined to keep my mouth shut when i hear about a teenage pregnancy cos ive no idea what i might have to face when mine get older. I also have a teenage son (nearly 17) who is very interested in girls at the moment and can only hope that he is sensible enough to make sure contraception is used, but not being there with him at the time there is not much else i can do about it.

Lynda that is precisely my point, she is now, 15 still under the legal age of consent...........is it becoming ok for school children to behave like this? just ignore it? I suppose it is.....you cant get some of them to put litter in a bin, let alone have some kind of morals........... Paul, I WAS giving her some small benefit of doubt there..

why do you keep saying two mistakes ? Clearly reading the text, she planned the second one. thats not a mistake is it (depending on how you look at it)

One mistake, yes........BUT her so called carers should have clued her in to all sorts of contraception........two "mistakes"? I am sorry, but I am one of The "Old School" I believe that a job should come alongside a relationship/courtship then marriage, or at least a real longterm situation before children are involved............but then.........I am an old fogey, I suppose Lynda that is true, boys dont get pregnant, they can walk away........its the young tender female that in MY words "has to carry the can "whether the child is loved or not..........

Why is it that nobody seems to mention,"Prosecution"for Underage Sex with a Minor? Not in just this case,but many others.It seems to me that these children are in need of some "Care and Protection"Mainly from Irisponsible Parents. Hal.

I think tart is rather harsh Bob. We all make mistakes. Jeanette x

A close friend of mine got pregnant when she 15. She was confused, and yeah, she had been stupid and didnt use protection. She ended up having a termination, and has regretted it ever since. Now im not saying that this was the right thing to do, but she regretted it so much, she got pregnant again, this time on purpose, she had just turned 16. She is now 21 with two children, and is living what she feels is a great life. She loves being with her children, they are well loved and their father is one of my best friends. This girl is young, full of hormones and dont forget, we are not all brought up the same are we!? Maybe she is a tart, maybe she isnt. But as long as that child has a good life, full of love and affection, thats all that matters! xxxxxx

I think tart is a little strong. Stupid perhaps. one thing though - she didn't "lose" the first child, she aborted it... I know emotionally that may not matter to the girl, but the difference is there all the same. I know from personal experience that after we lost a pregnancy (late on) my wife wanted to get pregnant again as soon as possible.

Well. I think its sad, that a young girl has to get pregnant, to look for some kind of love and affection that is obviously missing in her own life. I was also pregnant just before i was 16 and i was not a tart and i think that is a harsh term for whatever reason.or point is trying to be made sandra

I think its sad. many a time young women who have had terminations, especially young girls, later look to replace the baby theve lost. People call her a tart, but what does this make the lad who made her pregnant ? Lets not forget that hormones rule your head at that age, and many a girl has got "Caught out" . Doesnt always make them a tart though. Just remember you can get pregnant at the first attempt, It doesnt always mean months of sleeping around with whoever to do it. Elaine x

shouldnt think she had time for Eastenders.........

She must have been watching Eastenders. Jo.

14 when she had a termination arranged by a school health worker earlier this year. She allegedly plans to keep the new baby, which is due in July - just after she finishes her GCSEs. Her mother told BBC News: "Me and my family are supportive 100 per cent. We'll be there for her - like we said previously." She added: "She's 15, she made her own mind up. She was hell-bent on replacing the one she lost, basically. "Other than strap her to her bedroom or follow her around with a camera 24 hours a day, I don't see what else I could do as a parent."

I see that the teenager that had the secret abortion is pregnant AGAIN........... I have bowed to the pressure, and modified the title..or mustnt I say "stupid" because she is probably quite intelligent, and maybe she's not so little..........cant say "typical" because that may not be true.........either. Ah! Irresponsible? dunno,