General Chat

My daughter made an interesting comment to my hubby over the weekend - thought it an interesting subject, here goes: She told my hubby that mum tells me not to meet people you talk to on the internet, but mum's going to meet people in London that she don't know and she shouldn't do it - apart from being a cheeky madam she has a point lol What do you think Jo xx

lol she has hasn't she grrrrr Jo xx

thanks for that Lynda, I did tell her that I'm an adult and more able to judge situations lol I hope lol

Hi Jo! I think you get a feeling of whether things are right or wrong and if we were uncomfortable with it we wouldn't entertain the idea. People who go to these meets are for the most part people we chat to regularly through these boards and on messenger. I suppose there is always the danger that we could get it very wrong some time but meeting in a public place ought not to be too dangerous. If you are being picked up to be taken, it's probably best to at least chat on the phone or meet in a public place first. I know Jill from Bristol's family had the same reservations when we offered her a lift to Gaynor's do. We met in a department store which gave us both the chance to pretend we had 'missed' each other if there had been any doubts at all. What a shame that we have to think this way - an unfortunate fact of life these days! Magsxx P.S loved the photos!

Bendy she is 12 nearly 13, and obviously has her head screwed on lol

Mags it is a shame isn't it, but its how we have to bring up the kids nowadays isn't it? Poor things seem to be looking over their shoulder all the time, not a nice world today is it lol

Bendy that's excellent lol

Jo - I know! Just need to train my husband to be so aware! Before she was married, my daughter phoned for a lift home from a club as she wasn't feeling well (migraine not drunk lol) so he tells her that he will meet her in the usual place (the after shopping pick up)- a dimly lit car park that she had quite a walk to get to, on her own, through the city centre, at just before midnight!!! - what an idiot (I called him something MUCH stronger) - I did my crust!!! Magsx

Mags I can imagine what you said lol did he ever get his hearing back lol

Hearing??? Hearing???? - he was lucky he had a bl**dy head left! lol Magsxx

Serious point though, we should all apply the same rules to ourselves that we recommend to our kids. If you are going to meet someone - particularly one on one - always meet in a public place and make sure that you tell someone else exactly when and where you are meeting. Its just common sense really and better to be safe than sorry. After all, until we DO meet, none of us really knows anything about the others apart from people's board names and what they say about themselves. Maz. XX

That's very true Maz good point

Well, i agree that we need to protect our kids and make them aware of the dangers. I wouldn't be happy if one of my kids met someone off the net. But then i am being a hypocrite as i didn't practise what i preach, I met Martyn through genes on my own and we spent the day/night together but then i'm 43 and you can only die once, and we had spent a month emailing and talking on the phone. We are close friends and see each other a couple of times a week, also i went to the Maidstone meet, but then i had communicated with alot of them before hand. sandra

Please tell your daughter that she is right. When we first started having these meetings we were very wary and only met in very public places, never singly always as a group. now at most meetings there will be several who have met before. The important thing is, if you are to be given a lift and have not met the person before, if noone can vouch for that person, do meet somewhere in a public place and make sure people at home know who you are meeting. Please tell your daughter too that she should not copy what we do but do what you have taught her. Sometimes we are not a good influence for our young people. Ann Glos

jo i think she is right.but cannot see the harm in a meet as long as you take someone along with you.but she had a good point.you could all be axe murderers !!!!xxxx(:

Thanks for your points of view everyone